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Downloaded it from ibooks. Thanks for letting us know about this. There's the same book for the Sleeve but had no idea there was one for RNY. I thought I knew of all the RNY books out there.

Do the fat free sour cream with the onion Soup mix

Switch therapists....one that specializes in eating disorders.

i had surgery yesterday drinking an walking gas out is the key wow ready yo go home

I do not eat fast food but if I had no other choice I would go for the salads, or grilled chicken etc. etc. The FF places are offering more healthy choices now.

I'm per op and I stopped doing fast food many months ago. I try to eat clean.

I didn't need any help at all. But my children are all adults. If I had children under 3-4yrs I would have sought help. Young children are a lot of work and toddlers/babies need to be lifted and carried. They're probably over the weight limit for lifting. Talk to your doctor about your weight and time limits for lifting your baby. Good luck!

Thank you! I feel more different than I can tell a difference, and it also helps I fit into clothes I haven't been able to wear in almost 3 yrs lol

So went for my year and half check up today. Dr gave my before pic he had taken on e day I decided to have rny. I just wept... Oh how my life has changed!!!
date of surgery 02/21/12 surgery weight 340 lbs. current weight 146 lbs

Today I reached my first goal at 199! My start weight was 240, Im so happy, After stalling for almost 2 weeks i took a step back and reevaluated myself, didnt weigh myself for a week and now im under 200 my next goal is 175, these are some pics of how I look now, I dont really see a difference but I definitely lost my stomach

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Dreams awaken.... Powerful message!!! Thanks for sharing and good Luck on this journey
date of surgery 02/21/12 surgery weight 340 lbs. current weight 146 lbs

As a recovering addict/alcoholic, with over 15 years clean... I can say its very simple, not easy at all, but simple: when you get sick and tired of being sick and tired, the pain is greater than even the tiniest pleasure or comfort you get from food(or whatever it is we use to 'feel better')... you have the shame, guilt that adds another 100lbs onto your spirit... You want to go to bed and not wake up tomorrow....you have that moment you look in the mirror and don't recognize yourself, dont like what you see....but know deep down where that shred of hope and belief in yourself...that somehow the person on the inside who you believe in, you once were, you dreamed of becoming is still in there, and is crying out for one more chance at change, wants out of the self made prison.... THATS WHEN YOU KNOW YOU ARE READY, and you will be willing to do whatever it takes to change. Whether its food, cigarettes, drugs, overspending, booze, sex, co dependency.... Addiction is addiction....period. Sure, drinking oneself to death or smoking crack, doing pills etc is more obvious, more harmful...way lower bottoms to hit. But, I have found that focusing on the substance, or the "what" we are addicted to is irrelevant... Its addiction. We are powerless over the ADDICTION , & it makes life unmanageable. Addiction is not limited to drugs, cigs, food, booze, etc.... We can always trade one for another, and unless we grasp what addiction or having an addictive personality is about, that will make life unmanageable too. Its emotional, spiritual, physical.and mental.
For me, the 12 steps in the "A" programs work (oa, na, aa, etc).. The principles in the steps WORK. Never been to OA...not always thrilled with my own fellowship... My experience with those (incl me long ago) that have said this isnt for me usually werent entirely ready or thought they could do it on their own, or control it. But the same steps and principles, support, meetings, etc I have learned from and practiced for the last 15 yrs that have successfully kept me from using/relapsing....and gave me another shot at life... Are working for me in this journey too.... Rehab was a tool to start me off on the right track 15=yrs ago. It was up to me to continue to do what i needed to do to stay on that path, change, grow, heal...let go of past crap, live differently, make new habits etc.. Change people, places, things....even now. This surgery is a tool for me to get on the right track...because I know and accept I cant do it on my own...like you said food is everywhere, we need it to live...and its easier to.cheat or "relapse" on a cupcake.(or 10) than it is on a drink or drug. Not as much to lose.... Or is there???? Why OA is kinda unrealistic, imho. However, support groups, or a 12 step group that doesnt focus on specific substance, etc are essential, for me. Self sufficiency is a lie. We need each other, people who "get" it...the real it ... Addiction is a feelings disease. I can empathize with someone who shared about pretending to order food for a couple people in the drivethru, when in reality it was all for them... I never did that, but I can look at the behavior, the shame, guilt, feeling of degradation and despair it caused, and relate 100%..
I never thought I was a food addict, but the reality is that I am.. I like and want whatever makes me feel good, takes me out of whatever reality I dont wanna deal with, or need to numb. I usually eat well, yet if over emotional, stressed, etc...i tend to say "f" it, and eat whatever. I wont trade my clean time/sobriety for anything....but you can be sure Id break an eating plan or goal for a box of HoHos or pizza/wings in a second.... Until I realized that was keeping me trapped in a cycle of failure.....just like i was using. I ended up losing myself again, in a fetal position, crying every day... Once again looking in the mirror, saying WTF are you doing ??? You got clean, did all this work on your self with the steps, therapy, go to meetings drinking crappy coffee...have changed your life, in so many ways... To stay stuck again...to hide the beautiful person you are behind all this fat?? Settle again for just enough to get by, not being all you want to be?? (Thats my key...hiding behind the weight, more afraid of success than failure... Something inside still not feeling worthy...)
And that was my "bottom" that led to this... So approaching it just like i did the drugs/booze and getting "clean". A lot of recovering people get this surgery...i have at least 6 friends in my network, and met another 5 or 6 at the NA world convention .."randomly" a few wks ago....and its not random. I got my approval on 8/29 while at that convention.... My HP (God for me) put people in my path all weekend that had had WLS, and where it came up in conversation....out of 18000 peeps there... My friend i was there with doesnt get it, questions my decision...and it was affecting me a bit....but BAM, there were peeps who got "it", lived it, were in the process who I just met that built me back up... So, there is something to giving it over to some power greater than ourselves, regardless of who or what that is.
Sorry....long. Addiction is just something i understand all too well... Luckily, I also am continuing to learn what recovery, change, growth, etc is even better. thats my two cents....or ten cents, lol.

I just received an e-mail from my clinic that they are submitting my stuff to the insurance today or tomorrow! Please keep me in your prayers!!!

Tada!!!!
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Wrist circumference and frame size.

I think there is some way that you can measure your wrist or hip bones to determine whether you are "big boned" or not. Maybe look on the internet.

I was so lucky, I was back to work in one week, had minimal pain and my recovery was VERY fast. I did exactly as my surgeon said and it was smooth sailing. I would do it again in a second !!!!

It also depends in which Cigna plan....requirements vary significantly from plan to plan....don't freak yet! Good luck!!!

Hi I am new to this forum and my surgery is scheduled for Tuesday September 17. Good luck to anyone else who also has this surgery date.

Good luck Audrey!!

I am set to have my surgery October 7 . I have so excited to began this new journey of my life. I have always been a big girl but after the surgery I can Finley unzip my fat sute once and for all lol. I have been reading posts that are very incourgeing and hopeful that I have made the right choice for me. I would like a surgery buddy lol....

I wanted to live to a "ripe old age". And diabetes scares the hell out of me. Having been obese since childhood I knew I was playing a game against the clock and time was running out to lose weight before I start seeing the real consequences of my poor eating habits. I also want to have kids and give my husband that gift, and I can't do that at such a heavy weight. Even if I could, I wouldn't be able to run after and play with them and care for them as well as I would if I was smaller. What kind of life would that be, you know? So these are all my motivations.
I'm just 3 weeks post op and I absolutely still have that need inside to eat more than I can handle. However, now if I go one bite too far I am in SO much pain. I also have the fear of vomiting, dumping, blockages, and hospitalization if I don't do what I am supposed to. Those are very powerful motivations for me.
And let me also say, it is so awesome to start seeing my clothes get baggy, and my face thin out. Seriously. It just makes me happy to finally be getting somewhere. It's also nice not to feel like such a pig anymore when I eat, because my meals are minuatures now :-).
Think about what motivatates you, what do you want out of life, and what goals you want to set for yourself. If having a gastric bypass will help you reach those goals, then do it. Obesity has a much higher mortality rate than gastric bypass.

I agree with all the other posters ! But I would also like to say that for many people how you think of food after rny changes. For once in my life I look at food and think what do I need to get in in order to make my body function correctly I am never hungrey and eating dose become almost a chore at times. You will think way more about food after rny everyday I think what do I have to eat today I think about what is the best to eat because if I can only eat 1 cup of food per mealI am going to make sure it is something I really enjoy and will be good for me. I have a good friend who had lap band and she sneaks food all the time the slider foods she eats would never fly after rny I would be so sick she says all the time she wishes she had rny. It is a way different tool then lap band. You will have to talk with your doctors about what can fill the need to eat . I know weighing my self has become more of a addiction and working out .i have become way more social since losing 120 pounds so that helps with some of the depression issues I had before. Best if luck in which ever path you chose !

I agree that all of us have an addiction to food. This is why we all are in the shape we are in. Sounds like you are willing to do the leg work to research rny!!! Please do. A year and a half out and i still google new things I hear and read every article I can on successes and failures of gastric bypass. You are the keeper of your own destiny. This is a tool. But you have to use it correctly. If you try and cheat the tool you will end up with poor results. How bad do you want this???? Do you want to love the new you??? I promise is has been e best decision I have made. I had lost all sense of feeling full and rny gave me that back. You have to follow your doctors protocol to be successful. You have to have the want to to do this. It is and can be life changing but it is hard work. You have to be mentally ready for it. You will mourn your old friend food but you will find a new you.. One at likes other things besides eating. Good luck on your decision
date of surgery 02/21/12 surgery weight 340 lbs. current weight 146 lbs

As I'm sure you are well aware of, when you suffer from an addiction, only you can help with that addition with a lot of professional people on stand by. It is not a easy process nor a short one. It will take months to get to where you need to be to succeed. You had a lapband unfilled which didn't accomplishment anything but propably made you fill like a loser. Now on to RNy. These are only tools, you have to control what you put in your month, and how much. You have to comit to how much time you want to spend excerising. It is a tool, if left idol, as with the lapband, it will do nothing.You have to do the work and if you don't think you can then don't do it until you are ready,.