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This is my major irrational fear...for there are many but this one is a serious concern for me.. I've been with my husband for going on 18 years, since the 10th grade and even then, he has always been a fan of the heavier women. He loves my size, he touches me constantly and holds me close every chance he gets...My fear is that he will secretly not admire me the same. If I know his preference and I do this surgery, am I setting myself up for issues within my marriage? If your husband loved you thick, have you noticed any differences since the weight came off?? I just feel like this fix will be physical and now I will be faced with so many mental challenges...

If I want to thicken up just a lil bit, could I just skip a few workouts and gain? My post op sleeve buddy says she kept losing even when she didn't want to and even while pregnant, she continued to lose. Is there a way to gain easily? My concern is getting too small and then having personal issues with that. Being skinny has no appeal to me...I don't want this surgery to heal my issues physically then cause mental issues that I've never dealt with before. How much control do we have with the sleeve?

You two look great!! I absolutely love this pic!!

Ok so ladies....update please!! How'd it go? How do u feel? What if any complications are u currently experiencing? Tips or advice?? Are you settling in well?

I can imagine ur anxiety....I'm only on my last appointment before submission and I am completely obsessing over it every moment. I have been at work for the past 3 hours and have not yet looked away from this site. It's completely overwhelming me now that I see an "approval" in my very near future...i have definitely worn my support system out with fears, concerns and possibilities...lol, but they listen! I love them for that!! I feel like I feel every pound I drop and have to tell someone, show someone or zone out and fantasize about the next pound. What's crazy about all this is I've never ever been obsesses with my weight, I actually loved myself so much, I never noticed how out of hand It had gotten...but now, i see a better future for myself and ANTICIPATION is my middle name!!! Now, i'm on here to bug you guys with every waking thought...submission for me is 1/31/14 and im counting the seconds...lol

That is a lot of money to pay outta pocket but before you do, Check out some of the top surgeons in Mexico. I know about 8 people who've went what I call is "the easy way", you wont have all the hoops to jump thru as my insurance company will give you. Your cost is about $10,000 cheaper and the results are the same..my girls actually look great!! Some frown at the thought but they are real doctors and do maybe more surgeries than the doctors in our neighborhoods. Just options but your should research the "other" doctors.... Good luck!!

I haven't been sleeved yet but I can see that this issues becomes an issue for most. What I've seen to remedy this is as LindafromFlorida mentioned.....Start back at the beginning....protein shakes should replace a meal or 2 until you see your desired results. Then as Gmanbat mentioned, use the tape measure. It has always been the one on my side as my scale, clearly isn't..lol, no matter how hard I work out or eat right...it only shows in the way my clothing fits, never on the scale... Good luck and be sure to come back for motivation as much as possible, this is the place!!

Wow, I can't wait to have that success story to tell!!

I'm sorry to hear things didn't go as planned. Hope it all works out for the better. When I was doing my research on what was the best procedure for me, I did notice many Sleevers were previous Banders. Issues with erosion and slippage seemed to blanket that community, along with fills and refills. Most switch due to the more permanent solution with less follow ups and great results!! Also with the sleeve, you get great restriction and can still eat just with limited portions. Maybe you should reconsider your doctors suggestions. Just my 2 cents. Good luck on whatever choice you make!!

thanks....this would be great. I will do it...

I haven't had my surgery yet but knowing the issues I've had in the past, I sure thought I was going to get nothing but positive responses but NOPE!!!! I was shot down and the smile wiped right off my face with the reactions I got. I even officially lost a friend over this. She feels like I should continue to suffer on yo yo diets with her forever just because her insurance doesn't cover it. She told me I don't need surgery we can fix this but your weight is from your 3 month old and can go away with work, mine is from a lifetime of damage and I need to lose way more than her lil 40lbs. I've decided not to tell anyone else, I cried. It hurt to learn that people may only support you as long as your in a bad situation right along with them...smh.

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Thanks for this, I was wondering about the cravings. I am not much of a sweets eater other than golden oreos...lol!! but my problem is being a New Yorker, I love Pasta and pizza omgness...the smell of garlic is gonna drive me wild..lol. But to know I can still eat them on occasion but in smaller amounts makes me happy. I will still want my favorite meal from Carrabbas for my birthday but now, I will literally take all day long to eat it and have left overs!! Works for me!!

Sodas, lemonade, iced tea, lots of milk but for the past 2 months its been nothing but Water and when I thought I was going to gain from eating more regularly, at the weigh in I had actually lost 1.5lbs. And now for some reason I refuse to drink anything but water...feels good to my body!!

Yes today was visit 4 of 6. My nutritionist explained that to me when we discussed my daily intake and changes made from then til now...I lost instead of gaining and she was proud knowing how hard it was for me but my game changer has been...absolutely nothing but water!! I was happy to notice that such a small change could make such a huge difference. I actually feel better with that coupled with no cigarettes. Baby steps...

Take a bow, couldn't have said it better...my mom is more upset then me but she's pissed saying "and that's where u wanna go for encouragement and advice" I have noticed the trend of calling people delusional and in denial, also telling their story as if its the obeseity anthem but your story is yours and mine is mine..I'm not here to lie, u were once in my shoes with different laces, its ok to disagree with what I say but remember how delicate this topic is for some. I came out my shell to talk to peers...plz don't make people retreat!

Absolutely. We all should be responsible for our own issues..yours are not mine and mine are not urs. From what my doc told me, I was drinking my calories. I'd rather drink then eat most times and never ever drank Water. So I understood...I gained..but now I'm doing what my doctor, my nutritionist and I feel will help. It seems like ppl on here want to make accusations that we all do the same things. I've never been a binge eater but its obvious some ppl are and I feel like until I say I'm just like them, then there will continue to be these types of responses. But I'm still not...makes me no better by far..but still different. That should be ok..

Thanks for that info...I hope mine goes!! Lol

I'm hearing that Kaiser is great when it comes to Bariatric Surgery. I hear that when we complete the mandatory 6 monthly appointments we will pretty much have met all requirements and won't be denied but they just may add additional appointments before they put your case up for approval. I have Kaiser Mid-Atlantic and I wonder how long after you submit paperwork will you get a response. Once you get the response, how long before you get a date??

Yes sir, no more over extension!! Time to teach your princess how to help dad change the oil...start em young!! Thanks for letting me know now that my normal super woman attitude just won't cut it this time..lol, I will just spew orders to the fam all day long like they do me, lol... Get better!!

Congrats to u!!! Best of luck..

U make some truly valid points as well...I hate that people think u only get fat from over eating. I actually hate to eat but when I do eat, I like it to be good so that's when I do the wrong things...I would get exactly what I want regardless of nutritional value and that would be around 10 at night when I finally get home..and never drank Water at all..all a recipe for disaster..I'm so ready for change..

Wow, I've been reading all these comments over and over and I hope everyone else that reads it learns something. Everyone has their own reasons why they are here. Your reasons may not be anothers. Some are on medications, some have immobility issues, some are overeaters and eat for boredom and emotional reasons, some just don't have proper nutritional intake and some have genetic issues...please notice these differences and try not to stigmatize!! It's not helpful to insinuate people are liars, maybe they just not living YOUR life...not doing what YOU did!!

I spoke with my doctor this morning. She said my thyroid is fine and that she's checked that evertime I've done blood which was done late September and we do it almost every other month. Doc says the weight gain is most likely from the limited mobility due to my fibromyalgia. I've definitely slowed down a lot...Ive never been an over eater, I just wasn't eating the proper foods and that coupled with lack of exercise and late night dinners has made me this way. My hate for food may be why I chose to eat less, I always knew it wasn't good food goin in so I never ate a lot.. For all those that say I'm not being honest with myself, understand this, I am not here to give a false image, I'm looking for advice and encouragement. Whatever u did to gain weight is what u did, I know how I got here...lets stop insinuating I am a liar. Thanks for all the advice. I now know its not my thyroid. My doc says that since I've started my meds for the fibromyalgia, it will allow me over time to be able to work out and that mixed with the surery and my new eating habits will help me get my life back..I jus hope she's right. Also it will prevent my family history diseases, and assist with infertility issues..weight loss is the cure for way too many things..lol.