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Not one regret! I'd do it again in a heartbeat, and wish I didn't wait as long as I did.

My ONLY regret, is that I didn't do it sooner!

If the NSAIDs are a big part of your life, that basically means SLEEVE all the way! The RNY isn't "reversible" either, and if something goes awfully completely wrong, you can still change sleeve to RNY. You can't really change RNY to sleeve, especially not with insurance coverage and a LOT of really dramatic issues.
Most people say they only wished they'd gotten surgery sooner - for me, I am so glad I got the sleeve. I love this thing... I hate the idea of my guts being rearranged, can't stand the idea of a permanent plastic doohickey inside me.... But sleeve was like "oh, that's perfect!"
I'd leave it up to your NSAID use. If you can switch to another type of painkiller, that's one thing, but if NSAIDs are a big part of your world, definitely go with the sleeve.

Thanks guys. It was definitely a WTF moment. She's heavy too and we've done a lot of programs together in the past like WW, gym, and even going to a diet Dr. for pills,etc. This is a journey I took solo and I think like what some of you said that it's more about her than me. I'm choosing to view it this way and will see how things go. I'll see her this Friday just the two of us, so hopefully I'll get a better sense of her attitude. Either way I'm moving forward, getting healthy, and feeling good.

I think you handled it VERY well. Personally, I would have told her to SUCK IT.
If she says it again, go my route. It's not as mature, but it's much more fun.

One thing I was not prepared for was the emotional part of this journey.
When I was 2 weeks post-op, I felt overwhelmed. Trying to get the Protein and liquids in is a full-time job - the logging/tracking gets to be a chore.
But, please believe me when I say - it will get better. I'm nearing the 6 month mark next week. Honestly, I really don't feel like a weight loss surgery patient any more. This is my new normal. I'm not saying I haven't been frustrated with slow loss, angry that I can't eat faster or something that I crave - that happens. But, I can say with all honesty, my life is so much better today than it was 6 months ago.
Hang in there, sweetie. You're doing great - get thru the new few weeks as best you can. Be kind to yourself. Make sure you follow your doctor's/NUT's orders.
You got this!

"...£5000 dent in my bank balance" - as you pointed out this is costly both time and money. It's an investment in oneself. whatever brought you to making the decision to have the surgery in the first place must be your foundation for moving forward with the commitment. Yes, life gets in the way, some of us may be emotional eaters but you did well the first two weeks. You have to take that gumption and roll with it.
I have not had the surgery yet, but I have been on the pre-op diet for 2 weeks and have another 2 weeks to go. Everyday, when I am down and hungry (I least I think I am or be it head hunger) I look at all of my photos and see that very unhappy person who wants to live a better life. I fill my day with activities that wont allow myself thoughts of food. I only keep what I need such as shakes and Soups - not too appealing or dangerous.
Elaine, I wish you much luck and wellness!

There is such a thing as head hunger. We use food to fix all our problems..It does not do it.
I would think about the abuse you are doing to your sleeve. You have not even healed yet. Also whatever you thought would happen it is a tool not a miracle fix. You get the sleeve and that is where the real work begins. This is where you start to learn about your new buddy and feed it properly. The pureed stage is important because it is slowly bringing your stomach back to real food.< /p>
You won't be able to fix your body until you fix your brain and the way you see food. Yes you have a new condition to work with but there will always be something to test our resolve to stay true to the program. Some people never lose the hungry feeling. Some people can eat anything and it does not bother them. That does not mean that you should.
Think about why you did this. Why you wanted to improve your health over all and mark this day and tell yourself you can do this.....
Start logging your intake. Put Protein in the front. ( dense Protein ) when you get back on track. Water 64 oz and then add veggies, fruit and complex carbs. There is no way that a person can eat at your stage what you are eating and not have issues. How you feel about food changes when you change. when you learn what the triggers are for you. When you stop using food as the answer to every situation that does not go well.
Your not alone. We are here and will encourage you to start again at your next meal. There is never failure it is a postponement of sorts. Your sleeve is still there...Use it wisely and fix your thinking.....

Thanks, things are going well.

I won't miss:
4X clothing
Seat belt extenders on planes
Having to sit next to my thinnest child on planes so I can spill over into his personal space
Having to stand at school open houses and parent teacher conferences because I don't fit in the student desks
Not being able to go to concerts and sporting events because I can't fit in the seats or can't stand foe extended periods of time
Not being able to join my family on biking and kayaking adventures
Not being able to keep up with my family on vacations to Disney World

I won't miss:
4X clothing
Seat belt extenders on planes
Having to sit next to my thinnest child on planes so I can spill over into his personal space
Having to stand at school open houses and parent teacher conferences because I don't fit in the student desks
Not being able to go to concerts and sporting events because I can't fit in the seats or can't stand foe extended periods of time
Not being able to join my family on biking and kayaking adventures
Not being able to keep up with my family on vacations to Disney World

No offense, but that is what people with eating disorders do. Not a good strategy!

I won't miss:
4X clothing
Seat belt extenders on planes
Having to sit next to my thinnest child on planes so I can spill over into his personal space
Having to stand at school open houses and parent teacher conferences because I don't fit in the student desks
Not being able to go to concerts and sporting events because I can't fit in the seats or can't stand foe extended periods of time
Not being able to join my family on biking and kayaking adventures
Not being able to keep up with my family on vacations to Disney World

For me ....
Wearing Black ALL THE TIME
Frustration that all I can wear are lycra pants because jeans etc don't fit
Feeling like the fattest person in every room, place ....
Feeling like people judge me when I eat
Not being able to wear a bra comfortably
Thighs rubbing
Not being able to cross my legs
Feeling ugly and fat
Wearing summer clothes
sweating all the time
Hate the thought of putting on my bathing suit
Being depressed because I gained all my weight back that I lost and kept off for 7 years!!!!!!!
What I love ....
That my hubby loves me regardless!
My surgery is June 30 and I CAN'T WAIT!!!

It is so hard in the beginning! I got hungry a lot too! If you have acid in your stomach it can make it seem like your stomach is growling. A good PPI wil help with that. Some people never experience hunger again after this surgery, some do, guess which one I am? lol. Are you getting enough Protein and Water? It is hard in the liquid stage because dense protein is really what is going to fill you up. Just hang in there!

I've been telling everyone that I am having my gallbladder removed. My supervisor knows only because i trust her. And my husband know...but my kids, church fam, or immediate fam will not know. I had gotten a lot of feed back when I got the band and I'm saving myself the extra lashing from my revision by calling it a "gallbladder" removal. Its almost the same...That's my story and I'm sticking to it!! 5/22/14

I'm from a small noisy town also . I work at a hospital and I just said I was have minor surgery . I'm not telling them. I knew they would look thru my stuff while I was out so I planted an HcG diet book for them to find . Just going to tell them I'm on that diet. My mom dad daughter and husband are the only ones that know!

Every time I'm on a diet I feel like I am being watched. Somehow I think they secretly wamt me to fail. Guess what peeps, fail no more.

I dont keep it a secret. If the topic of my weight loss comes up I proudly tell them what I did and how great it is working. If they want to talk behind my back, so be it. I am the one who is getting healthy while most of them are still over weight.

I ended up telling a few people once I was sure the procedure was a go. It felt like too much work to lie. The feedback to my face anyway lol has been positive. I feel nervous about going back because it will be more noticeable and I will probably get more inquiries than the people I initially told. But I have kind of a practice response if I get any surprise or negativity - "it wasn't my first choice but it's something I felt i needed to do for my health" which hopefully shits the door on further "questioning". My co-workers are not pushy so I think that will be enough. Health and weight is such a huge focus for our company there's just no way no one asks how and I just didn't want to lie.

I plan on
well-said. I'm starting to pre-op diet with low carb and walk everyday at work. I will be off for 2 weeks for the surgery and when I get back, I will just say: low-carb, Portion Control, exercise. It's the truth. They don't need to know I have a tool to enforce portion control.

I have told very few people about my surgery. When people ask how I am losing weight, I tell them taht it's the same old fashion way, eating less and exercising more, which isn't a lie!! Also, when people notice a big jump in my loss, which would happen a lot at the beginning, I tell people, I've been losing for awhile, but just got new clothes so it's more noticable, which also isn't a lie! People will talk, and people will say what they want. Bottom line is it's your story and your journey. Take along the people you want, and leave the rest behind. Just remember though, eveyone will have an opinion whether you ask them for one or not. Welcome to the losers bench!

I didn't tell many at work the truth, I told most that I was having my gall bladder removed. Now as I loose weight I tell them I just kept with the post-op diet because it's easy on my stomach and I'm fine with it. Some asked why I was out so long (3 weeks), I told them I had some minor complications (which I did) and my surgeon required it. Not too many details, I didn't want to keep track of what I said to whom.

I had to do a six month medically supervised weight loss plan, too. At first I was mad--I wanted the surgery done immediately! But now that I am done with all that and surgery is TOMORROW (!) I am grateful that I had the six months to make the necessary changes to my habits (quitting drinking soda, cutting down on caffeine, practicing Portion Control, tracking Protein intake, getting more active, etc.) I don't think I would have been prepared if I had had the surgery a month or two in!
It does go by pretty quickly. Best of luck to you!

I Am so nervous!! Waiting at the hospital to get this life changing procedure. Please say a prayer for me!!! Updates to come...