Chickie

I wasn't attacking anyone, so I will assume you were not talking to me there. LOL, why did I read that and picture someone, one hand on hip, the other tut-tutting me? No one deserves the kind of abuse I got when that article came out. No one. I am not going to go into details, but it was ugly, and scary. No one, but no one deserves that. And what you wrote there is awfully dismissive. Kind of a "you get what you deserve for going out in the public eye" type thing. That may not have been the intention, but it's how I read it.

I love Dr Copp! His no bullshit attitude is awesome. Where are you having the op?

You would be surprised at what is lurking inside some people. This one woman told me (she screeched it down the phone when I picked up the phone) that I deserved to be fat and childless, that it was Gods way of preventing my line going on (clearly she can't read, because I have a son, who is mentioned in the article! My genes will go on!) As for your comment " I'm sure that you don't mean to say unkind things to anyone who is having issues trying to lose weight because if anyone knows how bad it feels to be criticized, you certainly do." I haven't actually ever said anything unkind to anyone with regards to losing weight. At all. If people are doing things that are flat out unhealthy, I do say something, but for the most part, I say nothing at all. Some people got an idea in their little heads that "I think" that my way is the only way. I have never actually said that. Not once. I am actually pretty open to other ways of going about things. But when people talk about being so tight that they only eat a teaspoon of food at a time, then drink soda to stay alive, and claim that it is a fantastic way of going about things, I do say something. Then these people who claim that I think my way is the only way jump up and down and start with their crap. I don't offer a lot of advice. Mostly because I know that every journey is different. And what worked for me likely won't work for someone else (I can only think of a handful of posters who eat and exercise as much as I do) I know that goals are individual to every single person, and there is no one size fits all solution. So this "I know what you are thinking", "You seem upset" and "I don't think about YOU" garbage gets very old very quickly. Brandy, I am not ignoring you, I just have to leave right now... I have lots of thoughts to put together, and not enough time to type it out. When I get home I will reply!

Babe, trust me, I am not upset by what goes on on these boards. I was PM'd by accounts that had no posts (so by people who had never posted) telling me I am a skinny, anorexic, a show off, that I should go away, that I am a liar and I am not at goal weight, I got told on the board that I am anorexic looking, skinny, ugly, unattractive. And that's just the stuff that I can think of off the top of my head. What I did get upset about was when the article I was featured in last year came out, the amount of harassing phone calls I got. I did actually call the police when I was threatened. That is when I get upset. This? I close up my Mac and go about my day. Jasmine, I have no idea who you are, or what your problem is. Honest. So itch away.

How cute! You really are a ray of sunshine, aren't you? I never said anything to provoke you in any real way, so where is this coming from? I just pointed out that if you ladies realy did want to take the high road, you could have. And no, it doesn't bother me. I am responding because I am shopping online (end of year sales ROCK) and every time you reply, I get an email. Nothnig more, nothing less my dear.

Yes. I am playing the victim. That is exactly what I am doing by pointing out that people are assholes all over the board, and not just here in R&R's. I am not a bitch. I live in the real world where adults, if they don't want to continue something, remove themselves from the situation. I don't see brandy/whatever her name is now doing that. What I saw was her have her close her threads, then change her name and continue the crap. So, if you think I am a bitch, fine. When I close down my computer, it really won't change a damm thing in my life. But if people such as yourself are so botherd by what goes on online, there really is a big problem in your life, and being fat, or a reformed fattie is the least of your problems.

I told my son the other day that if he really didn't like what was going on in one part of the playground at school, to find somewhere else to play. I am not being a bitch here, but there really is a simple solution to the problem.

So? What do we do then? Close R&R's because a couple of people get offended at the drop of a hat? And don't talk to me about being called names honey. I have had seven shades of shit thrown at me for little more than being at goal weight. Know what I did? Laughed at the childish bullshit and went on with my day. It really is that simple. I don't think closing threads solves anything. It's my opinion. And you know what they say about opinions and assholes... But I must say, that if you *really* didn't want this to go on, you would not have posted on this thread. You would have taken the high road and ignored it.

This is R&R. R&R is not a support forum. If you want support, go to the other forums (there are plenty of them).

If people with no class bother you, pehaps you shuld ignore them? If reformed fatties offend you so, perhaps you should ignore them? Isn't that what you are telling others to do? Closing threads does nothing to stop the argument. It just creates spin off threads like this one that go down exactly the same path. When people post in the public domain, they cannot expect everyone to agree (or agree to disagree) then get huffy and close the thread down when it doesn't go as expected.

May as well throw in a boob job while you are at it. I am thinking along the lines of a DS for Fluffy. I don't think she would cope too well with small portions. Besides, she farts like she is dead inside already, it can't get too much worse.

Would your cat do better with the RNY?

My son's cat (Fluffy) is a whopper. The running joke in our house is "Fluffy isn't fat, she is just big fur'ed". But she is fat. Very fat :thumbs_up: If she happens to jump on you, you know about it. I wonder if there is a CatBand?

It's cool. I have a short memory. If you did stand on the other side of the fence during that debate, I don't remember. Life's too short to hold a grudge anyway. One thing I *am* glad about, is that it wasn't just me being a drama queen (not that I am not prone to the odd tanty). That this really does exist, and it's not just my imagination. Yep, it's sad that people (general people, I have no one in mind when I say this) don't want to hear from people who have been there, and done that. But the reality of that is, it is *them* who miss out. I don't gain anything by posting here. So when I get attacked for getting the one thing we are all here for, it's easy to move on without too much pain. One thing I do take issue with is when people say "Everyone who is at goal is out living their life" when it isn't the case. People at goal get chased off. Sad as it is. And as an aside... My internet usage hasn't changed a great deal since hitting goal 2 years ago, so that argument for me at least is pretty silly. I don't post here a lot because what I have to say is not popular, or very welcome.

Amen! After being accused endlessly for month of being skinny, ugly, unattractive, anorexic and addicted to exercise, I gave up on the forums. I pop back now and then but to be blunt, no one wants to hear what I am saying anyway, so why bother? If the newbies want to live in happy kitty flower land, let them. This mean skinny, ugly anorexic won't bother them. :thumbs_up:

I only lost 700 grams (just over pound) when I hd my tummy tuck.

I have one tattoo, and want at least one more. A lotus flower. Where is the question.

I have been at goal for two years now, and people have only just stopped commenting on my weight. The way I am now is the "new" normal. It just takes time.

Yeah. Avoid the chatroom like the mean kid in the playground.

That's pretty much the size of it. Further to that, most people don't want anyone who doesn't have a weigh problem anymore posting with them.

Good on you! I wouldn't have lets that Mother Ucker get away with it. But it *does* get better. I promise. People forget that you were ever overweight. It just takes time.

Some people are just assholes. Eventually people forget what you looked like before, and stop commenting. 2 years later, people have stopped with the "You are too skkkiiinnnneeeyyyy" bullshit, and are just letting me be. It takes time for people to adjust. But asshats will always be asshats. And the "Crack Whore" comment would have prompted me to ask if he was always a dickless wonder, or if this was a new thing.

I admit that I was (and still can be at times) LAZY. I admit that I was a glutton. It's what made me as large as I was. It was only when I faced my behaviour for what it was, and change it, that I was able to lose weight and keep it off. When people can own their behaviours, and change them for the better, great things can happen. Till then, they get stuck in the same rut, going around in the same circles.

Move to Delusion Island. It's always the weekend here :grouphug:

Lots of thoughts! So little time!! I agree Jachut. 110%.