Madam Reverie

That's very good to know. Thank you for all your answers, folks. I think I'll give them a go, but before I do, I'll make sure I take an antacid/PPI. I'm craving them, so my body must be needing whatever they have to offer! x

Hey folks, I have the same problem. My man advised me to take two painkillers, which I did and it eased it as it no doubt reduced the swelling of the valve. This is a tough one, people. I know I'm only 12 days out, but I couldn't imagine living with this on a constant basis when trying to start on normal food. Its a horrid sensation

Quick question. May I ask how people tolerated eggs when on the mushie/soft food stage? Did it give you rotten indigestion? Or were you all good in the hood? How did you serve them? Many thanks, lovelies x

I'm 12 days out and I find it particularly difficult... Something I definitely have to work on!

I was on 1700mg of Metformin a day. After being told I wouldn't be taking it after the surgery, I stopped it a month before the surgery. Can't say I miss taking those tablets one iota, but I know the PCOS will impede my weight loss until things even out. I have thin hair on my head already, so the hairloss thing is scaring me silly... As for the fertility.. I can wait another couple of years before I consider making bouncing bubbas.. But I hope it improves my probability of conceiving. You're all wonderful ladies and the PCOS makes us special - given how much crap we've had to put up with - over and above the weight we've been carrying. I wish you all the luck in the world x

I tried it.. tasted like wallpaper paste. Urrrgh. Make your own food and blend. Much much tastier

My bucket list is more emotional than a 'to do' list. I want to buy obscenely expensive clothing. I want to be thinner than my sister for the first time in my life. (and revel in the shock on her face when she finally sees me) I want to bump into my ex fiance and his midget, size minus 4 wife and feel ab-so-lute-ly bloody fabulous! I would like, for once, for someone not to say 'you're a big girl'. I would love to try on a wedding dress and feel like the most beautiful girl in the world - not a frump who fights back tears, feeling like a failure. I would like to feel positive about my forthcoming nuptials and being in front of people and their cameras. I want to be physically 'normal' and happy. That is all....

lol awesome. Least you haven't lost your sense of humour through all this! Wishing you a speedy recovery, my dear. Looking forward to seeing the washboard! x

Sounds like you're handling this like a trooper! Well done you! Keep at it, take plenty of rest and water and you'll be careering down the halls in no time. Oh, enjoy the booties btw. I loved them. Saw them as a constant leg massager! Sadly, by day two they'd whipped them off because I was already walking around and bossing everyone about Boo!

That's great then! Your parents sound cool. Be spoilt by the men for a bit. Even if they're not your total 'cup of tea'. After all, you could consider it an opportunity to go and buy some lovely outfits, get your hair and make up done, be taken for a nice meal and feel like a princess with no strings attached! Crikey, almost makes me wish i were single again! Can you ask your parents if they'd wish to adopt me?! x

I smoked right up until and after surgery. it should never be condoned, as we well know.. But it is hard. I think the deal breaker is how big you are at this very moment. Certain weight categories and co-morbidities have greater risks and if you smoke too, your anesthetist will not be happy and that will make their job much harder and your risk much greater. You have to be honest with yourself... Sorry, love x

Maybe they saw their own aspirations of being thinner in the skinny guys' eyes? On some subconscious level, thinking that if they go with the skinny guy, they, too, by virtue of association will become thinner. Or maybe, worse still, they hated their weight and themselves that much, they saw 'skinny' as a 'higher prize'. Either way, none of this is about you, my love. It is ALL about them. Keep rocking on and your princess will come - fat or thin x

I have many many Indian friends. Most, are strong, highly intelligent, career minded single women in their late 30's, 40's and early 50's. Although it is customary for some families to 'desire' a wedding. Some, when presented with the cold hard truth, often back off. Primarily because they'd rather their daughter be happy, than force them into something that is just not right for them. If you're not ready - tell your parents. Barter for another couple of years and tell them why you need that. 29 these days is not 'late in the game'. In fact, it's positively early. All my crew started getting married in their early-mid thirties. Primarily because they had careers and traveled the world first. I'm sure your parents would prefer you to feel 'rounded' and 'ready' than pressurized and resentful. After all, if you feel the latter, it will show all over your face and make most men run for the hills. If you're not adverse to meeting men they think might be 'suitable', then go for it. Social occasions are no hardship and you never know, you might enjoy it - or worse still... You might meet someone who makes you think 'Corrrr.. He's lovely!!' Hoping you find a middle ground and the best of luck x

You're all in our thoughts and prayers. I hope Bill makes a very speedy recovery. x

I don't mean to be rude, but your post sounded like a bit of an advert for plastic surgery. You're not soliciting for customers, are you?!

Its the lack of carbs. Like Silkchik, I can feel it when I've not had carbs. Consequently, I'm trying to incorporate a little bit of carbs every day. My man was kind enough to buy me an electric blanket, which I sit on whilst watching tv. I am in the North of the UK, however and it is balls-arse cold here right now! In bed, I don't need it, as he's a not so little radiator!

It is true.. I used to love Ambrosia Devon Custard. Tried it the other day and it made me feel dirty inside. Conversely, I rarely eat fish and for the last week, I have been craving Prawns. Today, with full doctor approval, I ate prawns and they went down slowly and beautifully. I'm putting my money on the things I'm craving, being the things I need...

Aww.. huge congratulations to you all and hope mother and baby are doing well x

I had prawn cocktail for lunch and for dinner I had greek yoghurt with fresh blueberries. All went down very well and was given the holy sanction by my med team! Yippppppeeeee!

Say you have 'suspected' sugar issues, in which you keep having spikes and dips in your levels. Tell them you're having to go in to do an advanced glucose response test - which is why you have to go in early, so it's done on an empty stomach. I doubt they'll probe further than that.

Yeah, sounds like a bit of a strain somewhere both in your stomach and throat. As long as you haven't got a temperature, you can (and should) drink lots of water, take a painkiller and your wound site is cool to the touch, you're golden. Rest well and any signs of breathlessness/disorientation in the night, straight to the ER.

If your bloodwork indicated an infection, they wouldn't have operated on you - so there was no infection pre-op - so if this is a repeat coughing fit, that was similar to the one before the surgery, it is likely to be unrelated and not likely to have been borne out of infection. However and as everyone has said, coughing up blood is never good. Although there is a difference between having a cough, making mini-tears in the throat which might lead to blood and hucking up blood from the lungs. I have found my lungs are a bit 'watery' since the surgery, however, I am not bringing up blood. Sorry to ask for the graphics, but just how much blood are we talking about? Pure blood? Pinky tinged clear sputum? Green sputum with red in it? Do you have a temperature and secondly, where did you have your operation?

LOTS of pillows stacked well should do it. Best of luck and wish you a speedy recovery

Firstly, did you have pre-op bloodwork done? If so, do you have a copy of it? Secondly, are your wounds currently un-dressed? If so, how long have they been un-dressed? Are you noticing any redness radiating from the wound site which extends past 2-3 centimeters? Is it hot to the touch?

You look fabulous!