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I just got my date - October 28!! So excited, but lots to do before then

People who have either not had a weight problem, or have yet to come to terms with it if the do, cannot understand. Weight loss surgery is not a failure, it is someone taking real control over an issue they have not controlled before. But it is still very much socially viewed as a failure or taking the easy way out. ( VERY far from that actually) Don't let his ignorance get you down. He would be the same type to judge you for being overweight probably. Damned if you do and damned if you don't!!!! Just Celebrate YOUR victory and let him go back to peddling his starchy shame....LOL

I am just at the start of my journey too. I don't have any schedule, but I am hoping to have surgery sometime in October. My birthday is that month and it would be great to say I started my new life the same month I Celebrate coming into this world! I am doing everything I can to knock this all out and get there. I truly feel this is what I need to get back a life where I can really live!

Gia -
Just an idea... Perhaps you should commit your thoughts to writing. An old fashioned love letter where you commit your ideas and give them to him in a card. When you are going through the surgical process and beyond, it will be something that he can look to.
Women are the caretakers of the world and we rarely ask for help because we are so busy giving it. You might want to ask him directly for help through this process. The physical healing is a much smaller process than the emotional process. Ask him directly for his commitment to love and support you through what can sometimes be an intense time emotionally. When you ask him for his help, and support, and commitment to you, his focus will likely turn from your commitment and more to his. This time period is really about him being there for you. Just show him the way. Sounds like you have a very strong marriage.
Just some thoughts. I wish you the best on your journey.

In my opinion it has a lot to do with the person's insecurities and less to do with the WLS. If a marriage is strong, based in love/loyalty/respect then it will survive. Maybe work to get him involved in your journey. Have him be your 'coach". That way he feels a part of it and hopefully it will help ease his anxiety. It also doesn't hurt to spend a little extra time with him, sharing your feelings. And if all else fails, perhaps seeking outside support from a therapist or even your church. I just wish all great happiness and success!!!

In my opinion it has a lot to do with the person's insecurities and less to do with the WLS. If a marriage is strong, based in love/loyalty/respect then it will survive. Maybe work to get him involved in your journey. Have him be your 'coach". That way he feels a part of it and hopefully it will help ease his anxiety. It also doesn't hurt to spend a little extra time with him, sharing your feelings. And if all else fails, perhaps seeking outside support from a therapist or even your church. I just wish all great happiness and success!!!