So I am one month out and have lost 29 lbs so far which I'm really happy about! I went to panera yesterday and ordered a soup. When sake what side I wanted I said no side. So I went over to pick up my food and the guy says are you sure you don't want a side. I said yes I'd just throw it out anyway and that would be a waste. He said why? I said bc I had weight loss surgery. I'm not ashamed of it at all. Then he says to me I'm sorry to hear that. Wait, what????? I just left but I should've said it's the best thing I have ever done for myself!!! I'm so mad that I'm letting this bother me and the fact that I should've said I wasn't sorry at all!!!!! Sorry just venting!

People who have either not had a weight problem, or have yet to come to terms with it if the do, cannot understand. Weight loss surgery is not a failure, it is someone taking real control over an issue they have not controlled before. But it is still very much socially viewed as a failure or taking the easy way out. ( VERY far from that actually) Don't let his ignorance get you down. He would be the same type to judge you for being overweight probably. Damned if you do and damned if you don't!!!! Just celebrate YOUR victory and let him go back to peddling his starchy shame....LOL

He may have just heard "surgery" and not understood what you were saying.

I also think he was only semi cordially listening ans just heard surgery and not what type. Typical counter help

Agree with MIJourney & AntiBand.

I am not yet used to the strange looks and second guesses I get from waitstaff when I order an appetizer. But I shrug it off because the prevaling mentality in the food service industry is get what you pay for. I wouldn't take it personally. Be psyched about your success so far!!

I'm open about my surgery with people that matter but I would never have explained my "no sides" order with the staff. "Yes, I'm sure" would have been my only response. Of course, I don't think I need to be questioned about my order. I think I'm smart enough to know what I want and expect the waiters to just follow my instruction. I don't think he meant anything bad by it though.

He probably meant sorry about pushing the side on you.