Nursebarbie

Maybe I am the only one who gets my feelings hurt on these forums. Maybe its the hormones out of wack since surgery. Or maybe its the fact that I haven't been off work for 6 weeks and I feel so isolated, so alone. And this site made me feel so comforted. Like I had this big group of friends in the same boat as me. Tonight I guess some of the hostility is getting to me. It seems if you go against someone who's been here longer or sleeved longer than watch out. I may be newly sleeved but I am not an idiot. My opinions can have value too. Anyhow, just feeling alone and discounted. Thanks for reading.

Maybe I am the only one who gets my feelings hurt on these forums. Maybe its the hormones out of wack since surgery. Or maybe its the fact that I haven't been off work for 6 weeks and I feel so isolated, so alone. And this site made me feel so comforted. Like I had this big group of friends in the same boat as me. Tonight I guess some of the hostility is getting to me. It seems if you go against someone who's been here longer or sleeved longer than watch out. I may be newly sleeved but I am not an idiot. My opinions can have value too. Anyhow, just feeling alone and discounted. Thanks for reading.

Down 24 pounds post op.

Down 24 pounds post op.

Just like people to get along. Not always realistic I know.

Hi Nurse Barbie,
Sorry your feelings are hurt. One thing I have found is that whoever you don't like will probably be gone in a few months. Every online forum I've ever participated in has had quite a few dust-ups as time goes by. I just stay out of them whenever possible. And hormones here don't help: I was so emotional the first few months post-op. It was way easier to hurt my feelings then than it is now.
I do agree with another poster that F2F support groups have a lot to offer.
Lynda

Maybe I am the only one who gets my feelings hurt on these forums. Maybe its the hormones out of wack since surgery. Or maybe its the fact that I haven't been off work for 6 weeks and I feel so isolated, so alone. And this site made me feel so comforted. Like I had this big group of friends in the same boat as me. Tonight I guess some of the hostility is getting to me. It seems if you go against someone who's been here longer or sleeved longer than watch out. I may be newly sleeved but I am not an idiot. My opinions can have value too. Anyhow, just feeling alone and discounted. Thanks for reading.

Maybe I am the only one who gets my feelings hurt on these forums. Maybe its the hormones out of wack since surgery. Or maybe its the fact that I haven't been off work for 6 weeks and I feel so isolated, so alone. And this site made me feel so comforted. Like I had this big group of friends in the same boat as me. Tonight I guess some of the hostility is getting to me. It seems if you go against someone who's been here longer or sleeved longer than watch out. I may be newly sleeved but I am not an idiot. My opinions can have value too. Anyhow, just feeling alone and discounted. Thanks for reading.

Hw 258
Sw 223
Cw 200
199 if I stand on one foot!

I'm still on pureeds for two more weeks. 4 weeks post op. I'm walking 30 minutes twice a day plus swimming 3 times a week. I live on yogurt, refried Beans, poached eggs, pureed chicken, Soup, and oatmeal. My tummy doesn't like much of anything.

Oh now I'm gonna see what I weigh on one foot! Lol

Hw 258
Sw 223
Cw 200
199 if I stand on one foot!

Stuff that has been stored in your fat cells are releasing now that your losing weight, plus hormones n your body constantly adjusting. I went thru a lot of the same things you are, just takes time. What helped me was trying to stay on a schedule(eating,exercising,sleep) and talking to family n friends. Or you could talk w your Dr or surgeons office/Dr to see what they say.

I would say that while the new and exciting part of losing weight so quickly at first felt like it "solved" the depression you felt pre-op, it just masked it for a short time. I think that likely happens to most people that suffer from some type of depression that come to the decision to have weight loss surgery. I was advised not to stop taking my antidepressant, regardless of if I felt like I didn't need it anymore, until after I had reached maintenance. There are so many emotional issues tied up in our lives and in being overweight, that we can't expect the success of surgery to solve it all. I would encourage you to consider discussing your feelings with your doctor or finding a therapist, going back on meds if you have stopped, or maybe you should consider starting one if you are unable to get a handle on your feelings through therapy or other means. Just know that it's normal to experience a whirlwind of emotions as we go through all of these changes, but also that the only thing that's really changed is our weight, not any of the underlying emotional struggles.
I promise, you're not going crazy. Good luck and take care.

It is so hard to find a bra in anything above ddd any place other than lane bryant. Love love love that sale! Nordies also has nice elomi and wacoal bras reasonably priced too.

i have been n acute care nurse (blood guts and puke nurse) for 30 years, there is something very wrong about this. did you have a Ct-scan or an MRI?. you absolutely need to know if you had an infarct for your own safety. you might consider signing a release and getting all you records and test results, "just in case" it might also be helpful to find out if they cultured to "pus" and what it was. good luck, any changes seek medical care asap, please

8 Weeks Post-Op update
No Pre-Surgery diet.
Starting Weight: 360 lbs
Current Weight: 302 lbs
Down 58 lbs!!!!

I understand the pain your daughter is feeling. I was the same way. Missed 43 days my freshman year of high school because I hated the way I looked. I didn't make the best choices and even didn't reach my potential in school all because I didn't want anyone seeing me. If she has a genetic link to being overweight than all the diet and exercise in the world won't likely be successful long term. The sleeve can help her NOW and alleviate years of private humilaition of being obese. She may just blossom after that. I would do it for my daughter in a heart beat. There's no point in waiting until she's older and even more introverted. 14 year olds have babies. That is way harder than a sleeve. I will stand my ground on this one. You are her mother nobody else and I for one support you.

My surgeon said if it fits inside your wedding ring than you can swallow it.

I wish my Mom would have done that for me at 14. Go for it!

I paid out if pocket for my band. It was over 11k in hospital and surgeon fees to have it placed. I worked hard to get my band, and have paid dearly with both my mental and physical health since it was placed. I was lead to believe going in that it was permanent, that I would likely never need another invasive procedure (aside from fills) I will now have to have a removal. Do I take responsibility for my decision to have it done YES! I've lived with it and kicked myself for not having the willpower on my own to not need it... But if I had a chance to recoup the money I spent or time I spent in misery... Yep I'd sign up for that! And will... I'm sure it's coming!

This will be the final nail in the lapband coffin. Saw that commercial and thought wow now they are really grasping at straws here.

I wish my Mom would have done that for me at 14. Go for it!