Indigo1991

My then 21 year old son's reaction blew me away - he told me that only I knew the difference wls would make to me and if I had decided it was what I needed, then that was good enough for him (He then looked after me first two weeks post op with maturity far beyond his years, still get emotional thinking about it) Only told ex the night before so that son had support in case there was a problem. Was underwhelmed by his reaction which was along the lines of "well if u think it will work but...." That's why he is an ex, lol!!!!.

Ha ha ha! I like that the answer is cute undies not smaller pants ????

Suzanne, ur OP was 4 months ago - how have you done since then?

Congratulations! This is just the start of many victories, I bet. It's not always the big things that hit home, small things like weighing less than your husband can mean as much. For me, crossing my legs gives me endless entertainment nowadays, lol.

nmck, great phrase, which I will steal if you don't mind :-) And GamerGirl, won't be long before you are being told the same!!! While I have had a rant, I am so happy to be here rather than where I was. I have also started to get the once over from guys and, trust me, I ain't offended, lol.

Hooray - congratulations, another big step forward :-))))

I like the idea of giggling, seems like a great response! Congratulations on getting to 139, bet you look fab. As far as your mum goes, I have one like that at home.... why say a good thing if she can say something that makes you feel bad? But you have the right attitude towards her. All too often, we let others behaviour impact on us when they don't deserve to have that power. And you are right, haven't been this happy in years, with my health, my life and how I look. Its all good and I won't let any naysayers bring me down :-))))

Just had my first "oooh surely u can't have any more weight to lose.... got to be careful u don't get too thin".... I explained patiently that I am still overweight and that I am trying to get to a normal BMI. But there was still a great deal of sucking of teeth before I was told I needed to be really careful or my pretty little face will collapse! As this person never told me to look after myself when I was overweight, I am treating this as insincere concern ... but getting my defence ready for other comments. This is way harder than comments about the surgery, this feels more personal.... But bring it on, I am sooooo ready for the next comment :-))))

I intended to tell no one but when anyone asks I tell them I had surgery on my stomach to help my health. I explain I have all but lost the two comorbidities that affected my health, which is a huge relief to me, and have lost weight too. At that point, people rarely ask any more.

Started out as 40G, now a 32 HHH! So band sizes has dropped dramatically but boobs are effectively the same volume. But now heading towards my knees lol! So I will be having a lift and reduction if only to balance my top and bottom half out. I look like Jessica Rabbit's mum ... Not a good look, trust me :-) Seriously, it means buying clothes is still a pain. I need a size 8 for the bottom and a 10/12 for the top - not much difference but enough that I still can't go buy a nice dress that fits. But I will ask my surgeon for boobs that won't poke people's eyes out :-)))))) Might be too much at 52...

Zenandnow, sit on the toilet, knees apart and lean forward as far as u can comfortably. Give it time but that is the best position to get movement going as it lines up ur internals to work to best advantage. Alternatively, prop ur feet up on a box while still keep them flat, so that it brings ur knees up - creates same scenario. Don't rush when sitting in either position, it will take ur body a few mins to recognise what's happening - but should help !

Hope you feel better tomorrow, sure it's just a bump in the road. Just remember that thin people have down days too :-)))) And on the days when you don't feel good about life, be kind to yourself. Don't let your inner critical voice beat you up or pull you down - do something nice like have a long soak in a bubble bath, buy a glossy magazine, paint your nails or do whatever makes you feel good. Then remind yourself that this too shall pass.... Hang in there.....

Gamergirl, thanks!!! For too many years, I put myself last and allowed my emotions and actions to be influenced by others. But I also held myself back, probably out of fear of confronting what I knew I had to do. Doing this exercise showed me I was right to be worried about some things and wrong to be wasting time on other stuff. It put things in perspective and reminded me that everything is possible - and that sometimes you have to have faith in yourself, even if others don't because this is your life, no/one else should live it for you. My life is now my own, I am happy and, with my better health, I intend to make the most of it :-))))

At the start of this year, I wrote down everything I hated about my life and was shocked to find 13 things, large and small, my weight being only one of them. But all were bringing me down in different ways. Next to each one I wrote down what the answer was to make the problem go away - and every issue had a solution.... So I have spent the last eight months dealing with each in turn, while also undergoing VSG, and my life is transforming. Nothing has been exempt - I am working on a major career change, have eased people out of my life who were toxic and have significantly improved my health through the surgery. I have 4 matters still not fully resolved but I have made a start on each. I feel as if I am back in control of my life for the first time in years and I am not at the mercy of my weight, other people or my own negative thoughts. What I am trying to say to you is that sometimes weight is a catalyst for making changes in life but once you start down that road, you can better see there's more work needed on other things than you realised. But it is all do-able. Good luck, hope adjusting your meds again gives you space to stand back and appraise things in a more positive way. And to reflect on the amazing weight loss you have achieved to date - hang in there!!!

Just saw ur latest post. - sucking on them????What I said stands - u will increasingly feel the restriction so stick to the amounts u r being asked to eat, purée and liquids. Trust me, as u move on to solids u won't be looking at m & ms lol!

Your stomach will still be numb and still in recovery. So you won't feel it if you are doing any damage....but as the numbness passes, you will start to feel the restriction. So whatever eating plan your surgeon gave you, get back on it today and stick to it. We all have different programs according to what our particular surgeon dictates - but I haven't seen one that recommends or even allows m&ms 10days out!!! Please rethink what you are doing now - you have had major surgery and your stomach is nowhere near healed so piling food in just won't help. You need to eat good Protein to help with that process. Sugar was part of the reason why you got where you were, I presume, so why do you want to go straight back to where you were Pre/sleeve? This will work for you, but please, please follow the advice you have been given. And just because you can eat something doesn't mean you should.... Good luck, you made a great decision being sleeved - don't blow it by making poor choices now.

Congratulations, u just did a very positive thing for your health and quality of life! Hold on tight, first few weeks can get a bit bumpy as the new sleeve and new way of doing things bed in .... But this too shall pass ...and there's a new you heading in ur direction Despite the odd bump, I have had a good experience to date. But I am what my clinic calls a "compliant patient" - I did exactly as I was told, lol. Followed their instructions to the letter, followed the stages of eating, got Protein and Water in etc. but payback is that I have never been sick or struggled with food and my two comorbidities have all but been resolved. This alone has changed my life... Yes, I have had stalls but my weight/inch loss has been amazing. So my advice to u is to stick to ur docs advice and on the less good days, remind urself that tomorrow will be better. Also be kind to urself for the next few weeks, u just had major surgery and ur hormones will be all over the place. Four months out and life is already transformed for me - I wish the same for u, good luck!

Agree re research but first thing to do is call the clinic, explain what u are thinking and ask your questions to get reassurance. Why is that silly? If u were having a hip replaced, u would ask the doc doing the op what the long term effects would be - so why not with ur sleeve? This isn't an irrational fear, u are asking sensible questions about life changing surgery. Best place to start looking for answers is with the clinicians who are doing your surgery rather than hearing second hand what orhers docs say. If u r trusting a doc to do ur op, hopefully their answers will give u the reassurance.u need to go forward confidently. The best any of us can do is work with the info we have. Dont beat yourself up about covering every single base - be as informed as u can be. I didnt know everything but I knew what I wanted to achieve and made sure the sleeve could deliver that at the very least. My personal advice to any pre-sleevers is that once u gave decided to be sleeved, look hard at what happens first month post sleeve. Thats the time frame that catches most people out as they come to terms with their new life. Good luck, hope u get the answers u need to join this very happy sleever on the "other" side :-))))

Proudgrammy, u make me laugh! U don't look or sound as if u are heading for 60 (which is the new 40...) Thanks for the kind words about the best coming - I hope so recent years have been a bit tough.... U are so right about the fact that we all deserve the good life cos we do. This isn't easy, being sleeved, it's hard work and needs commitment. Support here is invaluable and it's great to be able to share the good and the less good and know that people understand and care. So thanks for ur response, really appreciate it xx

Will have everything crossed for u to meet ur goal :-))))

That is a fantastic suggestion! That's what I will do from next April :-))))

Wow, that is so impressive! Congratulations, no wonder u feel great, losing the meds has been the best thing with the sleeve for me too - totally life changing. x

It's my birthday and when I was sleeved at end of April, I never thought I would be here with my life so dramatically different - I am healthy, happy and looking and feeling great! I may have to adopt a second birthday from next year on my sleeve date because it really has given me a rebirth which, at this age, is an unexpected and fantastic opportunity.So I intend to make the most of it.... watch out world!!!! x

Lol!