I just posted this as a question on another board. I am single and I am worried but not in a bad way. I guess nervous.
I was always a size 8-10 and then got fat. I know what the other side is but my self esteem was awful (thinking that's what got me here).
I always get "you have such a beautiful face" from men. Which is code for - you'd be hot if you we're thinner.
I feel like this was the journey I had to go on and that as my surgery date grows closer, I am looking in the mirror and seeing this I do like about myself. and that once I'm feeling better and not: feeling squished on a plane, shopping in the plus section, scanning the room for someone fatter then I am, being out of breath on stairs...
I will be that confident person. And I won't worry "why" guys are talking to me now that haven't before. I'm still me. I'm the same person but I'm not invisible. I will be the girl who turns heads instead of walking behind my friends. And...I'm total ok with that.
I think as you lose you will find yourself and whatever insecurities you have might improve and your relationship will be even more amazing because you will be happier all around.
I wish you all the best and look forward to keeping up with how you are doing!