sharonintx

Your surgeon is not your counselor, neither is the surgeon's staff, and the extra paperwork you are repeatedly asking them to do is out of line. Yes -they do get paid to guide you through this process, but the process for them is your surgery and recovery. Not your mental or emotional struggles. For every patient that cancels over and over and would like a therapy session at each visit, there are 100 more patients who will not require this extra hassle.

It is NOT their job to stabilize your mental health enough to follow through with your commitments.
That is YOUR job.
You need to actively seek help and take care of these issues. What you are doing with surgery dates is not acceptable and soon your doctor will send you a letter saying you are no longer welcome as a patient.
Mark my words on this. Actions have consequences.
If you call the office tomorrow and explain you really need to seek some therapy first, and that your therapist will be in the loop when you're ready....they might continue to work with you.
But at this point...you are going to burn your bridges.

I picked 150 lbs because it seemed reasonable. So far I have not reached 150 and it has been 5 years. The 1st 2 years I stayed at 170. Then lost 10 and stayed at 160 for a couple more. Today I'm at 155, but prefer 152.
All of that is in my mind though. My body wants 160 lbs or so. I may have to be content with 155 and just split the difference between mind and body.
I have decided to lay off the candy bars and see if I can get to 152 this next week.

I picked 150 lbs because it seemed reasonable. So far I have not reached 150 and it has been 5 years. The 1st 2 years I stayed at 170. Then lost 10 and stayed at 160 for a couple more. Today I'm at 155, but prefer 152.
All of that is in my mind though. My body wants 160 lbs or so. I may have to be content with 155 and just split the difference between mind and body.
I have decided to lay off the candy bars and see if I can get to 152 this next week.

I picked 150 lbs because it seemed reasonable. So far I have not reached 150 and it has been 5 years. The 1st 2 years I stayed at 170. Then lost 10 and stayed at 160 for a couple more. Today I'm at 155, but prefer 152.
All of that is in my mind though. My body wants 160 lbs or so. I may have to be content with 155 and just split the difference between mind and body.
I have decided to lay off the candy bars and see if I can get to 152 this next week.

I often wonder why someone asks a question here and it's a simple question. The replies get progressively more judgmental and seems to turn into a question of morality or the dreaded stretched sleeve due to the munchies,
How about we just answer the question and forgo all the drama that ensues? It would be a lot easier to retain members who can give quality, to the point answers.
All the rest sounds like Blahblahblah.

Perhaps a little petty, but I'll say it anyway. All of us encounter people who feel they are superior in some way. Maybe they feel smarter,prettier, richer, more sophisticated, etc. Before losing weight I would have never had the confidence to challenge them and their unacceptable behavior.
Now I have no problem looking them in they eye, responding to their imagined superiority, and I never let them walk away having gotten away with it.
Kind of silly, but I enjoy it immensely. And guess what - they back down every time. Every. Single. Time. I love not feeling inferior.

Help me understand. I am 5 yrs out from sleeve surgery. There has never been a time I was able to overeat to a large extent, I feel very near the same restriction as about 6 months after surgery. I can eat more sweets than real food but even so there is a limit I cannot cross.
I see people taking about feeling no restriction and saying their sleeve has stretched and they have gained a lot of weight - a lot being more than 20-30 lbs.
On occasion I have gained a few pounds. Most notably gaining 12 lbs this past summer due to my consumption of coffee milk shakes from Whataburger. The scales hit 12 lbs over what I was comfortable with, I said to myself ' stop this s#@t before it goes any further". I quit the shakes and switched to strawberry Protein smoothies from Starbucks and the pounds went away.
I do not understand 'my sleeve stretched'. Am I wrong in thinking that the only way this could happen is if someone stuffed it past capacity repeatedly? Over and over? And if that were the case then wouldn't the problem be that one has yet to conquer the mental demons that make us overeat in the first place?
Am I missing something?

I was going to ask for the recipe for helluva good dip

I was going to ask for the recipe for helluva good dip

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Perhaps a little petty, but I'll say it anyway. All of us encounter people who feel they are superior in some way. Maybe they feel smarter,prettier, richer, more sophisticated, etc. Before losing weight I would have never had the confidence to challenge them and their unacceptable behavior.
Now I have no problem looking them in they eye, responding to their imagined superiority, and I never let them walk away having gotten away with it.
Kind of silly, but I enjoy it immensely. And guess what - they back down every time. Every. Single. Time. I love not feeling inferior.

Perhaps a little petty, but I'll say it anyway. All of us encounter people who feel they are superior in some way. Maybe they feel smarter,prettier, richer, more sophisticated, etc. Before losing weight I would have never had the confidence to challenge them and their unacceptable behavior.
Now I have no problem looking them in they eye, responding to their imagined superiority, and I never let them walk away having gotten away with it.
Kind of silly, but I enjoy it immensely. And guess what - they back down every time. Every. Single. Time. I love not feeling inferior.

I've been eating too much lately too. Gained a couple pounds. I need to cut out the candy and quit stuffing myself every night.
At the very least we see where the pounds come from and recognize that its our own fault. #winning

I've been eating too much lately too. Gained a couple pounds. I need to cut out the candy and quit stuffing myself every night.
At the very least we see where the pounds come from and recognize that its our own fault. #winning

Yes. Then for the past 5 yrs since that time. No problems, no munchies, no problems

Your man is showing his ignorance and insecurity. The sleeve brings on it's own emotional and mental challenges. Who needs this s*#t from their significant other? Not you.

I tend to agree with you about the use of correct grammar, but in looking thru the posts, topics, and general conversation around here I would say that proper spelling is the least of our concerns. Our state of mental health and reasoning seems to be a much larger problem.

If it isn't making you sick, causing you to feel bad, and everything else is good after you drink it, then drink it. Your body will give you unmistakable signs if something is too much too soon. There is really no need to spend hours researching tips and guidelines.

If it isn't making you sick, causing you to feel bad, and everything else is good after you drink it, then drink it. Your body will give you unmistakable signs if something is too much too soon. There is really no need to spend hours researching tips and guidelines.

If it isn't making you sick, causing you to feel bad, and everything else is good after you drink it, then drink it. Your body will give you unmistakable signs if something is too much too soon. There is really no need to spend hours researching tips and guidelines.

If it isn't making you sick, causing you to feel bad, and everything else is good after you drink it, then drink it. Your body will give you unmistakable signs if something is too much too soon. There is really no need to spend hours researching tips and guidelines.

I often wonder why someone asks a question here and it's a simple question. The replies get progressively more judgmental and seems to turn into a question of morality or the dreaded stretched sleeve due to the munchies,
How about we just answer the question and forgo all the drama that ensues? It would be a lot easier to retain members who can give quality, to the point answers.
All the rest sounds like Blahblahblah.

Get a new Dr is the best advice I can think of. Even if they are having personnel changes etc. Surgeons are running a business just like any other business. If the customer service is lacking in any way, then your time and money is better spent elsewhere.

Woohoo knowledge! You look awesome. Thanks for sharing the pics. It made a Friday evening a whole lot
better:)