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Same here, my weight gain is from my choices and lifestyle- don't think anything is wrong with my pouch. I had gastric bypass so I didnt have a bougie as far as I know. Good for you on cooking at home and being conscience of what you are putting in your body. You are right, it's doable!!! We can all do it and I want this thread to stay alive also!! Let's be accountable, good, bad or ugly. We are all here for each other and understand the struggle.


May God bless you and keep you️

-Mariela

I don't know my bougie size, I suppose I could have the surgeon check his records. But honestly I don't think it has much to do with my regain if anything. I can tell you I have not had vsg related complications..... my regain has everything to do with depression resulting from loss and subsequently making poor food and behavior choices.... as a result of pregnancy I experienced a lessening of restriction, but not a full return to pre-op conditions...I am down 5lbs from last week... my caloric intake is hovering around 1600/day and I am focusing on home cooked (by me!) meals and no alcohol, I've come under my Protein needs each day, and over on carbs, so still need to make some tweaks there....the 2 hikes on sun/mon still have me sore so I haven't worked out since-- I plan to go to the gym tomorrow...stay with it everyone, and keep up the effort! It's doable! Just keep checking in I'm really looking forward to keeping this thread active!

I don't know my bougie size, I suppose I could have the surgeon check his records. But honestly I don't think it has much to do with my regain if anything. I can tell you I have not had vsg related complications..... my regain has everything to do with depression resulting from loss and subsequently making poor food and behavior choices.... as a result of pregnancy I experienced a lessening of restriction, but not a full return to pre-op conditions...I am down 5lbs from last week... my caloric intake is hovering around 1600/day and I am focusing on home cooked (by me!) meals and no alcohol, I've come under my Protein needs each day, and over on carbs, so still need to make some tweaks there....the 2 hikes on sun/mon still have me sore so I haven't worked out since-- I plan to go to the gym tomorrow...stay with it everyone, and keep up the effort! It's doable! Just keep checking in I'm really looking forward to keeping this thread active!

Let's do it slim! Accountability helps a lot, that's why I created this thread. We got this


May God bless you and keep you[emoji173]️

-Mariela

A bougie is an instrument they put down your throat and into your stomach while they are forming your sleeve. Larger sizes have fewer complications but you have a larger stomach, smaller sizes have higher risk of leaks or strictures but produce a more restrictive sleeve. Standard in the US is 32-50 and U.K. is 60. I looked it up.

Well guys I'm definately going to participate and I will support you guys but I'm currently on staycation and not making the best choices. We have out of town guest and there is a lot of activities and eating out involved.
I have started my mornings off right with either a small omlette w/veggies or a Protein Shake for Breakfast. But, lunch and dinners have been tough and with no real exercise.
i am so scared to get on the scale, I feel the "struggle" to button my pants and I'm not as comfortable in them -ugh! But, my guest leaves on Sunday morning and I plan on working out immediately and getting 100% back on plan. Meanwhile, I'm trying to "mindfully" eat.
To those of you struggling....you are not alone. One meal, one day at a time.
To those who had a good day, great job!
Oh, by the way, I don't know my bougie size, I'm sure it's played a role in not reaching my goal weight but my doctor mentioned something about the possible complications w/going too small, so I don't believe I have a small one. He told me not to worry about the size and just follow the plan. In truth, it's my failure in following the plan that's got me in this position.

Maricela, good plan. Thank you too for your positivity. You are right and we can do this. It is hard to stand up and say we have fallen off the wagon and sometimes even harder to get back on plan. We need to take small steps and if today is better than yesterday (no matter how small) then we are winning. Yesterday was a winning day because I drank more Water than the day before. Today no Cookies have passed my lips - winning!

Good morning friends!

Just checking in, how is everyone doing? I just got back from my walk/jog and happy I went. It's a mental struggle to get to it but I've decided it's just something I am going to get up and do no matter how I feel. I want to get to the point that I like exercise (which has never happened in my life). Little changes will add up, of that I am sure. I am trying not to be obsessed with the scale and have decided that I will not step on it until Monday when I weigh in. I am trying to change my mindset and create lasting lifestyle changes verses just trying to get skinny. I have gone back to the basics of:

1) Protein first
2) Water water water
3) no drinking 30 mins before and after meals
4) exercise
5) no snacking

I am committed and know we can all do this. We will have ups and downs but please don't disappear if you feel defeated, let's make the decision to support one another and see each other through losing this regain. Praying and rooting for each and every one of you️


May God bless you and keep you️

-Mariela

I'm in. I gained almost 30lbs myself and have been beating myself up. It took me a while to realize that doing that won't change anything. Instead I need to accept it and move forward and fix it. I know what I need to do so it's time I stop with the excuses and just do it!

I'm with you all! Dealing with regain due to some highs and lows which resulted in a return to poor eating habits- snacking/grazing/ bigger portions/ less quality choices/being passive and not paying any attention to what I eat/ drink. Plus increased wine drinking and less exercise. After a few false starts I began in earnest last week, and have been doing well: no wine & making good food choices... did a hike up to potato chip rock here in SD on Saturday and a shorter easier one today.... I was skimming a size 10/12 at my lowest and I'd like to get back to a comfy size 12 which I feel like I could reasonably maintain... anyway I look forward to supporting everyone and benefiting from the same

I'm with you all! Dealing with regain due to some highs and lows which resulted in a return to poor eating habits- snacking/grazing/ bigger portions/ less quality choices/being passive and not paying any attention to what I eat/ drink. Plus increased wine drinking and less exercise. After a few false starts I began in earnest last week, and have been doing well: no wine & making good food choices... did a hike up to potato chip rock here in SD on Saturday and a shorter easier one today.... I was skimming a size 10/12 at my lowest and I'd like to get back to a comfy size 12 which I feel like I could reasonably maintain... anyway I look forward to supporting everyone and benefiting from the same

I'm with you all! Dealing with regain due to some highs and lows which resulted in a return to poor eating habits- snacking/grazing/ bigger portions/ less quality choices/being passive and not paying any attention to what I eat/ drink. Plus increased wine drinking and less exercise. After a few false starts I began in earnest last week, and have been doing well: no wine & making good food choices... did a hike up to potato chip rock here in SD on Saturday and a shorter easier one today.... I was skimming a size 10/12 at my lowest and I'd like to get back to a comfy size 12 which I feel like I could reasonably maintain... anyway I look forward to supporting everyone and benefiting from the same

Hello all,
I haven't been on BP often in the past few months but I decided to check in tonight & I saw this thread-fate.
I've regained 13# (I think). I have to get on the scale tomorrow to confirm but I'm joining too! I need the group support.
I used to to work out 4 days a week but now I work out only two days. bread and Cookies have crept back in. Portions have also increased. At my lowest I wore a size 10 and now I'm a 14 (I hate writing that number down but It's my reality).
My ultimate goal is to be a size 10 again. My short term goal is a size 12. Menopause, genes and age will make it difficult for me to maintain anything smaller and I've decided I don't want to-I like how I looked when I was a size 10.
Good luck to us all!

Hello All,
Glad I found this thread. I have also gain a little weight back and scared that I'm going to regain all my weight back. I have gain 10 pounds because of careless eating; I am a known stress eater. I know if I do not take control now, my regain will only get worse. I recently gave up chewing gum and notice that I have been substituting my gum chewing for carbs. I will try my hardest to start on Tuesday; it's going to be hard because we are having chips and all kinds of dips at work. I recently bought a treadmill and did great for about 2 weeks . I think having a support group that knows what I am going through would benefit me in my new start.
Thanks in advance!

Well I need to lose 50 to get back to my lowest. The weight has gone on gradually over the past 3 years, I knew I had to get it in hand but didn't. How did I get in this position well it's wine and snacking (grazing). My husband and I can share a bottle of wine (or 2!) but it is accompanied by crisps (chips) and a family bar of chocolate. Cakes and biscuits have also creeped in to my diet. See I know exactly what I'm doing wrong. I do have good restriction and if I eat correctly I get full on quite small amounts. The other thing I have done wrong is give up exercise. I don't like exercising but I do know it is essential.

My plan: initially there will be no wine at home and consequently cut out the crisps and chocolate. Exercise. The number 50 is too big for me and quite frightening so I am going to cut it down into sections of 5 which seems so much more manageable.

I have started today and I have used my elliptical and there is no wine in the house.

Let's do it! Weigh in tomorrow and let's keep each other accountable! We can do it!!


May God bless you and keep you[emoji173]️

-Mariela

Hello my fellow WLS peeps. I am on a mission to lose 50 pounds that I have regained. I am feeling hopeful and know that getting back to basics will do it. I would like this thread to be a place where we can come and be transparent and accountable. I plan on checking in with a weigh in every Monday starting tomorrow. If you want to join me, let's do this!
Heightist weight: 289
Lowest: 157
Goal: 150
Attached is my before surgery pic, me at my lowest and where I am today.
May God bless you and keep you️
-Mariela

I am in the same boat and need help and support. I will weigh in and post tomorrow as well.

I am joining you in this as well. I need help and support.

We got this Kathy! I try to walk/jog 5 days a week. I am more in the habit forming phase right now as I have to talk myself into doing it everyday. I think with the support we will be able to do this!


May God bless you and keep you[emoji173]️

-Mariela

I agree with everything you said. I was 296 when I started and my lowest was 169. I had surgery May 21, 2012. It has been three years. My husband passed away in June of 2014 with cancer at the age of 48 which most of you know. I started gaining back after diagnosis from drinking frappes and lattes which gave me a high from the sugar and caffeine. He was very ill and I was his sole caregiver. I hardly ate but drank ready made Protein shakes and coffee. I started gaining back and by the time he passed away, I had gained up to 189 from 169. Now since, I gained to 224 and was able to get back to 207 then gained back to 215 where I am now. It is so hard and we aren't like normal people. You are so right. It gets really hard after the first year and it takes more work than people realize. SO, newbies be very careful because you will be able to gain easily and you will be able to eat more as time goes by. The full feeling is there but not as in the honeymoon stage. liquid calories is the devil. So be careful.
I'm so scared that I will continue to gain if I don't stop with the stupid sugar in coffee. I will say that I think if I hadn't had this surgery, I would have gained a lot more by now. SO it is worth it with all the complications I have with severe GERD, esophageal spasms, bile reflux, and almost drowning in my own bile while sleeping because I had yogurt too late at night.
I'm doing my best to get back on track but it isn't easy.

I have Soup for lunch almost daily lately.
I like to take the Italian wedding soup and strain out the macaroni. So it ends up being a yummy broth with spinich/carrots and little meatballs.

Welcome to normal life! Every single normal weight person I know has a little binge here and there on a weekend or a vacation. You know what they do? They just get right back into their normal routine again when it's over and move on. That's what maintenance is. Living like a normal person!

@@LipstickLady when I was new to this site, I was terrified to post. I had alot of shame, fear of failure and I was emotionally very vulnerable - especially preop. I suspect reading a few others getting their ass handed to them helped me too. At nearly 5 years out, I am much less "compliant" than I was the first 3 years, but still hanging in there at a healthy weight and a happy life. I had to really really change to find this success after my failure with the lapband. I still thank all the IRL people (NUT, surgeon and others) who supported me with the truth as well as my imaginerary friends on this forum. Sometimes we don't like what we need to hear.

I am scared for some of these newbies and the lurkers who are reading. This fear is probably a huge part of why I don't just log off permanently.

Is it just me or does the trend seem to be "I'll eat what I want when I want no matter what my surgeon says" with other people actually coddling/recommending/applauding/defending that viewpoint?
When I joined this site, I had my @ss handed to me several times (THANK GOD!!) because I wondered why (out loud) my diet was so restrictive. I wanted permission to break some rules because it was damn hard to follow them. I never did test those waters (with the exception of a Hershey's Kiss one week post op -- it tasted like I imagine licking an ashtray would) because the experienced people scared the **** out of me with talks of leaks, tears, vomiting, and the worst? BEING A FAILURE AT WLS.
Maybe because I had my surgery in my 40s -- after decades of being fat and ready for a change -- I didn't take those words as "ganging up", "bullies", or "mean girls". Maybe it was because I knew in my head that I was being a dumbass every time I whined about wanted something salty instead of sweet. Maybe because I had the self realization that "listening to my body" put me in a place where I needed WLS, so clearly listening to me was a horrible idea...

I will never forget my first WLS seminar. There was a young girl a few rows in front of me who was scheduled for surgery the next week. When we were going over the dietary stages post op, she raised her hand and told the NUT she has a bachelorette party a week after her surgery. She TOLD this woman that she WOULD be eating wings and drinking, no matter what. It was, after all, her body and her right. I would love to know what happened to her. Ideally, they took her off the surgery schedule. Most likely, she had surgery and is still obese 3 years later.

I wish great success to anyone and everyone who has WLS. The quality of life this procedure has given back to me is worth all the coookies (sic) and crackers and french fries in the world. (Even McD's -- fresh out of the fryer!!) I hope everyone gets to experience everything they want to experience in a thinner, healthier body. I would love to hear less and less stories of people who never lost or gained it all back but I fear that those stories are just going to multiply with this new mindset.

It's a shame. It's a great big DAMN shame.

Well ... now there are new people that are becoming
Veterans every day... so this can be a safe place to just relax and talk about things that come up years down the road....
I suspect some leave from regains.....
Personally that is always challenging for me. Good months. Not so good months.
Ps. I do know there was some kerfuffle months back. But I am ignoring it.