Macy6

I have this grand plan in my head (that has not panned out yet) That if I take a month and cut back to 1800 calories and drop to 1500 the month after and then the last two months get really strict about what I am eating that it will better prepare me. Unfortunately one of the reasons we are in the positions we are in is the fact that this is an incredible struggle. hang in there!

My Dr. is requiring me a 5# weight loss (to shrink the liver) and I was told by the nutritionist that they will weigh me before the start of my 10 day pre op diet and the last day and if I don't loose that they will postpone. My Dr. told me to loose as much weight as I could before surgery, the lower the BMI, the less you weigh the safer it is.

I can understand this. I tend to obsess about my scale when I am doing any type of weight loss thing. I then avoid it at all cost when I am not. My Dr. wants me weighing weekly during this 6 months supervised weight loss time and I said that I was fine with weekly but wanted to avoid more. She said she wanted it to quit being an obsession and just normal. I know it will be hard for me not to weigh daily, multiple times a day, after every pee and poop and naked and clothed... he he... after surgery. I guess I can understand why my Dr. wants me to start not obsessing now. I am weighing once a week, and I am going to avoid anymore, or any less. I think as someone with an eating disorder, and history of weight gain that it is probably pretty important that I weigh weekly, for the rest of my life, to stay on target.

Do you have to do a new sleep study? With it being a few years ago it could be a new thing. This past year my energy has dropped immensely. I thought it was because 9 months ago I became the full time caregiver to my 90yo grandmother, she has dementia and bad sun downers and she wakes me up 3-4 nights a week 1-10 times in any given night. I also put on 30lbs in the past 9 months due to stress and lack of activity. Well I just found out I have moderate sleep apnea, I was shocked, I have been known to snore if I roll on my back, but I am an avid side sleeper, I don't wake up (or at least can't tell) but let me tell you this I am exhausted all of the time, any given time I could lie down and take a nap. I have my titration sleep study on Friday, I have heard it helps a lot... Here is hoping!

My NUT has things like SF Jello and Popsicles and V8. There are a few other things too, however she emphasized if I needed have the snacks I needed to be calling her and letting her know exactly what I was eating and that I still needed to come in between 800-1000cal.

My sister in law and brother decided to stay kid free. It was a shock to most the family, especially my mother, as hard as it was to come to terms with it we have all been very respectful of their decision (their reasoning is they enjoy their freedom and enjoy traveling) I had my son young (I was 18 he is now 13) I get asked all the time when I'm having another, why didn't I have another, and told I'd better get on it soon if I want another. I'm adopted and I would love to be a foster mom someday and maybe adopt a child, particularly with special needs. I have 8 months left in school and I really want to go on for my Masters. I've already put my son thru the craziness of my bachelors and I have no intention of jumping into my masters until he graduates high school. Not to mention I started school when he was 6, I'm ready to have some time to be a grown up, maybe date, hike a mountain, or sit on a beach with out worrying about school. I'm also a little selfish in I want to be able to travel and buy my son nice things and it makes it a little harder when you add more kids in. Someday? Maybe, right now? No, do I (or you) need to explain that go anyone? Nope!

Oh I have had those from Effexor. Horrible! Hope you feel better soon.

That is awesome! My profile pic is from Hawaii and will for sure be my before pic! It was so sad to be in such a beautiful place and feel so terrible!

Someone posted these on a FB group.

I think it is a mix. I imagine that not everyone is compliant 100% and there is a definite variety in stages, foods allowed and the speed that people go thru stages. Peanut butter is on my no list all together (not that I necessarily think anything is wrong with it, but just to show that even between us there is a difference) I think it is about trying to be compliant, and getting in your protein. Talk to your Dr./NUT and see what works for you.

It seems like it is probably not the best choice, unless you let it sit and go flat. Some other good choices are, ginger based teas, or hard candies to suck on. (they could be found at whole food, natural stores i.e. Sprouts etc...) Try drinking your water, and protein drinks at room temperature instead of chilled. Other teas; peppermint and chamomile could help too. If it is bad enough you may want to call your surgeon and see what they recommend.

Look great! Look at you with the belt to accent your trim waist! Congratulations

My NUT says soft foods two weeks out. It seems like everyone is different though.

First off you are FAR from a failure! You did this! YOU DID THIS... for you! You didn't do it to change over night, you didn't do it to be in a size 20-16-12-8-4 in a week... month... or even year. YOU deserve this, and you will do it! The worst thing you could do right now is to give up, don't cancel your account! My surgeon has emphasized many times how important it is to maintain that support system after. I have not had surgery, so I am not going to even try to give you advice, but I would say that looking at your post that you really need to try to bump up your protein. You admit that things aren't 100% but it is taking baby steps to get there. Make sure you are journaling what you eat, watch for the liquid calories. Check for weight loss support groups in your area, the one my bariatric program runs is open to the public, and the nutritionist and nurse both attend the group. Find a nutritionist who you can see, maybe your PCP can recommend someone. I know you are frustrated, but hang in there!

I had mine today too. Sounds similar to yours and others. I had 375 questions that were T/F dealing with mental illness etc. he did say I scored slightly elevated in depression and anxiety (I know I'm being treated by my PCP) but interestingly enough he told me in his experience those in that situation tend to do much better following surgery, because they tend to be more motivated. I was like.....ooooo K. I had the 168ish medical related questions. He was telling me that its compared to others who have had bariatric surgery and based on the way they answered and your answers gives an idea on how you will do during recovery, weight loss, maintenance, and overall listening to the advice of your surgeon and NUT. he did recommend the use of counseling because of my depression but did not mandate it. Said I was a prime candidate and gave me the green light. I do have to meet with him one more time, my surgeon has you go early on in case there is something he needs you to work on and again within 3 months of surgery.

I didn't walk for high school and have regretted it since. I am the same as you, finish mid year, no mid year graduation and have to drive 4 hours for graduation (we are a satellite school based 4 hrs away from the main campus and they only do main campus graduations) I absolutely 100% will walk. I have worked far too hard to not sit thru a long winded ceremony where I turn my tassel and leave :-) I say do it, you have earned it!

I agree with all of thee above. If you trust and had a good relationship with your surgeon then go back. My surgeon told me that a majority of his surgeries last year were band to sleeve/bypass revisions.

If everything goes well it will probably be late July to August.

Do you think it is selfish? Do you feel like once you have the baby you will give up and most likely gain the weight back? I honestly feel we all have our reasons for WLS. I want to be healthy, I really do, but I would be lying if I didn't say that I secretly searched for clothes online, and longingly looked at the shoes in the store and dream of the day I can wear them. I would say that I hope that once you loose the weight you realize how great you feel, and how badly you want to stay that way, not only for you, but that baby. Do I think it is selfish? No, I would imagine you aren't the first and definitely not the last.

Oh yuck, I have to call and make my appointment. I overloaded myself with other appointments so I was waiting to finish most of them before moving on.

My NUT said 2 weeks strained liquids, 10 weeks soft/mush, if it squishes with a fork it's safe. I find all the differences interesting. Makes me curious how they decide what they decide.

Hi, my name is Macy. I am a senior in Nursing school with an expected graduation date of December 2nd. Looking at mid to late summer for an estimated surgery date. I am not sure how it will work with my school schedule, so I am weighing the possibility of waiting until after graduation too.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I think what is important is that you are keeping both sides in the loop about what is going on, that you are following the instructions of your physician, and as long as you are happy its a go. I believe there is a lot to know about herbs etc... they were around a lot longer than Western medicine, as long as you are also taking into account the recommendations of your physician.

My NUT said "anything you can smush with a fork" lol. Not sure if that helps, but basically if I can squish it, and it goes thru the tines then it counts for the soft stage.

First off congratulations on your tremendous loss! It is wonderful. I think it is difficult when you establish a relationship that is based off of a situation and then you have to change. I am not saying that you two necessarily have always had a "fat" relationship, but when we get comfortable in a situation, and then there is a change it is really difficult to deal with. I pulled away from my best friend after she got married, for a long time I tried to remain as close as before but the reality was, as much as we needed each other, they were seeking couples to do things with and I never fit that mold. I grew tired of being the fifth wheel (because I always was invited, but I was always alone) We are still friends, but not as close as we were. My brother and sister in law met in a bad situation, they both dealt with substance abuse issues and the first year of their relationship was completely surrounded by drugs, alcohol and partying. When the haze lifted and they decided to get clean and do better they had to establish a new relationship, nothing was the same, their friends were different, their fun time was different, but they found new friends and new fun times and turned it around into a lot of outdoor activities and have managed to turn it into a 3 year court ship and 4 year marriage. It doesn't have to be over, it may take a big fight from you. Don't let her get you down, don't let her comments get you down either. My best friend has always been quite a bit thinner than me. I have never come close to her size, and I thought the other day how weird the day will be that I can share her clothes, or even potentially be smaller. I think it is important to let them know we are the same, and how important they are in our lives.