CindyG

Sleeved on 2/25, down 40lbs. I went from 235 to 194, size 18 to size 12!

Sleeved on 2/25, down 40lbs. I went from 235 to 194, size 18 to size 12!

My sleeve is scheduled for February 25th. I'm a little worried about recovering on my own with no help, as my husband will be in Europe, but still very excited about having it done.

It's called a food funeral. I live in New Orleans I started my pre op diet in October and every weekend my husband and I went our favorite places to eat and eat our favorite foods. Until the doc Rx pre op diet now we are on the strick diet I still had boiled shrimp lastnight it was in a salad. The only thing I missed is the king cake :/

Thanks everyone. I had my surgery this morning I am in good spirits and mental strong. I been to move around, walked around my room and going to the restroom without much assistance. I'm comfortable and feeling well. I was able to get a private room which I love. The staff knew I was alone and the nurses have gone out of their way to make sure I don't feel alone. This forum has helped me and I'm glad I found it. Thanks again!!!

Some amature observations:
She's against the surgery, but doesn't want to come right out and say so. This is the "passive aggressive'" approach.
All excellent reasons you've given YOURSELF for moving forward with surgery. She doesn't get this part.. at least not yet.
Here's where I have a little more direct experience. My wife doesn't work and I have little control over meal planning - particularly for dinner. I began this most recent diet in October. Here is my approach: I have 100% control over Breakfast and lunch during the work week. I drink an Isopure shake for Breakfast and have a simple sandwich for lunch. If I snack, it's hard-boiled eggs that I prepare at home and bring in to work. I keep the stuff for sandwiches at work, and make them myself. I'd do this at home if I had to, but since I don't, and my only focus in the morning is getting out the door, this is what works for me. dinner is where my control is lost. About half the time, she cooks meals that are not too bad for me, like stir fry vegetables The rest of the time - like just last night where she made frozen pizzas - it's up to me to simply control myself - my portions. My 9-year old ate twice as much pizza than I did last night. Simply put, I've made the decision to eat better (despite being denied for surgery from insurance), and if I fail to do that, I have only myself to blame.
I think you're 100% right here. My guess is, if she ever becomes supportive, it won't be until post surgery and you're feeling good and she's able to see the results.
My advice: Ever paid attention to the flight attendants safety talk/demonstration when you fly somewhere? When the oxygen mask falls from the ceiling, you are supposed to put your own mask on before assisting your children. This is because if you don't take care of yourself first, you may not be able to help anyone else. To me, this concept is universal. You first fund your own retirement and emergency savings, before funding your children's college. This same concept needs to be considered here for your health; if you do not take care of yourself first, you may not be alive to have that happy marriage. It's just like they say, it's up to you to make your self happy; it's not your wife's job to MAKE you happy - it's up to you. If you are not healthy and happy, it will make your marriage less healthy and happy. Your first duty is to yourself. Make the decision that's best for YOU, and make the rest work.

puttin my 2 cents in !!! hang in there !!!My fiance really did not want me to have the surgery either . he prefers "chunky" girls!lol!...now that the weight is coming off....oh boy!!he is lovin it and cant take his hands off my curves !!!!
u need to go ahead with your decision and once its done its done .your wife is worried im sure , but assure her in the long run she will be glad u did it . it is soooooooo great to walk alongside my bf and not huff n puff anymore!!As far as meals ...he fends to himself...and is glad to do so !!!Things will get better, but im sure she may have some insecurities of her own.best of luck to ya !!!

Mich has a lot to say and obviously does no personal research. If she would have just checked the OP's profile then the situation would have been clear.
There are obvious signs in her posts that she likes to interject her opinions without knowing the situation.
Grandma always warned me about people that have a 100mph mouth & a 20mph mind.

The attny thing sounds fishy. Bet there's a kick back going on.

Not NOLA but Baton Rouge here, too! Dr. Allain on 10/15.
It takes an especially strong person to make this change while being surrounded by THE BEST food anywhere.
I'm dying for a muffalotta from Central Grocery and some "thin" fish from Middendorf's!

Sure r a lot of nurses here. I'm a doc and I was sleeved Friday December the 28th. I went back to seeing patients in the office the following Wednesday, but my office manager said I looked "yellow" and sickly. I did not operate for the first 2 weeks, and I think I was barely ready then. I thinks there something about working in the medical field that makes a lot of people overweight - I thinks it's the stress.

Feb 13 I'm so excited & scared at the same time.

I was able to get in 5 zumba classes in 3 days this past Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday (before Turkey day)...On Tuesday I actually had a class at 10am then one at 5:30pm and one at 7:00pm.
It totally makes my heart smile because at one point I could barely walk up the stairs of my own home, to this...GOD IS GOOD! And I am so thankful for the strength and energy I now have!!!!

NO LONGER afraid or hiding from the camera at family get togethers! What a WONDERFUL liberating feeling!!!!!!!!!! shoot away, CHEEEEEEEEEESE LOL!

I had not been exercising as much as I should have been because my knees were still hurting, at my one month appointment my doctor said I could take my arthritis medicine again.
However, I may not need it that much longer - or at least not as often. Yesterday, I decided to take a walk, I forgot to take my arthritis medicine and I walked from my upstairs apartment, down the stairs, across the courtyard, across the road to the front part of the apartments, across the front parking lot, and then down the street to little strip center on my street. It wasn't very far .35 one way, and I only stopped at the end and sat down for about 5 minutes or so. I used to have to sit down 3 or 4 times to make it that far and my knees would hurt a lot. This time my knees didn't start hurting enough to make me stop until I get to the end and then when I rested a bit it didn't hurt as much as it had before. And then I walked around 2 stores before I headed back. I am guessing that another 20 lbs and my knees won't hurt at all.
And I can scratch almost my whole back.
I bought 2 pair of jeans at costco the other day - they were size 18 and one fit and the other didn't, one was 1% Spandex and the one that fit was 2% Spandex. Then I went to Walmart and they had a pair of jeans that was 18P and was 2% Spandex but this one didn't fit either, but they will in probably 5 or 10 lbs.
I was not able to overeat at Thanksgiving this year. I did eat more than I thought I would be able to eat but way less than I would have eaten in the past. First, For Breakfast I had a Protein shake. Then I went to my friend Linda's house for lunch. I had 5 Ritz crackers with a bit of cream cheese and Raspberry Chipotle Sauce and my friend cut up slices of different kinds of cheese into quarters and I ate 4 quarters of cheese (1 whole slice) and 4 or 5 black olives.
Then I went to my friend Sam's for dinner and had a couple of pieces of carrot, celery and broccoli dipped in guacamole and 2 deviled egg halves for appetizer and then dinner came and I had about 2 oz of turkey, a small piece of cornbread, about 2 tablespoons of cranberry sauce and about 2 tablespoons of sweet potatoes. Later we had sugar free vanilla ice cream with apples cooked with cinnamon, nutmeg and diet Dr. Pepper. I felt like I ate a lot but I know in the past I would have eaten about 3 times that much.