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I made some chicken salad from canned chicken and ate that with a few Water crackers. I brought 4 oz for lunch and 7 crackers (a serving). Couldn't eat all the chicken salad and threw away 2 of the crackers.

At almost 3 years post op, it is still all about choices. The difference is this, now we really are in control, at least this is my experience. The cravings I had prior to surgery, aren't there anymore. Yes, I may WANT something or something might sound really good.....but I can resist, I can make wiser choices than I use to do. Do I ALWAYS resist you ask.....No, absolutely not. Dr. Davidson said this is NOT a diet, it's a way of life. Sometimes a piece of cheesecake sounds good, and I will share a piece with my daughter or husband. There was a time in my life when we'd each get our own, and resisting was almost painful, although some times I'd make the wise choice. You understand, don't you?
Today (as I type) I am eating an entire can of Solid White Albacore tuna (that is 1/2 cup). I make it with 1 TB of Lite mayo and I added a baby dill pickle. My lunch is packed with 24 grams of Protein and 168 calories. Sometimes I eat half the can and will eat it on ten or twelve Mini Club Crackers or Special K Crackers, but today, I CHOSE not to eat the crackers because I wanted the protein!! My other option was left over roast. 3.5 oz of roast would be about 30 calories more than the tuna and 4 grams of Protein less. It would have been yummy, but I knew the fish would be healthier. I don't think it would have been a 'bad' choice, but what I'm having is better. It really, really makes ME feel in control when I make a wise choice like this! It is so much easier post op.
What are y'all having for lunch?

me and my wife did the WLS at the same time it was the best thing ever now we are on the same plan and doing it as a team !!

EXACTLY RIGHT. I make yogurt by the gallon. it's much cheaper than store products and tastier too. If you're really worried about doing it right you can even buy a yogurt maker that will keep it at just the right temperature, but I've never had a failed batch just making it in a huge pickle jar, setting in a warm Water bath in a crockpot and covering with a towel. It takes a long time to make yogurt but it's not labor intensive at all.

I like Yoplait's 100 calorie greek yogurt. High Protein, good flavor and the lowest sugars I've seen.

What about making a few smaller ramekins of like a layered taco salad with the guac and bean dip and just eat it with a small spoon? Can just grab your own portion size and have at it.
If you're on solid foods you could use vege sticks as the dippers - jicama is good as it's crunchy and very mild and great with the Mexican style dips.< /p>

Sleeved 12/10 down 28 lbs since surgery.

Some amature observations:
She's against the surgery, but doesn't want to come right out and say so. This is the "passive aggressive'" approach.
All excellent reasons you've given YOURSELF for moving forward with surgery. She doesn't get this part.. at least not yet.
Here's where I have a little more direct experience. My wife doesn't work and I have little control over meal planning - particularly for dinner. I began this most recent diet in October. Here is my approach: I have 100% control over Breakfast and lunch during the work week. I drink an Isopure shake for Breakfast and have a simple sandwich for lunch. If I snack, it's hard-boiled eggs that I prepare at home and bring in to work. I keep the stuff for sandwiches at work, and make them myself. I'd do this at home if I had to, but since I don't, and my only focus in the morning is getting out the door, this is what works for me. dinner is where my control is lost. About half the time, she cooks meals that are not too bad for me, like stir fry vegetables The rest of the time - like just last night where she made frozen pizzas - it's up to me to simply control myself - my portions. My 9-year old ate twice as much pizza than I did last night. Simply put, I've made the decision to eat better (despite being denied for surgery from insurance), and if I fail to do that, I have only myself to blame.
I think you're 100% right here. My guess is, if she ever becomes supportive, it won't be until post surgery and you're feeling good and she's able to see the results.
My advice: Ever paid attention to the flight attendants safety talk/demonstration when you fly somewhere? When the oxygen mask falls from the ceiling, you are supposed to put your own mask on before assisting your children. This is because if you don't take care of yourself first, you may not be able to help anyone else. To me, this concept is universal. You first fund your own retirement and emergency savings, before funding your children's college. This same concept needs to be considered here for your health; if you do not take care of yourself first, you may not be alive to have that happy marriage. It's just like they say, it's up to you to make your self happy; it's not your wife's job to MAKE you happy - it's up to you. If you are not healthy and happy, it will make your marriage less healthy and happy. Your first duty is to yourself. Make the decision that's best for YOU, and make the rest work.

I have worked in all male field and all female field and if I could go back to all male I would in a heart beat! Women in groups like that can be jealous and catty. I am sure if you had any other surgery they would have sent flowers and have been concerned about you. They are not because they see this as an elective surgery you are doing so that you will look hotter than them. They are not educated on this surgery or why we do it. People really only care about themselves. Stop investing in people in treat you like trash and invest in those who care and understand you. I sound a little bitter but after losing a bunch people now care and I don't have time for them.