misslady

Hey there everyone! So I'm new here...I've been lurking around these boards for about a week now. Here's my "short" story
I had my first consultation with my surgeons office back for LapBand in June 2012. For insurance purposes I had to do a 6 month doctor supervised diet. I completed that December 28. Then, my surgeons office submitted my paperwork for approval. I received approval Jan 9. I have had tunnel vision straight to Lapband ever since. His nurse practitioner tried to talk to me about sleeve the day of my consultation and I declined politely that I wasn't interested in that and didn't want to waste her time or mine. Fast forward to last week, I attended a BEGIN class upon learning I was approved, I get to the class and its a Sleeve class...they agreed to let me stay and just told me the differences in Vitamins and post op diet. I was all excited for a call the next day to set up my pre-op testing and appointment, the call I received was much different than expected...they had submitted my paperwork for the "wrong" procedure. I was approved for Sleeve. I panicked...then I calmed down and really thought about that this might be God trying to nudge me into opening my mind and eyes to what rights in front of me. So, I started researching the Sleeve while waiting to meet for "rediscussion" with my surgeon today. The more I've researched and prayed the more confident I am that I was about to make a mistake with the band, not that the band is bad or wrong, just that it isn't the right decision for me. SOoooo....I'm happy to say that I will be having my SLEEVE done on Friday, Feb 22! Now that the actual decision and stress that came with wrapping my mind around something totally different than what I set out to do...I cannot wait!!!!
Crystal

Thank you and I hope so! I wouldn't mind fast forwarding through the surgery.

Congratulations! Time will go by fast and you'll be sleeved before you know it.

Hi! I am new and have a date finalized for my surgery: feb. 26. Anyone else with the same date. Ideally, I would like to lose 70 lbs with an end weight of 140.

Hopefully they'll all come around. Best wishes to you on your weight loss journey.

Thank you to each and every one of you!!! You have no idea how much your words mean and make a difference. After more prayer and more talk with my husband and reading your comments I am much better and still determined to move forward.

I have been carrying this around for 2 days and I have to get it off my chest! People and their comments can cause some frustartion. I am taking all the steps to get approval for sleeve surgery hopefully by March Spring Break time. So I have decided that I am only sharing this decision with my husband and 1 co-worker until day of surgey I might tell siblings and mother. Just discovered on Tuesday after my EGD that I have chronic active gastritis and peptic esophagitis all from GERD and the hiatal hernia that was discovered. I must admit that I have been on an emotional roller coaster about my decision to have the surgery. I have been surprised at the mental process taking place. Some days I am extremely confident and others I am full of doubt. Started this 2 years ago and when I mentioned it to family it was a total meltdown from everybody about why not to have it. Even my 14 year old broke down in tears about not having it. My fiance' now husband was totally against it to. So I did not poceed thinking I will do better.
Fast forward two years and there has been more health crisis, more medications added and about 10 more pounds. I am taking between 10-13 pills a day for hypertension, diabetes, high cholesterol, thyroid disease, pituitary issues and just discovered I have sleep apnea and that has been causing things to go out of wack! I may not have a very high BMI (36) but my co morbidities are no joke. People always say but you are not "big" enought to have that kind of surgery, just stop eating and start exercising. Well helllllooo if it were that easy we would all be in perfect health and form. Even my husband now is on board because of how he has seen me have health crisis. I am 5'8" and weigh 236 as of this morning.However no one else would be on board and I am not discussing this choice now because I don't need the negativity. I have been in mental mouring about the things that will change from the vain(clothes and shoes-i have thousands of dollars worth of clothing-over 300 pair of shoes) I battled a shopping addiction. I am wondering if this will flair up when I have to buy a new wardrobe. My daughter(now 16) saw me looking at a video and she freaked again and started with mom please don't do it. We can work out. I know they think they have my best interest but please support me if not my decision. A co worker overheard me talking about the surgery and she went ballistic about not doing it, no schedule it, she has this diet I can try, I am going to look like I am sick or on crack blah blah blah. It really did get to me.
Sorry it's long but maybe here some one can understand all these different emotions, thoughts and dilemma's. How can I be both full of doubt and anxious to just get it done. I know I do not have 100 pounds to give and believe my body will stop before I get to that point. But the thought of being diabetes free and possibly high blood pressure and cholesterol free makes it worth it I know. The weight loss is an added benefit. Thanks guys for letting em vent and keep me in your prayers and I move forward in this journey to a better and different life.

Thank you to each and every one of you!!! You have no idea how much your words mean and make a difference. After more prayer and more talk with my husband and reading your comments I am much better and still determined to move forward.

Thank you to each and every one of you!!! You have no idea how much your words mean and make a difference. After more prayer and more talk with my husband and reading your comments I am much better and still determined to move forward.

Wow! Great job! You sound like me! 5'2 255 at start hoping for my surgery next week!! I don't want to buy new cloths I just can't wait to wear smaller clothes lol!! You sound like you have a good attitudes "every day is a new day"!! Absolutely! I'm am also nervous about loosing the weight and then putting it back on since that has been my whole life I am gonna try to stay positive and start a new life with my sleeve!

shandytx83 welcome
its always nice to get new blood in the neignborhood
83 lbs lost - WooHoo
telling/seeing you have lost weight,, old clothes don't fit anymore???
getting rid of your "big" clothes - buying new smaller sized clothes is quite a committment
thats a great NSV (non scale victory as we fondly call it!!)
kindof like "out" with the old - "in" with the new!!
many people buy clothes in their transition period at goodwill - then you are not spending lots of money on clothes you won't be wearing long
you being 5' you probably want to lose another 40 lbs???
you can't wake up dailty being afraid that you are going to "mess" up
eat something wrong - gain the weight back
you are 6 months post op losing 83 lbs - still wanting to lose weight - don't think about gaining, don't worry about the future
concentrate on "today", continue your great work
try and drink more Water, that is important
you said - "trying really hard its not easy every day its a new start"
every day is NOT easy - you are right
there are days that are more challenging than others
corny, but if one day you slip, pick yourself up and start again
do your "best" thats all you can do
i can see you are working really hard
putting one foot in front of another you are awesome!!!!!
take care
nice to meet you
keep up the good work
congrats on your success

Thank you to each and every one of you!!! You have no idea how much your words mean and make a difference. After more prayer and more talk with my husband and reading your comments I am much better and still determined to move forward.

I don't have any words of wisdom but I wanted to give u a virtual hug. I could feel your pain and frustration when I was reading your post and I sincerely hope everything works out smoothly for you.

Hey Miss Lady,
I do understand how you feel. sometimes you have just gotta let it out. I am a nurse to by the way. You are right when you say it is an emotional; roller coaster, but you have to do what you feel is right for you. I have come to find out that everybody is not going to be as supportive as we would like to be or if they even support us at all. Fortunately I was prepared to do this basically along and I prayed real hard and fast for the Lord to be by my side as I embark on this journey. And you know what some wonderful things have happen, The few people I have told have been very supportive, people you I thought wouldn't understand but they do and I am grateful. Of course I spoke to my children first and they wanted to know WHY WHY MOM you don't need to do that you look fine. Ahhhh but what looks good on the outside is not always how it is on the inside, so I began to explain my reasons for wanting to do it, my daughter after a lengthy decision she understood and was encouraging, my son however was not easily moved by the surgery or my reasons for it. But we talked some more about it, he still doesn't want me to do but he is supportive none the less.
You look like you are a praying woman, and I would say to you, don't worry about things that have not happen, he is always there to help us and put things in perspective, as you walk this journey of weight loss through sx allow him to lead and guide you. Those things you think you don't have strength enough to resist allow the Lord to take over that burden for you. Those things you can control do so and those that you can't allow the Lord to take care of it for you. He wants that we be happy and healthy and if we trust and believe he will take control and help use through. This is a good forum you have come to wil people understanding what you are dealing with.
I just hope and pray that my words have brought you some comfort. If you ever want to need feel free to contact me.....Prayer for you my pre-sleeved sister.....

Sometimes I wonder if it's harder on the people around us for us to change or on us. People who react that way are either uninformed about the surgery or sabateurs (sp?) who don't want us to change because of their own insecurities. This is why I told almost no one about the surgery. My mother-in-law's horrified reaction AFTER the fact made me realize my decision was right.
-Kendra

#1 - Your wedding pic is beautiful!
#2 - This is going to be YOUR journey. You cannot DO or NOT DO this for anyone but you. It *will* be hard... but you can do it!
~hug~

Geez, so sorry your daughter is so upset about it. The rest of the folks I wouldn't worry about though , it is your health and only you and your doc knows what is best to put an end to your serious health problems. If there is a support group at your hospital or surgeons office, maybe you could take your daughter so she can meet others who have benefited from the surgery? Also, maybe take her with you to the doc and your doc can explain why this Is so important?
Good luck on your journey and I hope your daughter will come around.

Ditto on the above..
{{hugs}}

Hi Miss Lady, Unlike many people, I told EVERYONE that I would be having the surgery!! I felt accountable that way. That includes my 20 and 14 year old daughters. I did not ask for their opinion. I only asked that thy support and respect my decision. When the naysayers would have their say I would smile and except the challenge to prove them wrong. Our decisions about our weight and health are very personal and I was not about to let anyone still the opportunity for me to do what was best for me and something just for me. While I totally understand the emotional roller coaster that comes with this journey, it has been sooo worth it. Walk in faith and get ready to be blessed with a HAPPIER, HEALTHIER life. 4 months later and 50 pounds lighter, now they all love the new me and they want to know more about the surgery. Heck, my BFF is on board and embarking on the journey. All the best to you... the New Healthier YOU!!

I have been carrying this around for 2 days and I have to get it off my chest! People and their comments can cause some frustartion. I am taking all the steps to get approval for sleeve surgery hopefully by March Spring Break time. So I have decided that I am only sharing this decision with my husband and 1 co-worker until day of surgey I might tell siblings and mother. Just discovered on Tuesday after my EGD that I have chronic active gastritis and peptic esophagitis all from GERD and the hiatal hernia that was discovered. I must admit that I have been on an emotional roller coaster about my decision to have the surgery. I have been surprised at the mental process taking place. Some days I am extremely confident and others I am full of doubt. Started this 2 years ago and when I mentioned it to family it was a total meltdown from everybody about why not to have it. Even my 14 year old broke down in tears about not having it. My fiance' now husband was totally against it to. So I did not poceed thinking I will do better.
Fast forward two years and there has been more health crisis, more medications added and about 10 more pounds. I am taking between 10-13 pills a day for hypertension, diabetes, high cholesterol, thyroid disease, pituitary issues and just discovered I have sleep apnea and that has been causing things to go out of wack! I may not have a very high BMI (36) but my co morbidities are no joke. People always say but you are not "big" enought to have that kind of surgery, just stop eating and start exercising. Well helllllooo if it were that easy we would all be in perfect health and form. Even my husband now is on board because of how he has seen me have health crisis. I am 5'8" and weigh 236 as of this morning.However no one else would be on board and I am not discussing this choice now because I don't need the negativity. I have been in mental mouring about the things that will change from the vain(clothes and shoes-i have thousands of dollars worth of clothing-over 300 pair of shoes) I battled a shopping addiction. I am wondering if this will flair up when I have to buy a new wardrobe. My daughter(now 16) saw me looking at a video and she freaked again and started with mom please don't do it. We can work out. I know they think they have my best interest but please support me if not my decision. A co worker overheard me talking about the surgery and she went ballistic about not doing it, no schedule it, she has this diet I can try, I am going to look like I am sick or on crack blah blah blah. It really did get to me.
Sorry it's long but maybe here some one can understand all these different emotions, thoughts and dilemma's. How can I be both full of doubt and anxious to just get it done. I know I do not have 100 pounds to give and believe my body will stop before I get to that point. But the thought of being diabetes free and possibly high blood pressure and cholesterol free makes it worth it I know. The weight loss is an added benefit. Thanks guys for letting em vent and keep me in your prayers and I move forward in this journey to a better and different life.

Good luck! I hope you feel better! I am only telling my mom because she had gastric bypass 5 yrs ago and my BFF because she is the one who always eats with me! Lol and her sister because she cooks for us, I asked them to keep it secret because I don't do we'll with comments and they understand. I will be telling people that I am changing my life quit drinking smoking and abusing my body with bad food and I am now focusing on eating healthy exercising and being positive! I am very happy about it! Besides the sleeve is just a tool like a measuring cup! Lol

I submitted my pic to Plus Size Magazine (still plus sized and I have lost 85 pounds) and they put it up
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on their Facebook and Twitter pages. Made my day

Thanks guys. He had to do biopsy also and have some esophagitis going on from reflux damage. So will wait for the biopsy results. I do my psych consult next week and then we can submit to BCBS for approval.

Congrats to you and your spouse. You look great!! Must feel like you get to start the honeymoon all over again (not saying it had ended lol)