Qvrfullmidwife

ah...just read your update...good!

You would be OK with it if your husband hid something as important and life changing as this from you? Sounds to me that if you cannot trust your husband with this information that maybe your marriage needs the attention first. Hope you get all worked out.

balderdash! I agree with the suggestions already given. I have a ring, a simple gold band that was originally bought from Sam's club for me to wear when pregnant and my fingers were swollen. Unfortunately I am now wearing that ring fulltime, but when I have lost my weight and I am down to my "real" size I will have my rings resized. So...having your rings resized is badluck but having to wear a different ring due to fingers too large or small isnt? How convoluted. I guess having to have your rings cut off your finger as some that I know have had to do isnt the best of luck, either...

We had finally gotten together the money (self-pay) and were looking at getting it done within the next couple of weeks... and then found out that there is a new baby on the way. Absolutely thrilled about a new baby. So disappointed about having to delay lapband. Oh well. Good thing that I rarely gain weight while pregnant, huh? Oh well, see you in a year, I guess.

Please keep in mind that if your insurance is through your workplace that it is probably not the insurance company that decided not to cover this but that your employer decided not to pay for this to be a covered service. Companies may chose to have exclusions, things that they exclude from coverage, usually in an attemt to keep the cost of health coverage as low as possible. Smaller companies are more prone to do this from my experience due to their obvious need to pennypinch. One option is to go talk to the powers that be at your employer and request that they change this when the policy is up for renewal, most likely in January. And no, there is no point in appealing. This is not a matter that they have decided that in their estimation you do not meet the requirements...this is a matter that you could have the highest BMI on earth with every comorbidity known to man and you would still not be covered for the proceedure. We will be paying for it by taking out a home equity loan.

" my current response to the "OMG you are getting so pretty!" is "I've always been pretty, you just haven't been able to see it"" how about "...you've just been too shallow to see it"

Juli I am so in awe that you are confident in a bathing suit! That is fantastic! And I like you idea of speaking to little kids..."What I want to do is say something to these kids who just stare like, "I can't help but notice you looking at my fat. It's really soft and squishy. Do you want to touch it?" So they don't stare at the next fat woman who crosses their paths." ...up until the "do you want to touch it?" If someone asked my child if hey wanted to touch their body...well...it may be closed-minded of me but I would be quite alarmed! So if it were me...I'd leave that part out. Hmmm..my story...senior in highschool. Always been a bit "plump", as my 100-lbs-dripping-wet mother bemoaned constantly. I had, however, always been a cheerleader, ever since jr high. While practicing for try-outs sr yr one of the other girls heard that I would be trying out with the same guy who she was trying out with...and I was trying out first. She threw a fit, saying that he would never be able to do a good job with her lifts and throws "after having to handle a cow like you"...she said later that day "not that I meant anything mean or anything, but you know..." She was *maybe* 15 lbs less than I. *Maybe*. And I was between 145-150...really huge, you know.

Can't comment on the stress, but "I cannot stand bad manners on kids - they are not born that way - they need to be directed to learn what is appropriate. I blame the parents." Mother of ten children and breeder pf Great pyrenees dogs, here and I agree...on both--to a degree. I think to a large degree children..and puppies..are born self-centered and both need to be trained to consider the needs of others whoch is the base of good manners.

oh no! I am so sorry!

I have heard several people say that a part of the psych evaluation was the question of what would replace food for you, esp if food is a crutch or addiction for you pre-band. I guess the answers will be as varied as hepeople who answer but I am curious, what did you say? And has post-band reality match to what you said?

I asked a similar question a few weeks ago...we raise dairy goats and I make and sell cheese...not banded yet so cant answer the 'how will it all work out' type of questions. Will be watching this thread with great interest...

So, Lotsofkids...the first post stated that this was caused by a virus but then I think that I saw that your sig line read (I think it's been changed) that it was caused by the band? What caused this? (SO glad that you are apparently well on the road to recovery...I bet those lots of kids are feeling very blessed)

LOL Jack!!!!!!!!

Very passionate about it here, too, it is a big part of my midwifery practice not to mention the fact that I have now nursed ten children, but I have gained 40lbs while nursing this last one and enough is enough! Given that apparently my body makes rather efficient use of calories while nursing I just didnt see why we shouldnt at least CONSIDER somewhat of a fill, playing it by ear as long as baby/supply continued to do well. Of course getting banded might be the first step, hmm?

not to be facetious, but.. step 1--make appt step 2--go to appt step 3--discuss my concerns (prob diabetes) step 4--say "I have been researching weight loss surgery, whatdo you think?" step 5 when he says the only one he cold recommend for me wodl be lapband was--sigh in elief over not having to fight! (I really worried abot it but it was really very simple)