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Im sure there will be those who say he is just feeling insecure but personnaly, that kind of comment is made to degrade you. I dont care if he is insecure - there is no excuse for that kind of hatefulness. It is totally self-centered and was meant to hurt you. Please dont let him get by with that behavior. You deserve better....either by him or someone new.

You have to do what's best for you. With that being said, you wouldn't walk around in clothes that are 10 sizes too small. (least I hope you wouldn't) Maybe your guy has gotten too small for you, and it's time for a change.

I think you are very pretty and I think your BF is very insecure. I don't see either of those changing. Probably time to get someone in your life that is supportive!

Oh guys, I am just ready to rip my boyfriends head off. We have been together for a little over two years now and I've always been extremely overweight my entire life. Well now I'm 3 months post op and almost 60 pounds down and I feel great! I work out every single day, can finally start dressing more age appropriate, and am finally finding some confidence that I've never had. And I hate to say it, but I think my boyfriend hates the idea of me feeling better about myself. He's been 100% against WLS from the start and always making remarks about how if I really wanted it bad enough I'd be able to do it without the sleeve! And now yesterday I went bathing suit shopping and was THRILLED that I could fit into a normal bathing suit (i don't think I've worn one since a infant) so I sent him a picture and be says to me "You know, I have to be honest, you've really let yourself go. You don't take care of yourself like you used to." WHAT?! This is the first time in my life that I actually am taking care of myself! This really hurt my feelings and I just can't shake it. I know this is kind of just a rant and I really appreciate having this forum to vent these issues too. Has anyone else had this kind of reaction from a loved one? I think it might be time to send him to the curb..... Here's the picture I sent him BTW Starting weight 262, current weight 206

Thank you guys so so so much! You've managed to put a big smile on my face. It took so much for me to get into a bathing suit anyways, never mind to have my own boyfriend pretty much tell me not to even bother. I just wanted to crawl back into my baggy t-shirts and shorts.

This post is just what I needed. I had surgery Jan. 8 and seem to have been stuck at 40 lbs lost for a couple weeks now. Here I was thinking I was "failing" but I'm actually within a normal range of the rest of you.
Maybe now I can stop stressing about it and move on.

I was sleeved on 1/8 and I am down 14 pounds, however I did not have a pre-op diet and I am dying to eat something!!

I was sleeved on the 8th and dropped about 16 pounds the first week and nothing at all since. Pretty aggravating but I'm keeping my fingers crossed that its just our bodies adjusting and we'll start dropping pounds again in no time!!

Thanks all! While I appreciate the input, I would like to caution some of you on your tone. If I am needing "help" please offer a suggestion of who/where. If you can't fathom a fat chick making a fat chick choice lol **shrugs** If you can't relate to a mistep and have no encouragement...please keep it moving. I don't need anyone being condesending (not to be confused with being honest/telling it like it is). I talked to my doctor about my spoonful and he assured me that I would be fine and that ALLOT of people slip (if they want to admit it to others or even themselves). I also understand that there are those that NEVER mistep **round of applause** Anywho, I've been back on track the past couple of days. Again, thank you for the support. In the event I mess up again...I'll be back to confess it.

I was sleeved on 1/8 and I am down 14 pounds, however I did not have a pre-op diet and I am dying to eat something!!

I am going shopping at Victoria's Secret without buying lotion, cologne, lip gloss, lingerie bags, hangers or socks! Lol

Ok, here's my real dream. I never went to a dance in school, no prom because I didn't have a boyfriend and back then plus size prom dresses were unheard of. I want to buy a slinky, blingy, sexy evening gown and go out with my husband. I don't have a clue where we would go LOL, I don't care if we go to the movies, I just want the experience.

So glad others are feeling this way as well. I am 6 days post op and I feel like I am just going to LOSE IT if I see one more food related commercial on tv. There's got to be a trick to this.. Lol

Also want to add that for me personally I had this surgery to live a normal life. A lot of people will say things like 'Oh don't eat that, it's not on plan' but for me this isn't a 'plan' this is my life. I'm not saying to go crazy and cram a sheet cake down your throat, but I don't want to deprive myself. If its my birthday and I want to have a tiny sliver of cake I'm going to work it into my calories for the day and do so and NOT feel guilt. If this surgery guaranteed I could never do that again I never would have done it. Part of the reason I didn't do RNY. It's a life style and a balance- for me anyway. Everyone is different. That's how I justify eating something like cake on a special occasion, just incase anyone was waiting to wag their finger at me lol.

So glad others are feeling this way as well. I am 6 days post op and I feel like I am just going to LOSE IT if I see one more food related commercial on tv. There's got to be a trick to this.. Lol

Wow, 75 pounds lighter and 10 years younger! Congratulations, you look great!

Thanks for all the positive words guys, I really needed the pick me up today. My drain will be removed this afternoon and then I am heading home!
and littlebearzmom; I asked my surgeon the same question. He said that they just put them in when a procedure becomes more bloody than usual, so your body doesn't have to absorb any extra "stuff". I'm not sure if that's a good answer, but I REALLY wish I didn't have one right now lol.

I have that head hunger sometimes..I buy sugar free puddings..and frozen fruit and make pies..taste like real thing..even with cream cheese sometimes..like cheese cake..get into diabetic cook books and do it that way.