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My only regret is I didn't do it years ago. I'm 58 years old and now trying to fit in everything I've missed out on for years. My husband says I sometimes wear clothes a little to young for me (my daughter in laws disagree) I say I'm wearing what I want and nothing to revealing or vulgar. Yes, this was tough in the beginning,, the first month or two I wasn't sure if I made the right choice. But after a few months I knew the surgery (sleeve) was so right. I have always lived for food, , it ruled my life, I still feel I revolve around food to much. But the sleeve helps keep me in control. I'm 16 months out and 107 pounds down. I range from 130 to 134. I want to stay here and that is my struggle now. I'm trying to stay away from very much fat and sugar.. Protein first!!! Everyone says I will gain some weight back now.. I don't want that to happen. I've never been a size 5/6 before,, I love it!! I can play with my grand kids,, go to Water parks and keep up at Disney!! I need to do something with the skin hanging problem.. it is a problem!!! For the person that is unhappy and feeling left out.. time will change this.. I go out with people and have a drink and enjoy the food,, but I usually share with my husband or take most of mine home.. esp. if I had a drink... it makes me feel good that I can take some home instead of eating a whole plate of food and feel guilty later,, that is in the past.....

Buyers remorse after nearly three months of doing something or buying say a car you always ask self why. Well I'm nearly three years removed from my surgery and have lost 180 pounds and love life. Did it suck the first few months hell yeah it did I couldn't have a beer or pizza. Two things I never had since. Not to belittle feelings but remember you wanted to surprise someone and went to buy a new big screen tv and stand. When you got home you were so pissed at how hard it was to put together and wire all the wires correctly. BUT when done and while you were sitting there on couch one by one your family walked in saying wow this is awesome you admit all the hardships involved were gone and a sense of pride filled your head. Relate this to your surgery and think how great YOU will feel and then hearing all the praise from everyone else it's worth it. Toughen up its going to get better. Remember it took up 20 to 40 years to become obese what's another 2 to become "normal"

To keep on working on myself. I want my inside to match my outside...whereas before surgery and goal I really felt that the outside was what needed changing. In fact, my problems started inside and the weight was just a sign of the problems in my life. I spent years being fat because I was hiding myself and didn't want/feel I deserved to have real relationships with other people. Slap on an extra 100 pounds and a mean look and people leave you alone, you know?
I have been told how pretty I am my whole life and I suppose that due to a myriad of totally screwed up experiences I tried to distract from that with ugly behavior. I want to be more grateful. I want to be happier just as I am...without feeling like I need something else to happen before I'll allow happiness into my life. I have come so far in my life and I have done an amazing job taking care of my family and being a mom to my kids...things that, quite frankly, have taken a lot of work and effort for me, because I grew up in such a terribly messed up home. If you learn how to parent and how to have relationships from your family as a child, who teaches you how to do things properly if they're completely backwards and harmful? Loving people or letting people close to me does not come naturally. Being nice, being friendly, being open, being unselfish...those things take effort though they are becoming more natural as I continue to work on them.
So for me, the most important thing is to make sure that who I am inside and how I'm feeling match the woman on the outside, who is pretty and smiling and looks like she has it together. I want kindness and forgiveness to be my first responses, not irritation or frustration. It's hard. I'm a work in progress and I want to keep working. I also want to remember that I always get to try again tomorrow. And every day I work on me, the REAL me, not just my body, it gets easier and I feel less like I'm acting or performing.
That's got to be progress.
~Cheri

Mine is 2 keep this weight off and get down 2 a healthy bmi I'm only 2months out

Glad you're getting better not worse!

I am feeling a lil better still having breakouts & still needing naps but hanging in there also the sex drive is still low but trying things 2 help that out most of all I'm just happy & thankful I didn't have leaks and complications like some others

I am now offically 3 months post surgery. I am down 56 pounds and my BMI is now 48.7 down from 58. So far I am happy with my results. Like I have said before this surgery is serious and not for the faint of heart. It took me 3 years to comes to terms as to whether or not to have this surgery. I have been down the road with so many of the diet programs out there and have never had the results I needed and getting fatter each time I dropped off. This surgery has saved my life. Yes, I still have some bad days but I have been learning to cope with the changes that I still need to make. There is no going back just moving forward. There are so many foods that I miss and I am hoping to get them back over the next 2 years but I am where I am these days. Sipping my Water, getting my Protein in and now enjoying a few steamed veggies and that is OK with me. I feel sometimes like a new born baby who has to take it slow and graduate to the toddler foods before I can start back to regular diet. LIke anything else slow and easy is my montra these days. I still have a long road ahead of me and I just take it one day at a time. If I had'nt had this surgery I am not sure where I would be today so I am happy. Yes, food does taste different to me, I do not crave sweets but that is OK since that is what caused my weight to go up over the years. I feel like I am really in control for the first time in my life. This surgery like any surgery is a risk but one that I needed to take. My blood presure has gone down, I am no longer a borderline diabetic, my knees still hurt but not like they used to. I am still on a cpap machine and I hope by the end of the year I can say goodbye to it. My depression is going away and I am more optimistic about my life. I wish all of you well on your journey. Keep the posts coming folks.

Mine is 2 keep this weight off and get down 2 a healthy bmi I'm only 2months out

Thanks & my nut/therapist said its normal the things I'm going through she said its like the 1st trimester of pregnancy if so can't wait til 2nd trimester I'm so ready 2 enjoy my sleeve

For me, it's not wasting the "Hail Mary" I made when I decided to get weight loss surgery. It's remembering that WLS was my last, best chance to get healthy and now that I am here, I must be vigilant to keep the gift of health I have been given. That means taking care of myself by eating right, exercising, drinking enough fluids, taking my Vitamins, and getting needed medical tests and vaccinations, It also means addressing issues that affect my mental health.
Lynda

Mine is 2 keep this weight off and get down 2 a healthy bmi I'm only 2months out

I told no one except my husband...

My pleasure. Wish you the best.

OK, by the time you folks a few weeks out are feeling better and getting a grip on working your sleeves, I should be be in the early miserable weeks of my post-op -- I will be the one in pain, constipated, and trying to get all my Protein and liquid. I hope that all of you on here today will respond to my post and tell me it gets better. I'll look forward to that.

Please forgive me for double posting if someone else has specifically mentioned this (I quit reading at page 4...).
Please, those of you that are experiencing feelings of loneliness, feeling down, feeling regret, can't figure out how you are going to live your life with these enormous changes that you are making, find a therapist that you feel comfortable with. There is nothing "wrong" with you, you are simply making a huge life change and there are going to be an unimaginable number of emotions (both good and uncomfortable) that are going to go along with that. Sometimes family and friends won't understand. Forums like this one can't substitute for a professional therapist. Having a full range of really strong emotions is completely normal with this big of a life change, and you will need to learn what they are trying to tell you and how to deal with them. A trained therapist can help with that. Maybe you are experiencing situational depression, or maybe you are simply overwhelmed right now by all the changes.
For many of us, our issues with weight is a result of other underlying emotional issues. That may not be the case for you, but there is a lot of emotion wrapped up in being overweight or obese. I expect that you will get hit with emotions periodically that you have no idea where they came from. After making such an enormous change to better ourselves, we deserve happiness and contentment with our new lives and our new bodies. Don't forget that "we" includes "you". That's going take some work and support for our mind, as well. I hope that this post is taken in the love and support that it's offered.
Wishing happiness to all those struggling,
Daydra

Thanks & my nut/therapist said its normal the things I'm going through she said its like the 1st trimester of pregnancy if so can't wait til 2nd trimester I'm so ready 2 enjoy my sleeve

You know even those of us that have "no regrets" have down days too.
Not everyday is sunshine and rainbows as a sleever

I am still pre op. 4 months left of the 6 month supervised diet. I am an RN and have taken care of bariatric patients and have several friends who have had WLS. You are in the..."OH SH*T What have I done?" phase. It will pass. One day at a time it will get better. Your body and mind are under an extreme amount of stress in this phase. You have a flood of hormones with WLS. It levels out when your body adjusts. And in the early stages you are dealing with the head hunger issues. And hunger real or perceived makes us irritable, anxious, and again emotional. Like I said one day at a time it will get better. Sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. Have faith!!! Sometimes all we can do is believe and cut out all negativity. Anyway, you can do this!!!!

Still in the pre op phase. 4 months to go in the 6 month supervised diet. However, I am an RN and have taken care of bariatric patients and have several friends who have had WLS. It is very common to regret it in the beginning. The OH SH*T phase. And you can't help but be emotional it's an extreme amount of stress on your body and mind in the beginning. Just trying to get in the groove of things. Like I said just take it one day at a time. You will feel better!!! Have faith!!! Sometimes you gotta fake it tell you make it....believe it will get better and it will. Cut out all negativity and just believe. You will get there.

Thanks & my nut/therapist said its normal the things I'm going through she said its like the 1st trimester of pregnancy if so can't wait til 2nd trimester I'm so ready 2 enjoy my sleeve

Thanks & my nut/therapist said its normal the things I'm going through she said its like the 1st trimester of pregnancy if so can't wait til 2nd trimester I'm so ready 2 enjoy my sleeve