TwinsMama

It took me almost 7-8 weeks to feel normal again. I'm 11 weeks out and I have more energy than I know what to do with now.

You look great, job well done!!

Pre-op they were okay. I found I liked other brands better like Syntrax, Jay Robb, etc. Post-op I can't do them.

It must hurt to know your partner doesn't seem to be supporting your new you. Especially given that you've done so much to get here. It sounds like it's time for a heart to heart.

We all want to be loved and respected. It's time you tell your partner that negative comments about your body are off limits. Period.

It is going to be that much harder to love your body when you have a negative tape running in the background. Not sure if you have considered therapy for this. Perhaps it's time to try therapy alone and then together.

I was told at a very early age that it is always easier for someone to be pulled down than lifted up. It's about mindset and self-esteem. What it sounds like you want/need now is to be lifted and supported. Your partner needs to be clued in to how much her comments hurt/discourage/frustrate you.

If you discover that she knows and just doesn't care, then you have some decisions to make about not only your relationship but what this models to your kids. I hope this works out for all of you because you've done a marvelous job!!

Congrats, keep up the great work!!

I have had a long road with vomiting, lactose intolerance, and not being able to do Protein powders post-op. Pre-op I could do pretty much any one that tasted good with no stomach issues. Well, I finally found one I can do post-op.

Literally, the ONLY one I can do post-op. I tried Designer whey (yes shocked me that I could do a milk based one) Plain & Simple. It is unflavored (though I can taste it in water/almond milk). I've figured out the only way I can drink it is to make an iced Chai Tea with sugar free vanilla Soy Milk, pure vanilla, and a 3/4 scoop of the Protein.< /p>

If I use a whole scoop of protein I'm back to vomiting and feeling stomach pains. This is a relief for me because I wanted to try and up my protein and I couldn't do it without something in liquid form.

Hope this helps anyone who is not able to do Protein shakes post-op. Again...this is a whey product which I've found I cannot do using any other Protein powder or RTD.

I would add the question of who tracks and who does not track their carbs/calories/protein? I just feel like part of the reason I had this surgery was so that I won't have to focus my whole life on food. Tracking all the time makes me feel like a slave to food and it is really hard to do with 2 busy kids, a full time job involving lots of travel, etc. Are there people on here who are able to just "know" what they can and cannot eat and in what portions? (I know about all the people on here who are vigilant about tracking everything on My Fitness Pal). I'm wondering who is successful doing it a different/easier way???

I pretty much eat the same thing each day. The only variance is some days I'll switch up my Proteins. Here's the thing though...

I have to track new meals, Proteins, etc. I am good at knowing my calories and Protein once I see it on the MFP app. But if I don't track the new items, I don't know how those combinations do for my daily values.

All that to say...I believe tracking is important for long term success. I am honest enough to admit it is not an every day thing for me. However, generally my rule is to track at least 80% of the time because I'd rather do that than not lose all my weight or gain it again.

I like the accountability to myself.

Don't jump ahead of schedule. It will hurt you in the long run. Stick to your plan and drink Water. Add MiO or Crystal Light if you have to, but focus on staying on plan, on schedule, and hydrated.

Congrats!!

I was hungry early out. Make sure you are drinking at least your 64 oz and also sometimes acid mimics hunger. If you're not taking a PPI, maybe talk to your Dr about starting on one.

I still get hungry at 11 weeks, so I know how frustrating it can be. I've gotten used to my stomach noises and even now, my male coworker and I laugh about it. It always starts in quiet meetings.

Sorry to hear that, feel better soon!

Congrats that. is. awesome!!

Also, not sure if you're into this but Bar Method, Callenetics, and T-Tap all work. T-Tap is my least fave but the other two are a great workout that leave you hurting in a good way.

Anything with resistance bands works. I used those pre-op and toned up good when I lost last time. I've found great videos on YouTube that you can do right at home to avoid the trainer fee.

Welcome!

I'm right there with you. Sometimes I dread mealtime because nothing sounds good. I will not eat bread, rice, Pasta and that's what my (skinny!) family often has. I just keep plugging away at eating Protein - it's not that I don't like it, food generally doesn't sous good, especially after I see it. Oh well!

What annoys me is that something can smell and look great, then after a taste it is horrible.

I was told by my dietician and have read in numerous things that the body can only absorb about 30g of Protein at a time. The rest just gets flushed out. Anyone else hear this?

I was told that. Same goes for Calcium. Which is why you have to space Vitamins apart. Our bodies can only absorb some things in small doses.

Thank goodness I'm still doing okay with the shakes, but I really feel for you that just can't seem to stomach them. I take an EAS Protein shake in the morning (14oz., 30g protein) and mix 1-1/2 scoops of ON 100% Whey (36g protein) and 2 tablespoons crushed flaxseed (for fiber, 3g protein). The good news is this breakfast gets me 64g of Protein in and I don't mind a bit. The bad news is it is more calories than I want (460) so I will be looking for ways to reduce this over the next few days. But again, so sorry for you folks that struggle with the shakes!

Maybe you can break your breakfast up into 2 meals at least 2-3 hours apart. The body can only absorb something like 30-35g of protein at one time...so your body is not absorbing all that protein.

Edit: just saw Coco beat me to that comment.

I am on omeperazole 40 mg. the powdered milk is a good idea, but I am now lactose intolerant too. I can't do milk. Cottage cheese is one Protein that goes down better. I just feel sore inside. It feels like a bite or 2 and it's trying to stretch my esophagus:). I'm sure that's not true, but that's what it feels like. I go to the surgeon next week, so we will see what he says. Thanks for the support.

If you can't do whey you probably won't be able to do the powdered milk either. Milk is milk...dairy is dairy.

I would avoid that but maybe try a veggie or soy Protein. I still could not do those but it didn't hurt as much as the dairy ones.

9 months out for me and it feel the same way. I dont get excited or anything considering that i can only eat 3 to 4 bites max! I dont like reheated foods. So that eat slowly thing and over the course of time does not work on me! But i also find it hard to find foods that i like or can tolerate that are nutritious for me. Yea the kitchen isnt my fav room of the house anymore.

I found I can't tolerate reheated foods either. I learned that this weekend when I threw up a meal that was fine when I first ate it. Lesson learned.

I also can't tolerate foods that are not healthy. I can instantly feel myself get sick if I have "bad" foods. That can be hard because you can think you're ordering something healthy and then get sick.

Your weight loss in only 9 months is amazing!!

Hopefully it is nothing more than soreness and a pulled muscle. If it continues in another day or 2, call your Dr just to be sure you're okay.

I can relate. I just used the time to focus on my eating and drinking. Trying shakes, looking online at clothes I wanted to try (smaller), places I wanted to go, etc.

I had a 6 month process then got to approval and found out the (original) Dr had another 6-12 months wait due to the waitlist. I got fed up and picked another Dr at the 4 month mark and they were able to get me in 2 months later.

Looking back it helped to have extra time to prepare for this.

Don't ever feel bad that you are getting help. What you're doing by having a therapist many of us should have done long BEFORE having surgery. So count yourself wise to already have help for yourself.

I agree with Pookey, it would be helpful for her to tell you why she feels this. Maybe she worries about transfer additions (which are very real for WLS post-ops). Maybe she just thinks you're progressing fine and is worried about another distraction during your process. Only she can tell you.

Hang in there and go into this with your eyes open. Hear her out and then discuss what you need to get you ready. If you find she is not being helpful with this, you can always consult another therapist.

I had hunger starting shortly after surgery so I know that experience. However, it is important to keep to the diet given as to not hurt your tummy. Also, just because you can gulp doesn't mean you should.

Your tummy is still so swolen and sore, it may not register the pain of drinking too fast. I would say, keep sipping so as to not hurt yourself in the long run. Eventually the swelling will decrease and if you don't sip, you'll find out the painful way that you should have.

As for feeling "full" that probably won't happen until you're able to do solids. Many don't feel any fullness until then. So get your mind ready to aim for satisfied instead of full. Full can be the difference between feeling good and being stuck in bed with a horrible tummy ache.

Other than that, keep drinking your Water because it sounds like you're doing great.

Ohhh hugs to you. I know exactly how you feel. I have developed fear around eating because I'm worried I'll vomit.

I have read that this will not last. Apparently around 6 or so months we start to find we feel a bit more normal about food. I also read if you haven't been hungry you start getting hungry again then.

Hopefully you're able to do well with the lack of enjoyment around food. I'm actually secretly glad I don't want/like to eat like I used to.