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It sounds like he misses you his friend. You had a relationship with him and lunch time food and he wants that back. Maybe suggest that he bring his lunch once in awhile and you both could eat together. Then explain what you are going thru now so he understands. Men are dense sometimes and have to be told outright.

Sorry you're having frustration with your co-worker, that sucks. I can tell you are trying so hard, and you don't need his temptations! But....I just wanted to throw this out there, from a third person perspective: I could be way off base but it sounds to me like this person just plain likes you. Could be romantic, but maybe not, maybe even just as a friend. Either way, the way he always was able to connect with you was through food. And now that's gone and he misses you..... but that's the only way he knows.
Like I said, I could be totally wrong, or I just always want to see the good in people. But perhaps his motives aren't to try to sabotage you (although it seems that way). And just remember, it's challenges like these that make us stronger!

Maybe that is a bit too much food right now and that's why you feel bad or hurt. I'm 5 weeks out and I could either do the cheese stick or the egg and mayo. And i'm not sure I could eat the entire egg! lol Just depends. And the cracker may be getting stuck, sometimes bread type stuff does that! Just suggestions =) Hope it gets better!

Moregan, Isn't it telling that we cannot take a complement at any weight! It's as though we cannot be comfortable in our skin period. I think that your fiance was very sweet last night. Take him at his word and trust that he is being honest with you.
And, for all of us dealing with weight issues, please don't hate that girl that was once you. That person was just as worthy of his love as you are at your new weight. She is, and was, you! I am preop and it hurts me to see so many people talk badly about "that person" they were before weight loss. I hope that I can still embrace that women because she was brave. She was willing to sign up for this surgery even though it was scary. When she leaves the house she does so with her head high, even if there is pointing or snickers. When you feel unsure of yourself get in touch with that women because she has learned to look for other ways of coping. Some of them were not good (food) but she didn't quit!
Good luck to you!

Juny, I'm preop too. I feel so out of control right now as I wait, and wait, and wait.... I could have totally eaten that batch of brownies! I think it is stress and worry that makes me do this. I'm sure it is very normal.
I have not started my preop diet yet. Have you? Dee:)

Moregan, Isn't it telling that we cannot take a complement at any weight! It's as though we cannot be comfortable in our skin period. I think that your fiance was very sweet last night. Take him at his word and trust that he is being honest with you.
And, for all of us dealing with weight issues, please don't hate that girl that was once you. That person was just as worthy of his love as you are at your new weight. She is, and was, you! I am preop and it hurts me to see so many people talk badly about "that person" they were before weight loss. I hope that I can still embrace that women because she was brave. She was willing to sign up for this surgery even though it was scary. When she leaves the house she does so with her head high, even if there is pointing or snickers. When you feel unsure of yourself get in touch with that women because she has learned to look for other ways of coping. Some of them were not good (food) but she didn't quit!
Good luck to you!

I am post surgery and would love to have a brownie, so thank you for eating mine for me. Hope they tasted yummy!

Great topic! I do worry more about the skin at this point. I don't like the thought of deflated breasts either. I was always rather happy with the girls! I've seen some videos on You Tube and the skin is most bothersome. If it was just me and I could wear some spanks and not care about sex all of that it might not be so bad. But I like sex and I don't want to trade in one body I'm not happy with for another I'm only happy with in clothes. Oh well. I would still rather live a productive and happy long life! I can have more surgery if it really bothers me.
My hubby is awesome. He has NEVER ever pressured me or made me feel bad about my weight. He is very easy for me to be with that way. Part of me very much looks forward to rocking the sleeve with him (wink wink). But I admit another part of me is scared of his reaction to me. I imagine he will be accepting of my new body but he, too, mentioned that he was not excited about extra skin.
This journey is not only life changing for us but for our loved ones. Luckily it seems like we have some pretty good husbands!

Vanessa, You are not a failure! This is real life and it does not always go as planned. I'm sure that everyone will fall off the wagon at some time. You have done the best thing possible and that is realize the problem and take steps to correct it. I would just go back to the basics. Take time for you and get back to the gym if possible. Best of luck! I'm sure you will be back in the saddle soon!

Vanessa, You are not a failure! This is real life and it does not always go as planned. I'm sure that everyone will fall off the wagon at some time. You have done the best thing possible and that is realize the problem and take steps to correct it. I would just go back to the basics. Take time for you and get back to the gym if possible. Best of luck! I'm sure you will be back in the saddle soon!

Hi Tink,
You are singing my song! I have been overweight as long as I can remember. In grades school I was teased for being heaver than the other kids. I was chunky but looking back I was not really fat then. I took a beating verbally from the other kids and my self esteem plummeted. To compensate for my feelings of loneliness and inadequacy I turned to food. It has been there ever since!
I have tried to do wls about 3 years ago I guess. I failed the Psych eval and was diagnosed with depression. If you think you are untreated and seriously depressed you do need to deal with this now. I thought that the doctor evaluating me was nuts! no one that ever met me would EVER know I had depression. I am the first to smile at you. I generally appear happy and seem to enjoy socializing and talking with people. But, that is the surface. In reality I did not get to know anyone very deeply. I just let people talk and I listened. Generally I didn't have to say a thing! It worked well for me at work but outside of work I was existing with ice cream, cookies and fast food as friends. I let my friends lose contact with me. I didn't go out. I stopped caring about my house and could not seem to get the energy to do anything I needed to do. I was in trouble.
Because of my failed Psych eval I went to see a social worker thinking I could get this dx reversed. Nope, she agreed and over time I see that this failed eval was a blessing. In the perfect world I would have been under tx for depression and lost the weight myself. I wish! I have a long way to go.
Your post was timely, Tink. I have my Psych eval tomorrow for the sleeve. I am scared out of my mind I will not pass again. I cannot take yo yoing. It does not help my depression to NEVER succeed at long term weight loss! I need this tool to help me manage both my health and my depression. I know it is not a magic bullet. I think of it as tool that will help me stay on course. I have been under treatment for my depression about three years now I guess. I have learned a lot about myself during this time and I am trying to be positive and I am very excited about the possibility of having this surgery. I really hope my insurance will approve me this time but if it does not I will do it myself.
Best of luck to you, Tink. Please let me know how things go for you. Dee