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Stay off the scale for 3 or 4 weeks would be even better..Your body is trying to heal and it is getting rid of all the meds they gave you. Plus you are swollen and raw from surgery and not as active..Or eating or drinking enough..Numbers are not important..Your health is...Just take care to feel better for now and stop the scale from controlling your life so early in the game.....

I had a similar experience today.. I was riding home from the grocery store and the noise of a child crying and nagging for Snacks and drink..A friend babbling in the back seat. My hubby hitting every pot hole he could find..It was the end of a very trying week for me!.....I thought I was going to lose my mind...I told my hubby that if things were how they used to be I would go home and make a big pot of Spaghetti and meatballs. And drown my sorrows...He looked at me and he saw me smile.....I told him thank god I have my tool..Because I can't do it even if I wanted to. And have no desire to do it anyway. But it is amazing to me how close to the surface it always is!!!! I could taste it..The soothing, filling Pasta and sauce with home made meatballs..It was temporary madness...But I find it happens when I think I have it all figured out... Thanks for sharing your story! It gave me a a giggle or two!

I was sleeved in Nov. 2012..I have lost 200 lbs...100 lbs. indeed!

Congrats @@Kindle You look awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jill I think you know exactly what to do...You said it all in the first few lines of your post. Back to basics girl...Stop grazing and drink your Water.. Dense Proteins first, veggies, fruit, complex carbs.... 3 square meals a day and 2 Snacks..Snacks are nuts, cheese, fruit, yogurt, things like that...Meals are 1 cup of food...mostly dense Protein....You may want to take a few days and return to liquids to restart your journey.....Protein rich liquids.. Vitamins....Look you really need those.. There is no way your body can absorb enough vitamins and minerals by food a lone...A long with the stress you are facing your body is going to start to rebel on you..Run down and out of steam...... The therapy might help..But this is your trek, no one else can run it for you girl....We can help you and encourage you but we can't fix you...While you are seeing the therapist...Stay close to the forum and look for those who can help you, encourage you and stay close to you...Start to really sort things out in your head.....Say it out loud what you are feeling and thinking and you will find that you will feel better and once you change your relationship with food....you will be so much happier....I promise! You did this because you wanted a better healthier you..You must still want it or you would not be reaching out for help..Good for you kid!!!!! Anything I can do, ,just PM me and I'll do my best to give you some help..

No ,no, no not at this stage at all should you be eating popcorn..And now I will tell you why! Popcorn has rough edges that stick in your teeth..These little pieces can stick into the creases of your sleeve and cause problems..It is cautioned not to eat any of it until your sleeve has completely healed...Some say never eat it because of that reason.... Me I eat it and have since about 8 months out....Careful for now..Okay! Don't want complications at the early date....

If you want a Pop Tart then have one, however you will probably feel like crap after and want to get sick to your tummy. It has something to do with the sugar you just want to get it back out of your system...its called the dumping syndrome Nope sorry did not feel like crap. Did not feel bad in any way and have no regrets about eating that pop tart...No dumping or any side effects.....Now if it had been ice cream..holy smack...I would have had to run instantly to the head...But alas...nothing....It is over and there has been no relapse since.....Been there done that....

If you think you are a failure...You are not!!!!!!!!! the weight is fluctuating yes but not packing on. So you are doing things right. I encourage you to get back to basics. And for now..Stop eating the bad stuff until you have got it under control again.....Try liquids for a few days..2-3 Back to Protein first ( dense protein ) Veggies, fruit and carbs...Complex carbs.... 1 cup of food at each meal and 64 oz of Water a day...Not including coffee or tea If you find you are hungry after working out..A few nuts will do the trick..... The only time we fail is when we give up and stop working at it..And you have not.....There is no option but to keep trying and working through your issues...There is no down time...It is the rest of your life.... I was sleeved on Nov.6 2012......what a year eh!!!!Congrats for coming back for help!!!! your going to make it..Maybe not today or tomorrow but it is not a race it is a new life style that we all have to embrace...forever!

When I had my 5.5 month stay due to complications from WLS...All my hair fell out. i came home to 2 little strands on either side of my head. I did not eat for over 5 months and so did not get the proper nutrients to keep it or regrow it... I started to take Biotin and protein and upped the vitamins and soon I started to see little fuzzies coming up all over my head.... I have short hair now but my hubby likes it that way.....Losing hair is part of the package of WLS. Once your vitamins are established and your eating protein and drinking the right amount of water..Thing will change...This from the girl who lost it all except 2 strands of course!!!!!!!

Thanks. And yes i do feel a lot better. My battle with complications rages on..But I would not change a thing.....I am so happy to be where I am now and hope that everyone will find their way through this and come out the other side strong, determined, healthy and most of all happy!!!!!

I was stuck in a size 20 for what seemed like forever and I was starting to think I had reached my ideal size and weight...and then boom...18, then 16, then 14, now 12...Soooooooooo cool..It will happen to you too!

Everyone one worries about messing up after surgery. If they say otherwise they are fibbing....Common feelings and a good thought to keep in the back of your mind as you proceed to change the way you see food.....Take the time to fix your thinking and the body will follow....That is the key to all of it....except the work you will do to get there and stay there..... Soon you will be in the losers circle...Can't wait for you to start your journey!!!!

When my number had finally come up I had just gotten a new Doctor (GP ) Could no longer work with the one I had for 30 years. Fired my Psychiatrist. And was on the look out for a new and improved life... I told her why I got read of them and how I was looking to work with them on this my last change that desperately needed to take place... She said how can I allow you to go through this with no support. I said how can you let me go through this with no support...What???? They were not helping me, they were hurting my progress. They were trying to tickle their own ears with how wonderful they were. I knew more then they did at times, they were not listening to me.... When I explained why the changes, she saw my meaning and said you are Approved. She said she would have never done that before. But understood that if something is not working it is just pulling you down and hurting your progress. The smartest thing I ever did was dump those two!!!!

I spend hours at the grocery store now and it drives my hubby crazy esp. if I forget my glasses and then I say oh can you read this or can you read that......It is fun to shop now. i pick new and interesting things to eat. I love fish and have explored many types. I eat legumes and rices that I did not even know existed...I am crazy for an open sandwich with cheese, chicken slices, tomato and a bit of mayo....Can only eat one slice...But I love it..... Now for treats...I do it, I own it and I don't cry about it...If I change and things go in reverse I will tighten the food belt and lay off of refined sugar and carbs. But for now...The world is wide open...And I am running through a large field of change........

Try jello and pudding, yogurt, vanilla protein shakes, anything non acid for a day and see if that helps. It could be something not agreeing with your sleeve. Or you need to get it checked out by your Doctor!

I had no trouble going through the hoops. Neither will you! Just be honest and don't try to fudge anything.....I decided to do that and because of my honesty they felt I was ready to make a change in my life for the better....

Look mine came on fast and hard..The first time it happened was in the grocery store...I grabbed a bag of pecans off the grocery shelf ripped open the bag and started to eat them...I was dizzy and bumping into things. I was sure I was going to faint. I had no idea what I was doing and was slurring as my husband asked the lady to ring the pecans in and handed me the bag again and told me to sit down and wait for him... Next time it happened when I had a treat. My eating was really off and I was not eating to be exact. All of a sudden I wanted ice cream. My hubby ran out and got it..He said well at least it is milk..That one was worse then the first...I did pass out with that one...It was at home though..My blood sugar was 2.2. Supposed to be 5 or a little over... I did go and get a monitor and the works and now I can feel when it is coming on so I have to eat 3 meals and 3 little Snacks.... No one can tell you how you feel or if or not you have this condition. Go to your Doctor and explain. Or call your team. My nut recognized it immediately and sent me to my family doctor..Where he said yup it is so!!! Do this...I have been working on it now and hopefully I can do it with proper eating and not meds to control it.... @@musiclover

I miss the insults kids pointing at me Having issues with migraines and lower back pain I miss not being able to hug my grand daughter tight to me Playing with her outside I miss not being able to sit at my computer all day long because I could not stand for more then ten minutes I miss it when my hubby had to ask for the extender on the airplane because I could not fit in the seat belt I miss going to the hospital and them calling ahead for the extra wide wheel chair I miss the brown hospital gowns that I had to wear because they were made for people like me. I miss the medical profession treating me like I was dirt under their feet. I miss men stopping their cars in front of my house to watch me waddle around my yard and then going home to tell their wives they can't believe I would have the nerve to leave my house. I miss 8 men who had to carry me in an ambulance because I was in a car accident and I looked over at another person who has 2 carrying him I miss everyone always assuming that I have diabetes or high blood pressure I miss the fear in my families faces when they saw my health going farther and farther down. I miss thinking I should end it all because I could not see my way out of it all. I miss having my hubby scout out restaurants to see if there was a table I would be able to sit at. I miss the acrobats I had to invent to wipe my arse On and on and on we go..Where it would have stopped no body knows!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I could go on and on..And if anyone believes I miss any of this then I have some ocean front property in Arizona for sale...Not to mention the Brooklyn Bridge....

O h you are doing great! Your going to pay for the choice you made right now and then soon you will be singing it from the roof top that you did the right thing for you.. Your body is healing. Medical chemicals are still being released from your body. your sleeve is inflamed and sore...It is all part of the process. If I were you I would relax and look after yourself and start thinking about the new clothes you are going to fit in soon... Hold on it is going to be a bumpy ride..But one that will be awesome in so many ways.......OKAY

I was in the hospital a few weeks ago for 6 days and 3 men were giving me a lot of attention. One of the nurses pointed it out to me and she laughed her head off. I was totally annoyed...She said what do you expect..You look hot...I told her that they can bugger off and that I don't need that kind of attention.. She said sorry...men will be men...I looked at her and she shrugged her shoulders and said enjoy it while it lasts...It may end as fast as it came to you..Meanwhile it's all good! Okay so......ah! not used to that crap! @@Teachamy

It takes a lot of work to rethink your old self and build a new you from the ground up @@playlikeworldchamps I am like you or was..I have worked my tail off learning what to eat and how to eat and what is best to eat for my body's sake....The honeymoon period was a delight..Now it is constant on the watch...... I know there will be times that I will struggle..The addiction is just under the skin...But to keep fighting now that I have my tool gives me hope that if I do my part. I will never see 380 again...

As long as they look and don't touch enjoy the ride...It would be the touching me that would get them a punch in the gut! lol

I am terrified about even touching a little white doughnut @@Georgia I believe that they are solely responsible for at least 20 lbs of my excess weigh..Maybe more...I will not allow them in the house...I do look at them but I do not touch. Thanks..now I am thinking about them...

A slider food is a food that you can eat a lot of. It does not have a dense Protein as a base and so therefore it slides right through your sleeve and does not allow the flaps to close on either end of your sleeve to start the digestive process.... Me..pop corn is one of my worst sliders I can eat 3 cups before I even think about it.....Ice cream, Cookies, candy, cake, chips, Popsicles, usually refined sugar anything is a slider...Some people are fortunate and can't eat refined sugar...Most can.... If you start with dense Proteins then you will fill up with a lot less food.....And your flaps will close ( sounds like a plane ) lol to hold it in the sleeve to start breaking it down...

Make sure you address those fears @ and allow the WLS community to aid you with the answers. We have been there and anything you fear someone on this forum has experienced it and can help...Me too, I'm here if you need me. You can even PM me and I will respond!