IMHO I think a lot of it is how you carry yourself. I have always been an outgoing person, I love people. I'm a pretty confident person, usually always happy and have a smile on my face. Its been my experience that people like that confidence factor, they are drawn to it, heck, I met my husband at my 350lbs! Ive never let my weight hold me back from anything. If ppl like me great! And if they don't...well their loss. I like who I am, overweight or not. I do my hair and makeup everyday and take care in how i look. I don't say all that to sound stuck on myself, but I've been overweight my whole life and I just accepted that a long time ago. It was only because my health was deteriorating, with high bp, sleep apnea and diabetes lurking in the shadows and I was sick of it. I researched this surgery a long time before I got it and I'm happy that I did.
Some ppl that I have known or have observed that are overweight have a kind of stand offish aura about them. Almost like they put it out there with their body language or facial expressions that they are not happy about their size or they just look uncomfortable being around people. My heart goes out to ppl like that. I know there are ppl out there that are just mean and just don't like fat ppl or we disgust them. Thats too sad because they are missing out on getting to know some nice ppl. I just wonder how many skinny ppl who lack self confidence don't experience the same feelings of being ignored and heavier ppl just automatically assume it is because they are overweight? Just food for thought.
I did notice the other day though that I was being checked out at the gym by a couple of guys and that made me smile, didnt mention that to my husband tho!