kelliecalgary

I am so frustrated right now. Today makes 3 weeks since I had the surgery and I have only lost 8 lbs!!! I have been eating less carbs, walking more, and eating more protein. What in the heck is going on? I lost more weight than this just eating around 1800 calories a day before I even started the pre-op diet! Is it always going to be like this? Was it even worth it?

I am a July 9th girl as well!!! I am kind of pissed off right now though, because I have only lost 8 lbs!! Can you give me an idea of what you eat throughout the day so I can compare? Best of luck on your journey.

My surgeon put me on Prevacid before the surgery and wants me to stay on it for at least 6 months post-op to avoid problems like this. Hopefully you can get things figured out. Good luck

Good Luck I hope that everything goes okay from here on out. I kind of wish that I had the RYN but here only the lapband and the sleeve are an option. Keep us updated on your progress.

The model doesn't change at all above a certain weight....and I am well above that weight!

I thought the same exact thing. It took me a long time to realize that some people don't see themselves the same way I do. My mother in law thinks that she is overweight, and I think she is skinny as a rail. Same with both my sisters who are size 0 and size 2!! Personally I think you are an ideal size! One that I am striving to get to. You have curves! But I wish you the best with your journey and hope that you are able to get to where you want to be....

I moved to Canada over a year ago from Texas...and oh how I miss Pappasito's NOM

After having the sleeve have any of yall went to a nice restaurant and ordered a small meal or an appetizer and of course you can't finish it all and ask for a doggy bag? I feel guilty because the chef actually asked me if everything was okay when we went out to dinner the other day. I am sure that he assumed that I am a big girl and can EAT! I think he thought that I didn't like the food, it was very tasty but as we all know, I couldn't finish it. Has anyone else has this feeling of guilt? If so, how do you handle the situation? Do you let them know that you've had surgery and that there is no way that you can eat it all?

agreed.....don't beat yourself up over 1 cheat, just try again tomorrow and take it day by day. Good luck!

I thought I was the only one that had this problem. I got the surgery and like less than a week after surgery, full fluids weren't cutting it, I moved on to pureed and then mushies and then to whole food by week 2, because I was still getting hungry all the time, and not staying full even with lots of protein. Let me know if you find something that works for you!

Mine did not require sutures or staples, they used steri-strips to close the wounds. However, I had a C-section and they did staples to close that incision. They do not hurt when they are taken out. Hope all goes well.

How long after surgery did you try to conceive? How long did it take you to become pregnant?

Day 3.....thought it was gas at first.....nope...

I really don't mind that he is eating healthy food, but he has other options for healthy food like the fruit that I buy because he says he wants it and then never eats it and it goes bad. Then he will stop by 7-11 on the way home and buy a huge Slurpee and danishes and donuts and all that sugary stuff I can't have. I am not going to buy anymore Ensure shakes, instead I am going to make my own protein shakes and I will buy other convenient healthy foods for him that are not so expensive like yogurt and cheese stix.

I feel your pain about being a military family. My brother is deployed right now and will miss the birth of his daughter in October. He has not been there for his other 2 sons births either because he was on deployment. It will be rough to juggle your kids and surgery and everything else, but just remember to take help where you can get it and do what you can, don't over do it. I actually hired someone to come and clean my house for me while I was recovering. Everything will work out okay, just try and stay positive....best wishes!

The doctor told me at least 3 weeks but 4 days post op me and my hubby got randy and had no complications at all. In fact, I think it helped!

I wish I would have known more about the post op diet BEFORE i had the surgery.

Growing up my father was very physically abusive. He was also mentally abusive, pitting us kids against each other as well as against my mother and visa versa. When I was in Kindergarten my mom sent me to live with my grandparents in another state for almost 2 years, and I rarely got to see my family including my 3 other siblings. It was when I was living with my grandparents that my grandma would make me food to make me feel better about being there alone without my family. When I went home at the end of 2nd grade it was quite an adjustment and I continued to use food to make myself feel better. My father and mother were both upset that I had come home a lot more "fluffy" than when I left and I would be punished severely for eating too much. Once my father choked me until I almost passed out for eating too much chocolate. This only made the problem worse as I used food to comfort myself, so I started sneaking food at night, and knowing that I had to be quick about it I would eat extremely fast, and then hide the evidence of my binging in the outside trash. The abuse continued and when I was in the 5th grade my dad beat my brother severely and I went to school the next day and told on him. Nothing was done for about a month and when the school finally contacted him, he threatened to send me away if I ever said anything to anyone again about what went on in our home. He used to punish us sometimes by making us do sometimes up to 500 of an exercise like push-ups or sit-ups or up to 3 hours on the Nordic Track. He would also give us the options sometimes of us being able to take beatings for our other siblings. By the time I was in middle school I had 2 new brothers making it 6 kids in our family. I had 3 little brothers that I would often take their punishment for them so that they would not get hurt, and to numb the pain on being beat and helpless I would shove down the pain by eating anything and everything. Twice while in high school I showed up with swollen black eyes, and bruised ribs and Child Protective Services got involved kicking my dad out of the house, and my mom would let him back in a few days later. At 18, my dad was finally arrested after I pressed charges after he held a knife to my throat and threatened to kill me and split my head open after hitting me in the head so hard. Over the years I have worked on forgiveness of both him and my mom, and tried to get past all of it, but sometimes it still hurts. I still struggle with emotional eating, and it's a daily struggle. I wish you all here the best. I just try to remember that "FOOD IS FUEL NOT THERAPY". It doesn't always work but I keep trying.

I had my surgery July 9th and I did not tell my family that I was going in for WLS. I told them I was getting a hernia repaired. My husband and in-laws and best friend are the only ones that know about what surgery I was having. My mom was always big until about 10 years ago when she started working out 3 hours a day and only eating veggies and taking weight loss pills. She has never understood about my binge eating disorder and has always pressured me to lose weight while sending me home with leftovers. Don't worry about what other people say, just do what is right for you!

is it similar to the meat sweats?

My hubby is the only guy I have ever been with that I have told my weight, and it was at the highest its ever been while I was with him.

I was supposed to have 4 Ensure High Protein shakes a day for 4 weeks before my surgery. I tried to do it, and only got a day and a half before I cheated, then did not do it again until 3 days before surgery and then I stuck to it. I was so scared that I was going to wake up from surgery only to have the surgeon tell me that they were unable to do it because my liver was too big. When I woke up from surgery that was the first thing I asked, "did they do it?" The surgeon said that my liver was fine! I know that some people have cheated and had trouble with the surgery but from what I have seen the majority of people don't follow the pre-op diet as instructed and it goes okay.

I bought a fitbit at the beginning of starting the Calgary Weight Management Program. We needed a simple pedometer but I wanted something that would track my sleep as well. It was a little over 100 dollars but I used it everyday and I liked that it kept track of everything for me, that I could go back and look at months later if I wanted to. I have noticed that I have not used it at all since I got the surgery 2 weeks ago. If you think you will use it everyday then it is worth it.

so if you are at a stall so close to your surgery what are you supposed to do to get out of the rut you are in?

It is not that I mind him eating healthy food, but I have my stuff in smaller portions, and where I will eat 1 cheese stick a day he will eat 4 or 5. There is block of cheese he can cut bigger pieces from, but instead he eats the stuff that is portioned out for me. Ensure shakes aren't cheap, and he will have one for breakfast and a muffin and whatever else. I wouldn't mind if it was because he wanted to eat more healthy but it is just because it is easy for him. Maybe this is a more deep seeded issue for me. I have always been very protective of my food, but this time it feels more personal for some reason.