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I have finally found a Breakfast I LOVE!!! I actually look forward to it everyday.
1 soft boiled egg
1/2 toasted Arnold Thin with
1/2 T Peanut Butter and
sugar free jelly
Fills me up until lunch and tastes great!!!!

I'm in the same boat. Banded in May 2013, 8.75 in my band and still not in the green. I can (and sometimes need) to eat a lot of food to feel satisfied.
Two important things:
- It's okay and totally normal to be frustrated and want to vent
- It's not okay to give up
Every day is one step closer to being in a good place.
GOOD LUCK!!!

Hi there, you are absolutely not a failure -- a) you are here, and you're seeing your doctor regularly. You have only been banded six months and there are many people who take this long to find the green zone and discover what works well for them in terms of behavior modification. We all got banded because we could not control our appetites. We need the band to assist with that and you are getting there. Really! Don't beat yourself up. We are in this for the long run. Good luck on Tuesday. And maybe reread the Dr. Simpson piece on the band not being about restriction - I can't get it here or I'll lose my post but a few people (Missy, Jim) have it in their signature and I often reread that to get my head in the right place. I've also been really working on my eating triggers -- started seeing a therapist to try to go deeper into specifics, like I automatically want to prep myself with food prior to business meetings or a conference call, or I'm looking for a reward. Or the old screw this attitude after too much deprivation, the eating from boredom or to Celebrate. When those impulses come I try to break them down so I am mindful. May still want whatever it is but I have introduced a thought process and that makes something into a choice rather than a given. That's what I'm changing, the way I think. Keep us posted! You are going to get this fill and find that place of peace, I know it!

I have finally found a Breakfast I LOVE!!! I actually look forward to it everyday.
1 soft boiled egg
1/2 toasted Arnold Thin with
1/2 T Peanut Butter and
sugar free jelly
Fills me up until lunch and tastes great!!!!

I have finally found a Breakfast I LOVE!!! I actually look forward to it everyday.
1 soft boiled egg
1/2 toasted Arnold Thin with
1/2 T Peanut Butter and
sugar free jelly
Fills me up until lunch and tastes great!!!!

I have finally found a Breakfast I LOVE!!! I actually look forward to it everyday.
1 soft boiled egg
1/2 toasted Arnold Thin with
1/2 T Peanut Butter and
sugar free jelly
Fills me up until lunch and tastes great!!!!

Some things that I've been eating for Snacks are:
Fage Greek Yogurt with zero calorie flavors (like DaVinci)
Turkey Sausage (35 calories) with string cheese
Pepperoni slices with string cheese melted on it
Nuts
Edamame
Veggies or crackers with Hummus
pudding with FF Whipped Cream
Fat Free hot dog
Ricotta cheese with splenda and vanilla
Turkey Jerky Bacon
Cold cuts rolled up with cheese

For me, one of the best days with the band was when I learned to be set free from counting calories or traditional dieting...ever again.
Came in conjunction with settling into life in the Green Zone, where my portions are set (small) and I only need to eat good healthy foods...
I also exercise a lot, and stay very active...so it would appear what little I do eat, and drink in the day, I probably burn the majority of it off....I used to go crazy worrying about this and trying to sty on top of it....

Where is the 'waving bye bye' emoticon?

hoover123 - thanks so much for your reply and don't feel bad for asking what happened! We are all trying to learn everything about this process - the good and the bad.
When she first had surgery, she was only able to eat or drink a very little (as in 1 sip of Water every 15 mintues). She was probably eating less than 500 calories a day and most of those were Protein shakes. She was told it was normal and that her stomach needed to stretch. Long story short, it was not normal. She had stoma stenosis. Basically the opening from her stomach to her small intestines was too small and the food/liquids coudn't get through. (apparently this quite common with bypass)
She had a procedure where they inserted a balloon to stretch it.
10 days later she went to the ER with horrible abdominal pain. It took about 12 hours for them to figure out that she had sepsis, where bowel matter leaks into the blood stream. If it's not fixed via surgery, it's fatal the mixing of fluids (I'm not exactly certain how) shuts down your organs. As they were wheeling her into the OR (14 hours after she got to the ER), she went into caradiac arrest and died. Had they got her into OR earlier, all things considered, she'd be fine.
The autoposy won't be back for 14 -16 weeks. I'm not sure if the sepsis was caused from the procedure or something else...

all I know it is a big needle.....

First, I am very sorry for your loss! I also have a friend who had gastric the same time I had my lapband! Ironically ... It has strained our relationship because of how limited she is compared to me! I was banded 7-24-13 and only have had two fills! I have 5cc's in my 10 cc band. Yes I have restriction but I am not in the green yet! So.. I can eat pretty much what ever I want just smaller portions! She however is struggling with everything she eats! I feel for her and try to help but she gets so angry at me! I haven't spoken to her in days because she is obsessed with my diet! I refused to talk about food the last time and she hung up on me! So! In a weird way I understand the loss of support!
I struggle now because I have to count calories and make choices that are hard in order to keep the 30 pounds I have lost off! I too crave that honesty that only another "fat" person can give with WLS experience!
Hopefully we both find the support and guidance we need!

Hugs you! So sorry for your loss! I am here for you! Just a message away.. Use your grieve as a crutch to help you through this tough time..not an excuse in your journey... i think you found a good group of people here who will always in some form "get it" hugggs again

((((Hugs))) Sweetie! I am so sorry for your friends passing. I have heard of complications, too. Please keep yourself well. God bless you, and visit us, we are friendly here, but I know online friends are not the same as your friend since nursery school! Karen

Ah that really is sad life can be s**t at times... I know what you mean by wanting to find someone that gets it.. Its not always easy to do. I've been banded since 3rd july 13.. Most of the time I'm pleased I did it. Not always if I'm honest. Message me anytime... So sorry about your friend..
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Goodness, I am so very sorry for your loss! That is so terrible. There are no words to describe how very sad that is!
And You can look me up anytime to chat with you! Again, So sorry for your loss.
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Your story brought tears to my eyes. I am picturing two wonderful friends sharing their excitement about their next journey together and how their lives about to change forever together. Both being scared, nervous and so happy for one another. Because you are right, if you have no friends or family that are in your shoes they have no clue the heartache obesity causes each and everyday. Yet you had someone to share that with and it was taken away from you. Although you are grieving maybe picture your friend with her angel wings pushing you along each day and she is watching you over you every minute. I believe this is what she would want for you. I am so sorry for your loss...you have chosen a great nurturing website that will help get you through this. You can be angry, sad and be completely honest on the site. Although we may not know someone who has passed from WLS, we do walk in your shoes everyday as for the physical and emotional pain obesity brings us. Please take care of yourself as this is what your friend would want...only the best for you. May God bless you in these days ahead and you can always do a shout out here....on behalf of LapBandtalk, prayers and hugs to you.. Please forgive me for asking, but may i ask what went wrong? I don't mean to be rude, but i am thinking many are wondering what happened since this is the first time i have heard of one passing of WLS...Again, i am so sorry, i just cannot imagine what your going through. I am worried about your recovery and keeping up with your nutrients....Be careful and keep an open communication with your doctor..they should know about this as like many have mentioned, you need to keep your strength up, be well.....

I had lap band in May of 2013. My best friend since nursery school had gastric bypass in July of 2013. This was our journey together. There is such comfort of having a friend that is exploring this journey with you. Someone who tells you like it is, who doesn't play games, who is as real as it gets.
She passed away on 9/8/13 due to complications from WLS.
I'm lost. I'm heartbroken. She's the only person (other than my husband and immediate family) that knew I had lap band. She was the one person that I confided in about everything. The one person who "got it."
She was my sanity. The one who broke through the bull ****, could talk about the real issues of being fat, without getting caught up in the bs, who knew what it was like to be a fat mom, but wanted the best for our kids (we both have 5 and 3 year old), who could admit what we were missing without feeling sorry for ourselves, who could talk about how different our lives would be when we reached our goal weights, who knew that it sucked that we have "rib fat" or an "apron" of fat, that we couldn't see our kitty kats and that our 'girls' were better off before we spent years breastfeeding. She made me laugh, she was raw, but real, and that's what I loved most.
I miss her. I miss her honesty.
I'm desperately seeking someone who "get's it," who isn't trying to play the game, trying to be a perfect mom or pretending to live a life that is completely conformed since surgery. I'm struggling every day and am assuming that others are as well.
Am I crazy to think that there are others out there that understand where I'm coming from or who feel comfortable with inappropriate humor/raw reality? If so, I'm dying to connect with you. I miss my friend dearly and am desperately in need of someone to fill the void of honestly.
When all is said and done, I’m looking for a friend in this journey. No judgment. Just reality and honesty about how much life sucks with being a fat mom (or dad!!!!)

LOL I was shocked to actually see mine after the tummy tuck!!
It was like...*looks down wide eyed*... "holy hell, I DO still have kitty!"

Thank you so much for your support. Your words mean more than you'd know.
She had surgery on 7/2/13 and, immediately following the surgery, felt great. (She lost 85 lbs in 2 months). She was shocked at how little she could eat or drink (only a sip of Water every 10-20 minutes) and was told that was normal, that her new pouch had to stretch a bit. She never seemed to be able to eat more and then, as she added solids, she started to have unbearable acid reflux and vomiting. She couldn't go a day (and sometimes a meal) without vomiting.
She had an endoscopy about 6 weeks after surgery and found out she had stomal stenosis. Basically the hole from her stomach to her small intestines was tiny, too tiny (most likely from scar tissue building up from the surgery). She had to have the hole stretched via endoscopy. She had that done and was beginning to feel a bit better. Then, 9 days later, she had horrific abdominal pain. She went to the ER at 10:00 am and found out she had sepsis, which is a leak of bowel matter into the bloodstream. She passed away just after midnight.
There's no doubt I'm on this mission for the both of us. Each and every pound lost means more today than it ever did.
Good luck on your journey and count your blessings!

Thank you so much for your support. Your words mean more than you'd know.
She had surgery on 7/2/13 and, immediately following the surgery, felt great. (She lost 85 lbs in 2 months). She was shocked at how little she could eat or drink (only a sip of Water every 10-20 minutes) and was told that was normal, that her new pouch had to stretch a bit. She never seemed to be able to eat more and then, as she added solids, she started to have unbearable acid reflux and vomiting. She couldn't go a day (and sometimes a meal) without vomiting.
She had an endoscopy about 6 weeks after surgery and found out she had stomal stenosis. Basically the hole from her stomach to her small intestines was tiny, too tiny (most likely from scar tissue building up from the surgery). She had to have the hole stretched via endoscopy. She had that done and was beginning to feel a bit better. Then, 9 days later, she had horrific abdominal pain. She went to the ER at 10:00 am and found out she had sepsis, which is a leak of bowel matter into the bloodstream. She passed away just after midnight.
There's no doubt I'm on this mission for the both of us. Each and every pound lost means more today than it ever did.
Good luck on your journey and count your blessings!

Thank you so much for your support. Your words mean more than you'd know.
She had surgery on 7/2/13 and, immediately following the surgery, felt great. (She lost 85 lbs in 2 months). She was shocked at how little she could eat or drink (only a sip of Water every 10-20 minutes) and was told that was normal, that her new pouch had to stretch a bit. She never seemed to be able to eat more and then, as she added solids, she started to have unbearable acid reflux and vomiting. She couldn't go a day (and sometimes a meal) without vomiting.
She had an endoscopy about 6 weeks after surgery and found out she had stomal stenosis. Basically the hole from her stomach to her small intestines was tiny, too tiny (most likely from scar tissue building up from the surgery). She had to have the hole stretched via endoscopy. She had that done and was beginning to feel a bit better. Then, 9 days later, she had horrific abdominal pain. She went to the ER at 10:00 am and found out she had sepsis, which is a leak of bowel matter into the bloodstream. She passed away just after midnight.
There's no doubt I'm on this mission for the both of us. Each and every pound lost means more today than it ever did.
Good luck on your journey and count your blessings!

Thank you so much for your support. Your words mean more than you'd know.
She had surgery on 7/2/13 and, immediately following the surgery, felt great. (She lost 85 lbs in 2 months). She was shocked at how little she could eat or drink (only a sip of Water every 10-20 minutes) and was told that was normal, that her new pouch had to stretch a bit. She never seemed to be able to eat more and then, as she added solids, she started to have unbearable acid reflux and vomiting. She couldn't go a day (and sometimes a meal) without vomiting.
She had an endoscopy about 6 weeks after surgery and found out she had stomal stenosis. Basically the hole from her stomach to her small intestines was tiny, too tiny (most likely from scar tissue building up from the surgery). She had to have the hole stretched via endoscopy. She had that done and was beginning to feel a bit better. Then, 9 days later, she had horrific abdominal pain. She went to the ER at 10:00 am and found out she had sepsis, which is a leak of bowel matter into the bloodstream. She passed away just after midnight.
There's no doubt I'm on this mission for the both of us. Each and every pound lost means more today than it ever did.
Good luck on your journey and count your blessings!

Thank you so much for your support. Your words mean more than you'd know.
She had surgery on 7/2/13 and, immediately following the surgery, felt great. (She lost 85 lbs in 2 months). She was shocked at how little she could eat or drink (only a sip of Water every 10-20 minutes) and was told that was normal, that her new pouch had to stretch a bit. She never seemed to be able to eat more and then, as she added solids, she started to have unbearable acid reflux and vomiting. She couldn't go a day (and sometimes a meal) without vomiting.
She had an endoscopy about 6 weeks after surgery and found out she had stomal stenosis. Basically the hole from her stomach to her small intestines was tiny, too tiny (most likely from scar tissue building up from the surgery). She had to have the hole stretched via endoscopy. She had that done and was beginning to feel a bit better. Then, 9 days later, she had horrific abdominal pain. She went to the ER at 10:00 am and found out she had sepsis, which is a leak of bowel matter into the bloodstream. She passed away just after midnight.
There's no doubt I'm on this mission for the both of us. Each and every pound lost means more today than it ever did.
Good luck on your journey and count your blessings!