Kitt3000

Ask your doc, not everyone is the same. He/ she is looking at you, monitoring your healing progression. Exciting that you are fired up to do it!

Or have new people think you are amazing???

Tomorrow I am 5 days post op and I can finally have full liquids! I am so excited. I know this means I can have Protein Shakes, but can I also have creamed Soups and things like pudding? I am excited to get food In me so I have energy!

Really? Let's turn that around....if you had no lead in your pencil anymore, is it ok for your wife to go elsewhere? Or would you believe in honor, understanding, commitment, dare I say love? And the huge one: self respect, self esteem.

Really? Let's turn that around....if you had no lead in your pencil anymore, is it ok for your wife to go elsewhere? Or would you believe in honor, understanding, commitment, dare I say love? And the huge one: self respect, self esteem.

Really? Let's turn that around....if you had no lead in your pencil anymore, is it ok for your wife to go elsewhere? Or would you believe in honor, understanding, commitment, dare I say love? And the huge one: self respect, self esteem.

Hi Georgia. First of all, anything you feel or concerns you is not lame. Know you can talk to some of us about anything. Now, I understand your feelings but have to tell you that you are wrong in this one. Not wrong to feel hurt, you are never wrong about how you feel. And nobody should ever tell you different! But wrong to put too much on this man. He didn't hide anything from you. He didn't lie to you. And you have to remember that he is an individual just like you. I wouldn't take it as a slight that he didn't ask you to this. It's a family dinner. If it were a wedding and he could bring a date but chose not to, that's a slight. This is not. Instead of reading into the negatives, think of the positives. He was honest. He didn't lie. But let him have one night alone with his family. If it continues than say something. But first time? I was told this once and it's stuck with me. Try to hold Water in your hand. If you cup and cradle it you will hold it forever. If you squeeze it too tight it will drain through your fingers and you will lose it. Good luck. And remember, you can talk to us about anything.

Perhaps he hadn't seen his brother in awhile? And wanted to spend some time with him. He did tell you about the dinner, he wasn't hiding that or lying about that. Guys don't think the way we think, they're not as sensitive as we are. He probably doesn't get why you're upset. I say just let it go, what's done is done. You've let him know that it hurt you so hopefully he understands for the future.

I'll not insult, but I will be honest with my opinions of what I read here.
You've been dating four months. That doesn't make you one of the family!!! I am probably your boyfriend's mother's age. Sometimes I like to have a FAMILY dinner. Until mine are in a serious enough relationship to get engaged, I do not consider the boyfriend/girlfriend a member of MY family.
If their bf/gf is at the house when we get ready to eat, of course they're invited -- It's the Southern thing to do. However, if we're going out to dinner, they may or may not be invited, but DH and I make that decision and let our son/daughter know. Another thing to keep in mind: As the parents, when we go out to dinner we pick up the tab. Adding an extra person can significantly add to the tab and do you really have a right to EXPECT that?
Stepping off my soapbox now.

Really? Let's turn that around....if you had no lead in your pencil anymore, is it ok for your wife to go elsewhere? Or would you believe in honor, understanding, commitment, dare I say love? And the huge one: self respect, self esteem.

Really? Let's turn that around....if you had no lead in your pencil anymore, is it ok for your wife to go elsewhere? Or would you believe in honor, understanding, commitment, dare I say love? And the huge one: self respect, self esteem.

Is your Protein powder chocolate?

Before being banded, remember telling my Cardiologist my plans....he turned, looked at me and said "YOU?" "WLS?"
Why not a good dieting, exercising, etc, etc,......all you need is 100 lbs.....eating right should do that for you.....
I did not want to spend the next 20 minutes telling him my life story how I tried and FAILED at every diet in the world, no self control, addicted to food, blah blah blah.....
Now, today....he cannot stop complimenting me....the guy who had at least one heart attack, Cardiac Surgery, miserable blood work results, and one foot in the grave........he NOW refers to me as HIS best patient, HIS success story.....the guy who runs stress tests like it's just another day at the gym.........wait a minute...he's the one who did not think it was a good idea.....He's the one who said all I needed to do was (another) diet......I guess He's the one who suffers from amnesia....

when i started i was 336 and was a head hunger princess and felt this was my destiny...but it was ME who had to finally say, i am getting WLS, and its up to me to do what i can to make it work..dont hate me for saying this please.....
but you make the decision in what you eat...you revert back to old habits because you chose to do so.....now you choose to do better....eat your allotted amounts of healthy good for you foods and drink alot.....i am sooooo proud of you for seeing someone to talk to and help you through this..i did that for many a year after i struggled with bulemia and binging so i know what you are going through..
we all are addicted to food. if we dont eat, we die
so eat.....but choose to eat healthy foods and let the band help you eat less....you have to truly WANT to lose weight and then DO what you have to do.
you wanna talk or b**tch or vent, pm me anytime...
i am sending big hugs from NC to you.

Well I got banded the 23rd... and I'm thanking tha high heaven's that I really haven't had any pain...

Every Dr. Has different orders for pre and post op diet. Understandably, you are nervous. I think your best choice would be to contact the doctors office, and get your diet information in writing. Do you have an e mail contact? You will probably want to reference back to the diet plan occasionally anyway, and having it in writing will help you. Good luck!

Every Dr. Has different orders for pre and post op diet. Understandably, you are nervous. I think your best choice would be to contact the doctors office, and get your diet information in writing. Do you have an e mail contact? You will probably want to reference back to the diet plan occasionally anyway, and having it in writing will help you. Good luck!

Going in tomorrow to repair a kink in my tubing. We mull over all the complications that can arise and hope and pray one doesn't happen to you. But this is something that was out of my control apparently. Trying to find a positive spin....the complication could be so much more problematic! This should be an easy fix. Please send good thoughts and energy my way.
Thanks

If it is like the one my doc's office did, they give you a fact sheet to read about the lap band, post op, effects, risk etc., then they have a true/false page of questions that you already have the answers for because you just read it. Also if you have been paying attention to the chats on this site, you should pass it with no problem! No need to fret. Really.

Just had my pre-op visit. I was overloaded with information but I think I got it. I finally feel like my mind, body and soul is completely onboard with my decision and i'm ready for this change.I can't wait for May 3rd @ 7am!!!!!

for YOU

You are probably too tight, or, you're having a difficult time adjusting to the eat small bites and chew chew chew?
Ask yourself and check this out? Can you wait to eat too long and still eat Soup or slider foods? Or, is it just meats or breads? If you can eat slider type foods with no problem, you probably aren't chewing enough or taking small bites?
tmf

How bad? A lil extra Creamer in your coffee or a pint of ice cream?
I log all foods and just seeing the numbers helps me.
I won't claim to be perfect. I've had a cookie, some cupcake at a bday party but I logged them and considered them a treat. I view this as my life, not just a program I'm on until goal weight. I think that mindset helps me-knowing day in and day out I need to make good decisions to be healthy.
So think about what you've been doing and if you really don't think you can do it alone then you might consider talking with a therapist. We all have issues with food. The head hungry is a lot worst that the stomach grumbling.

Depends on you and your family/friends. The lesson I learned is that you can't "untell it".

I called my husband this afternoon and said I have some great news and then I have some bad news, which he said when you say bad news it means it going to cost me money !!! so I said yes I have some bad news,( We are going down to the beach this week end with some friends)
so I was packing and started to try on my summer outfits guess what? all to big !!!
So guess who is going shopping ????