KAATNS

Forget about full. If you are full, you've eaten too much. Think satiety..which is when you are no longer hungry. Eating slowly lets you know when you've reached this feeling and it's something you will learn over time. Some folks have 'soft stops' which can be any number of things..a burp, a runny nose, a feeling of pressure in the chest...it's very personal. Just know that this process of re-learning how to eat...and how to listen to your band does not happen my magic and you may go months before the band starts to work for you.
I can only give you my experience which is that one year post banding, I can eyeball portion sizepretty well at this point...I choose healthier options as often as possible, and at home, I have a scale to keep me from inadvertently overeating. Oh, and I use myfitnesspal...not as often anymore because I know what I can and can't eat, and what the calorie count of most foods are at this point but I recommend all these tools to use along with the band.
If you take away anything from this post, know that the band is not a cure-all, it won't stop you from overeating or making poor choices...you still have to put in the work. But...if you are smart about how you eat, and listen...really listen to your band, you will have success in your weight loss journey. Good luck!!

Sorry in advance but this may seem petty and nosey?
I can't help but look into other people's shopping carts to see what they're eating and of course, I tie it into their physical appearance. Petty I know? But the morbidly obese really do eat bad food. One shopping cart I saw this morning had 3 large sacks of generic cheese puffs, 3 other sacks of potato/corn chips, 4-5 boxes of highly processed sugary cereals(trix, choco puffs etc), 6-8 liters of soda pop and other sugary Fruit drinks. She was probably around 300 lbs and both kids were heading in the same direction.
Yeah, I feel like a snob but I think back 3 years ago and my cart was similar except I've never been a soda pop guy or liked cheese puffs. Doritos, crackers, Cookies, dips with Velveeta cheese, sour cream, hamburger helper and Pasta were all my vices. Different strokes/vices eh?
My cart today? Two 5 oz tenderloin steaks from the close out bin, one mixed salad bag, honeycrisp apples, avocados, limes, chicken tenderloins, eggs, can of tuna, celery, brown rice, jicama and some cilantro.
My band has changed my life. I still like(no longer love) those old food choices but I respect my band and my commitment to be healthier. When I stray(and I do), I feel like I've cheated on my band. I try very hard not to let my band down. Silly maybe? But I'm OK with that.
tmf

Hello and welcome!

Amazing transformation!! Congratulations to you!

Amazing transformation!! Congratulations to you!

I know all about the resentment issue. My ex recently told me that he hadn't noticed that I lost 50 pounds and hadn't touched me in years before that. Sounds like your hubby is noticing and it has probably lit a new fire under his butt. Good for him, but I understand your resentment. Take your time and work on yourself first. Hope your outcome is better than mine was. Keep up the great work.

Glad to hear that. Hope you guys work out and congratulations on your weight loss.

Thanks everyone for all of the wonderful replies. I enjoyed reading them all and each of you offered some insight into what I deserve, what he may be thinking and you also offered some good advice and I appreciate it.
He's been gone for work for a few days so I haven't seen him much since I posted this but I've talked to him quite a bit. He said something yesterday that made me uncomfortable and I finally decided it was time we have a talk. I basically just told him the same things that I wrote in the original post here and told him that he's just going to have to back off and give me some time and space to figure things out. He said he just wanted me to know how pretty I am and how proud he is and that's why he's been acting that way. I don't know. I'm not sure I believe that is the entire reason for his behavior but, whatever the case may be, he is going to have to put the brakes on it for awhile. I told him that he's trying to rush things and that he needs to slow down and just let things happen in their own time. He didn't react in anger the way I expected him to so hopefully this gives him something to think about and will bring about a change in his behavior.

Sex is exercise remember. You can sleep when you are dead. Men are like little boys in a candy shop sometimes. If you love him, really, really love him, relax and try to enjoy the newfound intimacy. Or have a talk with him and set boundaries. Your rules. Congratulations on your weight loss. Most of us have saggy boobies, our men don't care LOL!

You hit the nail on the head when you said both of you were struggling with your 'new' body. I struggle as well though not with a husband around. I think when anyone changes their appearance drastically, it has to f**k with your head. And yes...I look much better in clothes than not so that's also confusing me..and would surely give me intimacy issues if I had a partner.
I've actually started to see a professional to deal with this issue. I don't know that you want to or can do the same, but please consider it for you and the hubby. I bet he's as confused as to how to react as you are.
I can so identify with you on the body image issue right now and I do wish you the best of luck.

i've been married 28 years. my husband married me when i was thin, he watched me go up and down and than up up up. while i was up i didn't like to be intimate. i didn't want him to see or feel my fat. he left me alone. yes we still kissed and held each other and never doubted our love for each other. the other morning my husband asked me if i shaved my legs. i was quickly trying to add up what i did wrong shaving my legs. i couldn't come up with anything so i just told him yes i did. with the cutest smile he said my leg looked so smooth and nice hanging out of the bed covers. he hasn't said anything like that for years. i think it is foreplay for when the time is right for me. and he will wait for me. and he can say all the cute things he wants to. this said your guy needs to back off for the moment. your brain needs to catch up to your ever changing body. but he is noticing the new you. be happy that he is noticing. just explain to him that you need some more time. back the hell off for right now. say it with love.

My dear I don't know how old you are but let me give you some words from a very wise woman. Any one in your life that thinks you are unworthy of their love because you are over weight is surely not worthy of your love once you lose weight. People do not change because they lose weight and you are still the same person you were how ever many pounds you have lost. I for one would not put up with that nonsense for one minute. If he didn't want to be intimate with you when you were fat then why now. It's no different then it was then. I don't care if you are woman or man but if anyone's mate only shows interest when you start losing weight, doesn't deserve to have one minute of your attention. I refuse to be with anyone that determines how they treat me by the way I look. You need to rethink your marriage and decide if you want to continue on staying with someone that is as selfish as he is. He wouldn't be waking me up either if I didn't want to get up. You need to do a 360 on him and put your foot down and this is how it's going to be or don't let the door hit you where the good lord split you. Hell no now I am pissed off that you have to deal with that. I once in my life had a selfish man like that and I think our relationship lasted about two weeks. I don't do selfish now, then or ever.

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Hubby and I joined Planet Fitness last month. Monday we are going to step it up a little more. One the days we use the treadmills, we walk side by side and chat.

15 mile and 1 hr 20 minute bike ride. Burned off 1179 calories.
tmf

I ran OUTSIDE, In the cold rain when I got home from work this evening. And I enjoyed it! Now for a hot shower and a glass of wine for "dinner".

ok, i will start........i did 40 minutes step aerobics today

OK, I made this thread for lap band patients (only please)
to come and say what they did for exercise on any giving day
it doesnt matter what it is
or how long you did it for
as long you do it (as that is what matters)
i cant do much, but i do try my best........so lets hear from you

I was banded May 2005. I have gone from 375 to my current weight of 125. I thought everything was going great until about 6 months ago started having acid reflux. Went to my Dr and we did an upper GI and found out band had slipped. Having it removed 1/21. I am truly heart broken. I feel like all my hard work has been for nothing. I worked so hard to get to this point and I DO NOT ever want to go back. No one seems to understand my sadness. All I hear from them is thats life or it will be fine. NO IT WILL NOT BE FINE!!!!! Just wish they understood. Thanks for letting me vent a little.

I was banded on September 11, 2013. I had my first fill on November 7th. I had my second fill January 9th. It is January 17th and EVERY SINGLE DAY since my second fill I have been (almost) stuck!!!
Let me start by saying that my band is NOT too tight! I get my fills under fluro and that takes the guesswork out of it. THIS IS ALL MY FAULT!!!!!!!!
I own it. I am eating too quickly. My bites are probably a little too big. And as a result, I get stuck, kind of. It's not horrible like others have described, but it's enough to get my attention.
Before this second fill, my band was filled enough to keep me satisfied after eating but during the meals I didn't really have to pay much attention to what I was doing.
HOLY COW is it different now!!! And I'm not complaining! This is the way it is supposed to be....this is what I signed up for. I just got comfortable and complacent and now I am wide awake.
I am working on developing better habits so that I get the most out of my band. I refuse to be that patient who doesn't follow the rules and then tries to blame the band or the surgeon.
So I am putting it out there. I am taking ownership of my mistakes and publicly (sort of) making a commitment to change.
ok, that feels better now. Thanks for listening.

Lately I have been hearing the phrase that WLS is personalized to each individual, and I could not agree more....
It's "Personalized" because the band is adjustable....my band is not like your band as is the other person's band...
If I never had a fill, or when I was just starting out, I could eat and drink anything as though I did not even have the surgery...it was all about will power and classic dieting...
As my band got adjusted, things began to change, and become unique TO ME, and NO ONE ELSE....what other people experience is unique to themselves and no one one else....sure there are some common things....
People need to realize that there is no concrete answer to questions such as drinking with meals, eating rice, breads, etc...experiencing hunger/cravings, and portion control....because everyone's band is different from everyone else s...
That's why when someone asks a question, you are going to get 100 different answers....
I read posts, and see the person was banded within a month or so, even within a year sometimes, and I will avoid giving my response because it is night and day.....where I am at, and what my band does is no where near what the new person is experiencing, and things I may say, well I might as well be talking about visiting Mars or something....will not make much sense....and only confuse many people....
Only things I can say sometimes is "Yes, I've been there and yes, it does pass, it does get better...things do progress"
And the only thing we have in common is that we all have to follow our Dr.'s treatment plan, and not what someone we never met on the internet tells us to do....and even our Dr.'s advice will differ from one another's...is one Dr right and the other wrong?
My only pet peeve, after saying all the above...is when people come on here and say "THIS is the ONLY way"..."It's my way or no way" Do it THIS WAY or you will be sorry!!!
How can people say that? It may be true FOR THEM.....and that is good! Share your experiences....that's what it's all about,,,,,But sometimes people will make a definitive statement about something that can never happen or will not happen, and I'm sitting here scratching me head thinking I have personally experienced the exact opposite....???
Someone may post here stating that the way they became successful was by standing on their heads for 30 minutes after every meal....may even provide a You-Tube from some Yoga instructor, etc....refer to a book or 2....
I have no problem with this person sharing their experiences, I find it informative, and perhaps entertaining., and enjoy reading everyone's different ways they have found happiness and success.......I may even try it myself and see for myself the results..or I may not....
BUT
As soon as this person comes on here and starts telling everyone THIS is what you MUST do if you want to be successful, or else you are asking for certain doom...medical problems.....
Saying To loose weight and be successful...YOU MUST stand on your head for 30 minutes after every meal, OR ELSE!!! It Is the ONLY WAY!
Now I have a problem....I lost my weight and never stood on my head....yet this person is telling everyone this is what you HAVE to to, this is the ONLY way it works....
There are are a lot of new people here looking for guidance...and they're being told they must stand on their heads for 30 minutes after every meal?
I cannot let this go by unchallenged....
Ok, my so much for my coffee induced morning rant...off to the gym....Hey IT'S FRIDAY!!!!

Super job! Way to go!

I was almost not going to respond to this post. But I feel for you. I am a mother of 3 grown daughters. All of them have their own homes and families. I would NEVER barge into their homes unannounced. Why? because I respect their lives and trust their judgments. I love the men they love, because I love my children. I don't always like the choices they make concerning the children, but, you know what, I don't have to like it, I just have to respect it. And I do.
Advice is hard to give, because every family dynamic is different. But it sounds like you've tried to reason with her, and still, she's not respecting the boundaries. Maybe distance is the answer. Good luck sweetie, this is a tough one for you. The children always suffer the most when family are at odds.

Super job! Way to go!