Congratulations Karen for taking the first steps. I'm new to all this, too. I'm 8 days post op and did all my homework before deciding to do it. Took many months. I thought about it for a long time and when I did mention it to family or friends, they would react very negatively with comments about me not needing something so drastic, not being "big enough" or how people die from weight loss surgery. The responses were not supportive at all! One suggestions was, "just stop eating"
Educate yourself and make the decision that's best for you! The advise of doctors you respect and trust will guide your decision. I chose NOT to tell anyone other than my husband and my doctors - maybe that will change one day, but for now I need to keep my attitude positive and the negative naysayers are not what I need. My PCP and OB/GYN supported this decision and right now I'm not up for the comments or questions. This site also provides great support!! Best wishes to you!!