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Everything posted by Daisalana
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Sex!!!
It was on sale for the holidays for $72. Comes assembled, and includes installation hardware. Me & DH are both freaks, we just don't follow through. Public sex is one of those things we wrote down to accomplish at some point.. and we almost did it when we worked at the university, in his office (he was my boss mwhahaha).. but I chickened out, one wall is all glass into the computer lobby and I was afraid someone would walk in and we'd get fired. We also made a sex rewards game, kind of fizzled because I didn't keep up with it.. Made a point system.. I.E. 2 pts for doing laundry, 3 pts for doing dishes, 1pt for doing something the other wants to do without 1 word of complaint (like going to a movie).. then the rewards were.. 5pts-sex anytime, anyplace, 3pts-oral sex anytime, anyplace, etc. As for being picked up, I never thought anyone would ever pick me up. I'm big and dense. But we had a friend, who's girlfriend was like 600lbs (he was buff, they were a different looking couple). He bench pressed, and one day we were drunk and he said he could easily pick me up.. something no one has ever done and I just laughed. We went back and forth and then suddenly he THROWS ME OVER HIS SHOULDER. No effort. Like I was a size 0 ragdoll or something. He carried me around 5 minutes on his shoulder. I was just.. amazed (and instantly fell in love with him hah hah).
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Lump Crabmeat - a Great Protein!
I've never bought the lump crabmeat in packages. Does it taste fresh? My biggest qualm with seafood, if it tastes 'fishy' in ANY way, I can't eat it. Like shrimp.. I LOVE it at red lobster, but I've never had it anywhere else that it didn't taste funny. Lobster & crab.. love love love (and I did find out crab is a good food!), but I either have to get it from a restaurant, or I found 10lb legs in a box at a grocer's once that ended up good when you bake them in the oven. It would be nice to get lump in a package that tastes good. There's a lot of good lump crab cake recipes out there, healthy ones, so if the meat is good, you could look into that. Or a crab bisque.. mmmm.
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Sex!!!
Well, it was impulsive. Ordered online and wrapping it for Xmas, so maybe around Jan 1 I'll get back on here and tell you about the mind blowing sex that busted a big hole in our ceiling! :paranoid
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'08 - Who do you want?
Actually, looks like all that voted for her were female. Did I miss a man that voted?
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I am sick of looking for the sweet spot
1.5cc is too tight for me.. 1cc is too loose. But since he won't do little increments, I'm riding out the 1.5cc.. I'm hopeful when I lose some more weight it will loosen up and I'll be at the true sweet spot. For now, it's kind of a bummer.. But I revel in the fact that I hate eating now.
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'08 - Who do you want?
Me & DH worry about Hillary being in office.. and he keeps saying it won't happen, don't worry, as much as demo's like her, it won't happen.. But I told him about this poll and how Hillary is getting a lot of votes.. and these are people that will be voting! And he said, well your little forum is all women right? HRMPH!!! I think men are voting for her too..
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Shrinking Violets -- April 07 Bandsters
Really Judy, you need to send it to me so I can make sure it's not poisonous or anything. :scared:
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Sex!!!
Our house was built this year (we moved in June 07 WOOT!). It *should* be alright, I do say this because they cut a lot of corners that we're now finding out about (hurrah for warranties). It mounts from a single hook, so I am buying a potted fake willow looking plant that I will hang from it when we don't have the swing up. The last house we rented out in New Mexico, there was a hook in the ceiling in the bedroom. I never knew what it was for, but I hung a lantern candle from it. LOL, so that's what it was for.
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Compulsive habits?
I don't like the feel of q-tips in my ear, it really bothers me.. I don't like fabric rubbing on my skin like that (cotton balls). It's one of those things that make my skin crawl, but I do it occasionally. But I know what you're talking about, I use to do that with the shower water.. I remember in HS my boyfriend at the time thought I was a looney toon for doing it. I eventually stopped because I knew that couldn't be good for me. But I'd let the water spray right into my ear and I had eargasms.. hah. It just felt so good.
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Vertigo ??
Are you getting enough water? It could be dehydration. If I don't eat all day I sometimes get light headed also.
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Starches ok with your Dr.?
My doc probably doesn't watch me eatin starches.. His rules were generic for RNY & Lap-Band. It's the whole low-carb/no-carb thing. Protein first, veggies 2nd, and you shouldn't have room for carbs. No snacking. I kind of made my own rules, not that you should, but I can't stick to Atkins for life. Been there, done that. And when I fall off the wagon, I fall hard.
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It's not working for me
I say if your counselor isn't keeping you in check and making you accountable, you need a counselor that won't pussy foot around you. I have my moments, and my violet sistas have filled me with all kinds of words of encouragement. One day at a time. Get through THIS day, worry about tomorrow-tomorrow.
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Compulsive habits?
About q-tips.. if they weren't made to clean out the ear, what were they made for???? I've heard they're bad to put in your ears too, but they look like they're designed for it.. so I am confused!! I like cleaning my ears with q-tips after a shower, when its all wet and comes out easy.
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Do you count calories ?
I counted calories religiously the first few months, when I didn't have restriction and was determined to make this work despite the fact it didn't feel like it did much for me. Now that I am filled to the brim, I don't count calories. I can eat so little, there's no point in it. I know I'm not going over 1k calories!
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Nervous Nelly
I never had a 'last meal'. Sometime around being banded, Jachut posted about how the last meal syndrome is a misconception for bandsters. I believed her (and she was right!).I went on my liquid diet without much thought about 'not being able to eat again'. When I was back on solids, I did have 5 months (while fills were not working) where I was able to eat anything, so I was glad I didn't risk botching my liver for surgery with a last meal splurge. Then slowly foods started going away, and I honestly don't miss them. I know some people have mentioned missing them, but I am more fascinated than woeful about the fact that I'll never eat a hamburger the way you are suppose to eat one. I watch DH eat them and I think.. I can't do that.. I hope I never can again.
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..people changing..based on 1/2 other's opinions, it isn't right!!!
I don't know what caused "so and so" (actually 2 I have noticed that I was use to seeing) to stop with their pic in their profile, but I was disappointed. That's how I follow their posts, by their pic. And it was most definitely an inspiration for me only being near half-way.. It's nice to see I can make it to goal. So if you 2 are in doubts of putting it back, I really think it helps those of us who aren't that far yet, to see 50% weight loss isn't the only accomplishment with the band.
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Beating the ODDS 100% Goal. Help needed
I'm coming up on my 50% weight loss. I will surpass it! Hell, I can't hardly eat anymore, I DREAD eating.. I don't know why the weight loss would stop. I told my doc going into this, I will break the statistics he covered in his seminar. He said I had the right personality for the band. Not to say I don't have my doubts, and bad days.. but overall, I am determined to beat the odds.
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Sex!!!
Are you on B/C by any chance? I thought I had a decent sex drive, but I've been on B/C since I was 14 for regulation. I had to go off of it for over a month for lap-banding surgery, and I swear I didn't know I had it in me. I wanted it every day, all day. Then I went back on B/C and it's back to just decent. I asked my gyno about this last week, hoping she had a good fix.. her answer was basically "it happens". Didn't offer any solutions, just told me not to go off the B/C till I lose more weight, she doesn't want me getting pregnant yet (me neither). But I've decided after we have 2 kids, DH going to get snipped so I can go off the B/C.
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I Quit Smoking And Now I'm Struggling
I just have to say I am in awe of those of you who quit. I wish I could do it. My doc recommended I stop smoking, but didn't require it.. thank goodness, I wouldn't have been banded! Unfortunately, since being banded I smoke a LOT more than I did pre-band. It makes up for the food I'm not eating anymore I guess. If you quit & got banded same time, you're amazing! Keep it up, you've come this far.
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Fat all my life.
My mom agreed to help pay for the LapBand, because I was born obese. Heh. No really, I have been fat since I came out of the uterus! Because of that, for most of my life I didn't know any better. Of course I was made fun of in school for it (and because I was always the tallest girl), but I thought they were just idiots. When I finally realized I was so overweight, and started dieting, it worked for the time, then I'd gain it back + some. I still have no idea what it feels like to be a normal size. I'm anxious, definitely. Until I was about 15, there was no stylish plus size clothes. In 8th grade I went to our homecoming in an old woman's dress. 9th grade prom too. I saw pics of that not too long ago, and I still cringe. I still don't believe I'll ever be a normal weight, that's the negativity, or just hard coding in my head. I can't fathom it. I know a lot of reasons I'm overweight, but they're things I literally can not make myself control. <3 my band.
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Shrinking Violets -- April 07 Bandsters
I did have some NSV's yesterday. Despite being fat, I've always felt sexy and presented myself as such.. but when I started dieting, it dawned on me how big I am.. and it kind of bursted my self-esteem when it comes to the opposite sex (since April when I got banded!). Well, yesterday I know for a fact 3 guys were checking me out at the mall. The guy we got food from for lunch was hitting on me. I watched him after we left to see how he interacts with other women, and it was different. He WAS hitting on me! Then we went to hockey game, and 3 guys who came from Canada to support their friend who is on the hockey team, ended up sitting near us. We saw them outside on smoke break, and I confidently was talking to them (they were smokin' hot), and they didn't act like I was the weird fat girl. They were flirting with me and all. But on that note, I thought of something deep & moving, but can't really express it when I go to write. There was another girl out there, in the corner, not talking to anyone. She was fat. Very fat. Probably a little younger than me. She had glasses just like mine, black hair in her face, wearing frumpy all black (looked like mens) clothes. I've been there at some point. She didn't smile, she didn't make eye contact. She just sat there quietly in what looked like self-loathing. I thought, I was her at some point. Now here I am smiling and laughing with the hot guy strangers who are flirting with me. I love that DH and I aren't the jealous type, because I love the attention I'm getting. I think he's happy for me that I get it, it puts a bounce in my step for the rest of the day. I know DH notices me, but it's always nice to have the re-assurance of someone who didn't fall in love with me for my personality, ya know? I've said it before, DH doesn't 'like' fat girls, he still will point them out and act oblivious to the fact I'm overweight. Anyway.. woo. Do I sound silly?
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Shopping????
I always shop from the same online stores for clothes, because I know exactly how they fit (I HATE trying on clothes in the store).. but also, I hate malls. I hate the crowds, and screaming kids, and crappy sales people. But we went to the mall for lunch yesterday, and I was wearing my new size 19 jeans (which are junior size!) and my ass was lifted and seperated.. I was wearing a designer blazer and had my stylish leather purse.. so I had this new air of confidence.. and I loved walkin in the mall hah hah. DH thought I was being silly, but I promise there were 3 guys that I noticed that wanted a piece o' this! It felt good.
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Shrinking Violets -- April 07 Bandsters
Num num, send the fudge this way! I'll get rid of it for you so you won't be tempted! mwhaha
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Nervous Nelly
I think it's normal, we all got cold feet. I know a lot of us were in the surgery prep about to get wheeled in and it was almost too much to bear!! Luckily they gave me some doped up meds while I was waiting, so I started to think "Ah who cares." hehe. Just know you'll be fine, and try to think happy thoughts right now :scared:
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Sex!!!
LOL! No, not trying yet.. we're waiting till end of 2008 to start, hopefully I'll be a 'normal' weight by then. I figured out how to hang it, says to attach to a joist in the ceiling, that's a man's job.. he'll have to figure out how to set it up.. but I decided to wrap it and make it a gift to both of us for xmas!