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Bonawanabfree

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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from FromHer2Me in Mom of 5, unsupportive family re my decision   
    @@Daisydawn34
    I would just tell them "I can die driving but you let me out of the house to do that every day". Anyone can die doing anything. When its your time its your time. Tell them to stop being selfish and start making this journey about you and not them.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from FromHer2Me in Mom of 5, unsupportive family re my decision   
    @@Daisydawn34
    I would just tell them "I can die driving but you let me out of the house to do that every day". Anyone can die doing anything. When its your time its your time. Tell them to stop being selfish and start making this journey about you and not them.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from FromHer2Me in Mom of 5, unsupportive family re my decision   
    @@Daisydawn34
    I would just tell them "I can die driving but you let me out of the house to do that every day". Anyone can die doing anything. When its your time its your time. Tell them to stop being selfish and start making this journey about you and not them.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from ProudGrammy in The end of a relationship   
    @@Babbs
    @@JustWatchMe
    @@drmeow
    I want to thank each of you women for telling me exactly what I need to hear. It is tough but it will get easier. i have never been married and I have been invovled with controlling men before in my life and i want nothing to do with it. His issues are not my issues and i will not allow someone to drain the greatness of who i am to appease his own ego. i dont ever want to be with another man that needs to know my every move, It is very oppressive and abusive. he actually has admitted to me that he knows he has issues and that he knows that what he is doing to me is abusive and so i gave him a choice, Either leave me to find happiness or get the help you need to learn how to cope. I gave him many chances and sometimes it seemed as though it was going to work but a leopard cant change his spots. We are who we are. Now i am actually excited about my future with me. I never felt lonely because i love my solitude. No dating for me for a long time. i want to just know me.
    PS...Babbs-Im 32...
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from Nurse 52 in The end of a relationship   
    I have been with a man for a while and we were engaged to be married. Everything was going well but he has major insecurities and constantly thought I was being deceitful and always accused me of cheating. As of Thursday last week I we have been done. It is finished. he was so wonderful in so many ways but there was that one thing that ruined all the good stuff. I have never cheated on anyone and i am not deceitful in the least. I give everyone the respect that I would want to have given to me. i am loyal and true and I have never done anything to deserve this. I am sorry i am here talking about my bull but i thought it would be nice to hear from others that have been through this. It seems as though right when i needed him the most is when he would be c9ome very insecure and accusitory. i dont want to be with him anymore. I know this is for the best but it still does hurt. I put so much of myslef into this relationship and I just have to learn from it and move forward. Onward and upward. i have goals and big plans for my life and there is a piece of me that is just upset because i feel as though it was all in vain. I think I had just gotten to a point that i was over it anyway and that is why it seems easier. He was so supportive of so many things in my life and so wonderful and it scares the hell out of me that I wont find that with anyone else. I know i am just going in circles but I had to send my feelings about this into the universe and release them. thanks for taking the time to heart me out. Its not that i think he is a bad person, I just feel he is confused and scared to death of what love can do to him. Every relationship is a risk but we cant hold on to the past and be scared of our own shadows. We cant find love unless we try to love with trust and faith.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from gpmed in The end of a relationship   
    I have to say thank you to everyone that has posted regarding this issue. Relationships are so difficult at times. I realize that the relationship I have with myself is more imortant. I am now working a 2 jobs, saving for a house and just bought a new car. I am determined to make things happen on my own with the help of no one. This is more about my personal empowerment in knowing that being alone with myself and loving the person I am is more important to me than any relationship i can have with someone else. I have to like who I am am first and then I can begin introducing new people into my life. I am in charge of how people treat me. if i allow someone to abuse me I can only expect to be abused time and time again, So i am not a victim I am a victor.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from gpmed in The end of a relationship   
    I have to say thank you to everyone that has posted regarding this issue. Relationships are so difficult at times. I realize that the relationship I have with myself is more imortant. I am now working a 2 jobs, saving for a house and just bought a new car. I am determined to make things happen on my own with the help of no one. This is more about my personal empowerment in knowing that being alone with myself and loving the person I am is more important to me than any relationship i can have with someone else. I have to like who I am am first and then I can begin introducing new people into my life. I am in charge of how people treat me. if i allow someone to abuse me I can only expect to be abused time and time again, So i am not a victim I am a victor.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from Nurse 52 in The end of a relationship   
    I have been with a man for a while and we were engaged to be married. Everything was going well but he has major insecurities and constantly thought I was being deceitful and always accused me of cheating. As of Thursday last week I we have been done. It is finished. he was so wonderful in so many ways but there was that one thing that ruined all the good stuff. I have never cheated on anyone and i am not deceitful in the least. I give everyone the respect that I would want to have given to me. i am loyal and true and I have never done anything to deserve this. I am sorry i am here talking about my bull but i thought it would be nice to hear from others that have been through this. It seems as though right when i needed him the most is when he would be c9ome very insecure and accusitory. i dont want to be with him anymore. I know this is for the best but it still does hurt. I put so much of myslef into this relationship and I just have to learn from it and move forward. Onward and upward. i have goals and big plans for my life and there is a piece of me that is just upset because i feel as though it was all in vain. I think I had just gotten to a point that i was over it anyway and that is why it seems easier. He was so supportive of so many things in my life and so wonderful and it scares the hell out of me that I wont find that with anyone else. I know i am just going in circles but I had to send my feelings about this into the universe and release them. thanks for taking the time to heart me out. Its not that i think he is a bad person, I just feel he is confused and scared to death of what love can do to him. Every relationship is a risk but we cant hold on to the past and be scared of our own shadows. We cant find love unless we try to love with trust and faith.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from Nurse 52 in The end of a relationship   
    I have been with a man for a while and we were engaged to be married. Everything was going well but he has major insecurities and constantly thought I was being deceitful and always accused me of cheating. As of Thursday last week I we have been done. It is finished. he was so wonderful in so many ways but there was that one thing that ruined all the good stuff. I have never cheated on anyone and i am not deceitful in the least. I give everyone the respect that I would want to have given to me. i am loyal and true and I have never done anything to deserve this. I am sorry i am here talking about my bull but i thought it would be nice to hear from others that have been through this. It seems as though right when i needed him the most is when he would be c9ome very insecure and accusitory. i dont want to be with him anymore. I know this is for the best but it still does hurt. I put so much of myslef into this relationship and I just have to learn from it and move forward. Onward and upward. i have goals and big plans for my life and there is a piece of me that is just upset because i feel as though it was all in vain. I think I had just gotten to a point that i was over it anyway and that is why it seems easier. He was so supportive of so many things in my life and so wonderful and it scares the hell out of me that I wont find that with anyone else. I know i am just going in circles but I had to send my feelings about this into the universe and release them. thanks for taking the time to heart me out. Its not that i think he is a bad person, I just feel he is confused and scared to death of what love can do to him. Every relationship is a risk but we cant hold on to the past and be scared of our own shadows. We cant find love unless we try to love with trust and faith.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from ProudGrammy in The end of a relationship   
    @@Babbs
    @@JustWatchMe
    @@drmeow
    I want to thank each of you women for telling me exactly what I need to hear. It is tough but it will get easier. i have never been married and I have been invovled with controlling men before in my life and i want nothing to do with it. His issues are not my issues and i will not allow someone to drain the greatness of who i am to appease his own ego. i dont ever want to be with another man that needs to know my every move, It is very oppressive and abusive. he actually has admitted to me that he knows he has issues and that he knows that what he is doing to me is abusive and so i gave him a choice, Either leave me to find happiness or get the help you need to learn how to cope. I gave him many chances and sometimes it seemed as though it was going to work but a leopard cant change his spots. We are who we are. Now i am actually excited about my future with me. I never felt lonely because i love my solitude. No dating for me for a long time. i want to just know me.
    PS...Babbs-Im 32...
  11. Like
    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from Nurse 52 in The end of a relationship   
    I have been with a man for a while and we were engaged to be married. Everything was going well but he has major insecurities and constantly thought I was being deceitful and always accused me of cheating. As of Thursday last week I we have been done. It is finished. he was so wonderful in so many ways but there was that one thing that ruined all the good stuff. I have never cheated on anyone and i am not deceitful in the least. I give everyone the respect that I would want to have given to me. i am loyal and true and I have never done anything to deserve this. I am sorry i am here talking about my bull but i thought it would be nice to hear from others that have been through this. It seems as though right when i needed him the most is when he would be c9ome very insecure and accusitory. i dont want to be with him anymore. I know this is for the best but it still does hurt. I put so much of myslef into this relationship and I just have to learn from it and move forward. Onward and upward. i have goals and big plans for my life and there is a piece of me that is just upset because i feel as though it was all in vain. I think I had just gotten to a point that i was over it anyway and that is why it seems easier. He was so supportive of so many things in my life and so wonderful and it scares the hell out of me that I wont find that with anyone else. I know i am just going in circles but I had to send my feelings about this into the universe and release them. thanks for taking the time to heart me out. Its not that i think he is a bad person, I just feel he is confused and scared to death of what love can do to him. Every relationship is a risk but we cant hold on to the past and be scared of our own shadows. We cant find love unless we try to love with trust and faith.
  12. Like
    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from ProudGrammy in The end of a relationship   
    @@Babbs
    @@JustWatchMe
    @@drmeow
    I want to thank each of you women for telling me exactly what I need to hear. It is tough but it will get easier. i have never been married and I have been invovled with controlling men before in my life and i want nothing to do with it. His issues are not my issues and i will not allow someone to drain the greatness of who i am to appease his own ego. i dont ever want to be with another man that needs to know my every move, It is very oppressive and abusive. he actually has admitted to me that he knows he has issues and that he knows that what he is doing to me is abusive and so i gave him a choice, Either leave me to find happiness or get the help you need to learn how to cope. I gave him many chances and sometimes it seemed as though it was going to work but a leopard cant change his spots. We are who we are. Now i am actually excited about my future with me. I never felt lonely because i love my solitude. No dating for me for a long time. i want to just know me.
    PS...Babbs-Im 32...
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from journey2myWLS in Who all did you tell?   
    I told everyone capable of hearing and still do.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from journey2myWLS in Who all did you tell?   
    I told everyone capable of hearing and still do.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from Madeleine Renee in Things men say when told about WLS :)   
    @@hadouni
    Wow! I wouldnt want to deal with that last guy at all. That was a huge red flag. Run the other way and dont look back. Dont be blinded by his looks either. He will end up treating you terribly just because he will degrade you and lower your self worth. I can see it in my crystal ball already.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from VSGAnn2014 in There isn't a Victoria's Secret model under there?   
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    No matter if you are obese, overweight, average or underweight you are beautiful and you were wonderfully made. I know society makes us feel like we are not normal but you are above normal. I dont know you personally but i do know that each and everyone of us is special and made for purpose. Screw society and their models. They are liars and con artists. Be free from the visuals around us. I know I sound like a tree hugger but I know how you feel even though i have only started my journey. i have lost weight and gained weight and been on this rollercoaster since childhood and one thing I have come to terms with is I dont want to be a model and i dont want to be perfect. Perfect is boring.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from wannaBthinsoon in Did they really take half my tummy?   
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    I was plagued with this same notion until I started eating normal food again. Sometimes I forget that I cant eat What I used to eat and then I regret it very quickly. You will see what i am talking about soon enough and then run to the bathroom.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from MrsSugarbabe in I screwed up today   
    Im post op and screw up. Dont beat yourself up. You are human. Its human nature to go against the grain. The wonderful thing is that you recognize it and feel remorse. I think that once we get into the habit of feeling guilt over our faults we can then change them. Self awareness is key to this journey.
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    Bonawanabfree reacted to wannaBthinsoon in Did they really take half my tummy?   
    @ I wondered the same thing. I was also super hungry all the time. It all changes once you move to soft foods. You will TOTALLY feel the restriction then!
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from Mistie in NSV shout outs   
    As embarrassing as this is to admit I have to say the biggest NSV for me thus far is not having bathroom complications anymore. It is so much easier to get in and get out now.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from ProudGrammy in Best piece of advice you have! I'm a day away from Gastric Sleeve surgery.   
    Be patient and try not to beat yourself up when you stumble. Its just about recognizing your issues and trying to correct them. Know that your relationship with food goes deeper than your stomach. This is a mind game and you will learn how to play it. You will hate food and love it at the same time and that was the hardest part for me.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from ProudGrammy in Best piece of advice you have! I'm a day away from Gastric Sleeve surgery.   
    Be patient and try not to beat yourself up when you stumble. Its just about recognizing your issues and trying to correct them. Know that your relationship with food goes deeper than your stomach. This is a mind game and you will learn how to play it. You will hate food and love it at the same time and that was the hardest part for me.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from Big Cat in Will I still be able to drink lots of water?   
    You'll be able to drink lots of Water just not all at once. Sometimes I am really thirsty and I go gulping like I used to and then my stomach tells me that I need to chill out. So then i drink a little here and there. Its the new normal.
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    Bonawanabfree got a reaction from Big Cat in Will I still be able to drink lots of water?   
    You'll be able to drink lots of Water just not all at once. Sometimes I am really thirsty and I go gulping like I used to and then my stomach tells me that I need to chill out. So then i drink a little here and there. Its the new normal.
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    Bonawanabfree reacted to sparkles1971 in Fell off the wagon   
    Don't beat yourself up. Life is all about ups and downs, temptations, trials etc. every day is a new day. All you can do today is be better than yesterday. It does no good to focus on the past.
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