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Oh yes, your body (mind too) has to adjust to every fill. You will need to learn how to eat with each and every fill. Take it easy and follow your doctors orders. As you get more restriction you will need to learn new eating habits.
Good luck to you, you are on your way.

Ok gotta say this is a new NSV to me. But hey get yourself some new earrings girlfriend, you have earned them!

So....I've been struggling for a number of months with Hair loss. Along with taking the Biotin, extra Protein, and Vitamins, I changed up my hairstyle a bit to try to minimize the thin spots. For the first time in a very long time, my hair is really short and unfortunately now thin enough that my ear lobes are quite visible. I finally decided today that I might as well take advantage of this situation and put on a pair of earrings. Usually I don't bother because:
A) my hair used to cover my ears...and...
2) after a couple of hours, my ears would hurt and I'd have to take the earrings out.
Well...I've had them in all day and they aren't bothering me at all. I swear...my earlobes must have gotten thinner along with the rest of me. I think I may have to Celebrate this nsv and head to the nearest jewelry store this weekend...

Thank you all so much for all the amazing support. I have spent the last 2 days alone just working and thinking. On the one hand I knew I had regained as much as I wanted to. But what bugs me most is that my partner felt entitled to say something knowing this is a sensitive issue and I'm already as on top of it as I can be. By the way,my partner is a woman...which I think makes it more egregious because one of the nice things usually about being in love w a woman is that they aren't as visually oriented as men and much MORE likely to love you for whats inside.
That said, she also should have known better because once before she was critical of the way I dress in such a bohemian style. And I took it very badly. I love dressing like a hippie chick. It's how I express myself and my creativity and how I Celebrate weekends away from my conservative job. Despite telling her she was an ass for making me feel badly ( that time she also said,dress how you want I'm just not attracted to that look) I wound up feeling unable to wear those hippie clothes because the whole time I was aware that she was finding me unattractive.
So i don't dress that way around her. So basically I plan to talk to her tonight and say that I really don't feel comfortable going on ths vacation. That I will be crawling out of my skin. Feeling judged and overly self conscious. I have decided to just be on Protein shakes during the trip and not go to restaurants with her because I will be wanting to eat and currently just can't. I also will tell her that I can't be physical right now because I feel too self conscious and bad about myself. If she has a problem with that I really don't mind not going. But most importantly indeed to tell her that her 'intervention' was not productive, I had decided to lose weight on my own but now I am motivated by shame and humiliation not by the right reasons. By now she should know that that kind of conversation makes me feel unloved and bad about myself. Each time she does it, it chips away at how much I can love her, feel safe with her, and be supported by her. I plan to tell her that I don't thi k our relationship can tolerate,ugh more of me being ,are to feel that I'm not ok.
Ill report back on how it goes. Thank you again guys for all the support and anger and thoughtful words and cyber love. It really did help.

Calling all vets! Our help is needed.
I know the new site is frustrating and a lot of us have posted less (myself included), but there are still a lot of people that need our support and stories. Let's not forget them in our frustration.
They have questions, we have answers. They are scared, we understand (been there, done that). They need friends, THEY NEED US!
So let's get out there and post. Don't let a topic go unanswered!
Side note: CG I'm talking to you too.......YOU ARE A VETERAN!!!! (whether you will admit it or not, lol)
So let's give back to our fellow bandsters and post!

CG you took the words right out of my mouth.
My ex-husband was always critical about my physical appearance and left me because he was no longer attracted to me & therefore had 'fallen out of love'...... The best thing he could have done for me!
Be with someone who loves you no matter what. You deserve nothing less.
Now is the time for you, time to love yourself, time to take care of yourself and if they cannot help you in the process then screw them!
You are beautiful and deserve so much better than that. This song is for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAfyFTzZDMM

CG you took the words right out of my mouth.
My ex-husband was always critical about my physical appearance and left me because he was no longer attracted to me & therefore had 'fallen out of love'...... The best thing he could have done for me!
Be with someone who loves you no matter what. You deserve nothing less.
Now is the time for you, time to love yourself, time to take care of yourself and if they cannot help you in the process then screw them!
You are beautiful and deserve so much better than that. This song is for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAfyFTzZDMM

Terry you will be there soon. Keep working it!

I am seeing some familiar faces out there!
Makes me happy!
Thanks guys!

Calling all vets! Our help is needed.
I know the new site is frustrating and a lot of us have posted less (myself included), but there are still a lot of people that need our support and stories. Let's not forget them in our frustration.
They have questions, we have answers. They are scared, we understand (been there, done that). They need friends, THEY NEED US!
So let's get out there and post. Don't let a topic go unanswered!
Side note: CG I'm talking to you too.......YOU ARE A VETERAN!!!! (whether you will admit it or not, lol)
So let's give back to our fellow bandsters and post!

CG you took the words right out of my mouth.
My ex-husband was always critical about my physical appearance and left me because he was no longer attracted to me & therefore had 'fallen out of love'...... The best thing he could have done for me!
Be with someone who loves you no matter what. You deserve nothing less.
Now is the time for you, time to love yourself, time to take care of yourself and if they cannot help you in the process then screw them!
You are beautiful and deserve so much better than that. This song is for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAfyFTzZDMM

CG you took the words right out of my mouth.
My ex-husband was always critical about my physical appearance and left me because he was no longer attracted to me & therefore had 'fallen out of love'...... The best thing he could have done for me!
Be with someone who loves you no matter what. You deserve nothing less.
Now is the time for you, time to love yourself, time to take care of yourself and if they cannot help you in the process then screw them!
You are beautiful and deserve so much better than that. This song is for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAfyFTzZDMM

i am going to post on this one. i have a great relationship with my husband. we married when i was thin. i went from 160lbs to 296 at my heaviest. he loved me all the same. he loved me when my kidneys failed, he loved me when he saw my heart stopped, he even got post traumatic stress disorder over the last one. he supports me in all of my endevers. he wants what i want and thats to live and be healthy. you deserve oh so much more than the clown you are with. love is uncondional. love is not painful. no man is worth all the tears you are shedding. i know what you are thinking right this min. if i do this he will love me again. well you shouldnt have to do anything. i surely don't know about this vacation thingy but i do realize money already spent you might lose the deposits. ask him to sit it out and take a good friend instead. have fun tear up the dance floor and you are going to find that you are still attractive to a whole lot of men. he isn't the only one in the pond you know.

Hey congrats Farmgirl. I'm four weeks post op and to be honest I still have to take pain meds some nights.
Please rest and don't try to do too much (do as I say not as I did, lol).
Take care & keep us posted on your recovery.

Calling all vets! Our help is needed.
I know the new site is frustrating and a lot of us have posted less (myself included), but there are still a lot of people that need our support and stories. Let's not forget them in our frustration.
They have questions, we have answers. They are scared, we understand (been there, done that). They need friends, THEY NEED US!
So let's get out there and post. Don't let a topic go unanswered!
Side note: CG I'm talking to you too.......YOU ARE A VETERAN!!!! (whether you will admit it or not, lol)
So let's give back to our fellow bandsters and post!

Hey congrats Farmgirl. I'm four weeks post op and to be honest I still have to take pain meds some nights.
Please rest and don't try to do too much (do as I say not as I did, lol).
Take care & keep us posted on your recovery.

Sorry to hear this, but like others said at least you now know and can learn to manage it.

Hey congrats Farmgirl. I'm four weeks post op and to be honest I still have to take pain meds some nights.
Please rest and don't try to do too much (do as I say not as I did, lol).
Take care & keep us posted on your recovery.

CG you took the words right out of my mouth.
My ex-husband was always critical about my physical appearance and left me because he was no longer attracted to me & therefore had 'fallen out of love'...... The best thing he could have done for me!
Be with someone who loves you no matter what. You deserve nothing less.
Now is the time for you, time to love yourself, time to take care of yourself and if they cannot help you in the process then screw them!
You are beautiful and deserve so much better than that. This song is for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAfyFTzZDMM

Welcome Susan and congratulations on the beginning of your new life. This forum is full of wonderful support, great information and a few laughs too! Ask as many questions as you want we are happy to answer them.
Good luck to you .

Sorry to hear this, but like others said at least you now know and can learn to manage it.

CG you took the words right out of my mouth.
My ex-husband was always critical about my physical appearance and left me because he was no longer attracted to me & therefore had 'fallen out of love'...... The best thing he could have done for me!
Be with someone who loves you no matter what. You deserve nothing less.
Now is the time for you, time to love yourself, time to take care of yourself and if they cannot help you in the process then screw them!
You are beautiful and deserve so much better than that. This song is for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAfyFTzZDMM

CG you took the words right out of my mouth.
My ex-husband was always critical about my physical appearance and left me because he was no longer attracted to me & therefore had 'fallen out of love'...... The best thing he could have done for me!
Be with someone who loves you no matter what. You deserve nothing less.
Now is the time for you, time to love yourself, time to take care of yourself and if they cannot help you in the process then screw them!
You are beautiful and deserve so much better than that. This song is for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAfyFTzZDMM

Sorry, but better he leaves you now than later. You deserve better. I know you are in love but a true partner loves you UNconditionally and is with you through all of life's ups and downs, including weight.
It would be one thing if he were saying he wanted to help you feel better about yourself since gaining 9 lbs, but to say he's no longer attracted to you is an excuse in my book. 9 lbs is NOT a very noticible difference, especially someone who see's you all the time.
I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you find the support you need to get through this breakup. Hopefully the next person you are with is more of a man than this person was!

Go on vacation with the person and don't have sex. See how they like that. I am a very spiteful person sometimes. Don't cry about the small gain. They have a problem and don't know to tell you so that is their excuse.
Now put on your biggest smile for the wonderful job you had done. My weight goes up and down 3-6 pounds, oh well, not the end of the world. No one is perfect.
Happy holidays and enjoy the time away.