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I was extremely addicted to Coke myself... I stopped drinking it about 6 weeks pre-op and now I'm over 5 weeks post op. I feel your pain, it's a tough addiction to break. I think what helped me is that I switched to drinking unsweetened iced tea which of course has the caffiene to replace what the code had. I really didn't notice the headaches as bad and now I'm not drinking tea and didn't have a problem when I stopped the tea. I only stopped the tea for my recovery and I'm sure I will start drinking tea again when I can. I still get the urge to have a coke from time to time but would never try one again because I know I wouldn't be able to stop.
If you like iced tea I would highly suggest swapping to that for a while until you fully get past your Coke addiction. Good Luck!!!! You will get there.

Forgive him for telling and it will free YOU from the stress of being upset or feeling angry at him. My wife agreed not to tell anyone too... and then she just told two of her closest friends, and she was being stopped in the supermarket by their extended family saying "I heard your husband is having surgery." We actually laughed about it when she told me, because she trusted "her closest friends" not-to-tell... and it was a learning experience for her - of how people actually behave when they know a secret. Having this surgery is not like having an STD, don't allow it to be a stigma in your life. Expecting your husband not to say anything to anyone is unreasonable. Turn it into a "positive" not one more thing to fight over... find a way to laugh about it. Tell him it's ok... you've just told your whole family that he's getting a penile implant. Perhaps he'll say "OK - I got the message." I've also found - that the harder I try to keep it from others - the more lies I have to tell & the awkward feelings that creates FOR ME. So I just say it - when I have to, and listen to the positive or negative comments, and move on knowing I'm doing this because I have to FOR ME.

Here's a man chiming in...
I see a couple of issues here: 1. He didn't honor your request and betrayed your trust. He's your husband and should be your safe place, your confidante. 2. He stole your future moment of surprise and awe that we all are looking forward to as a benefit of our choice. Suggestion: have a conversation about who he wants to be for you. Is he your ally, forsaking all others, or is just the person you're married to at the moment? Hmmm.