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I have had the twitching in my Port area. I have also had what feels like a charlie horse that will hit in that area after the twitching. I have found IF you start to get the twitch try to not strain it further. Drink in water and get as much in as you can, it seems to be after exertion/lack of getting my fluid in so I guess kind of like a dehydration. I have been banded since 2008 and it comes and goes, usually just the twitching which I think it is a warning sign. If you do get the full on charlie horse try to lay back and relax, a heating pad helps to relax it and get the fluid in. Good luck

Well what you both have to also understand is that you are both on your OWN weight loss journey. You are both banded which is great! However, the bottom line it is still personal for each of you. Neither of you should dictate, push, judge or try to fix or improve what the other is doing unless it is asked for. That is just my opinion, and not trying to judge either of you. I got the band in 2008, and filed for divorce in April 2009. My ex was not banded, but cycled and I had joined a gym to which he then also joined. He wanted to me cycle with him, but for me I had ZERO interest in it. I never bitched about him going, just said hey your into it great i was supportive but it was not my cup of tea. He started to come to the gym with me, and always had to put his two cents in. He timed me on the cardio equipment, came over to see what I was doing, everything was watched/judged which got old very quick. We got married in July 2002, and when the band came home with me and right before.. I had to deal with him going on junk food sprees when I was on liquid phase. He would even follow me in a back room to hang out while eating this stuff. There were alot of issues, aside from the constant parts of telling me that I wasn't exercising enough, or this or that. We did end up in counseling for a brief time, but he was set in his ways and flat out told the counselor his choices were HOW he wanted to live his life. There is alot of things that go far deeper that would probably shock on this board. It sounds like there is irritation and anger on both sides. Honestly I would talk about seeing someone to talk about what is going on, I think it might be far more than just working out or the kids bed times. Honestly, you guys might have grown apart which does happen in life and with WLS. I would sit down and THINK both of you where this is going, what is the underlying issues. If you do not sit down and make time to talk about it or try to figure it out then most likely you will be headed to your respective lawyers. I do not mean to sound callus for either of you guys. I know quite a few people on this site that has had it happen to them, including myself. I wish you good luck, and remember you guys have the power to work on things to change them for the better and you both have to be willing and wanting to make it work. Once again I hope this doesn't come off as sounding cold, but it is a reality of life. Good luck to you guys!

Well another thought is that she might want to have the surgery herself. They might have been in a fight, she might have been feeling bad about herself and wanted to ask you about it. He might have stopped the conversation because of the fight, thinking it would go south fast. One never knows but she might just reach out to you sooner or later and get your guidance for her weight issue. He might also want to keep her a bit on the insecure side as well. Relationships can change dynamics with the different players. He might toss things out about you too, and put her on edge when the reality of it is that it is not needed. Sometimes, not is all is what it appears to be.

Welcome to the site! Lots of good info to check out. Good luck to you!

I had the pink/white powder on my nails for a french so they could see through the nail bed. They did not make me remove mine and they got alot of compliments from the nurses all around!

I believe you might be talking about an Intensive outpatient program (IOP) is that correct? Honestly, I wouldn't toss that group aside because there are reasons that you are in there for various support issues. However my suggestion would be to continue to go to that group and leave the band out of it. Bring your lap band issues to this forum because WE are going to know what you are feeling regarding the band, your group will not. We will not necessarily be able to help you with your group issues because we do not know the background on why your going. Is your mental health Doctor on board with you being banded? Just want to make sure on that note, because you might get feelings of depression, regret, mourning for food and make sure he knows this. It is a temporary thing, however it can happen. You have to take a look at the group that you are in, and you are all trying to work through scenarios together and offer support, however I stress to not use that group as a lapband support group because you will most likely be really disappointed and not get any sort of backup or support there because it is an issue far removed from what is going on in their life. Good luck!

I had to also do a restart after moving etc. I went back in for a fill May 24th and had to quickly learn how to eat properly again because I was filled to 7cc. I went through the mourning period again, and had to rethink about how much I was putting in. You have that urge for more food, when in reality you do not need it. I went to using smaller plates, I also put Romaine lettuce the leafy type on the plate for a filler and it is good for you! I will look at that and think damn that is alot of food, but the lettuce will chew down to not much. Take it one day at a time until you get back into the swing of things. You can do it!

Congratulations on your new addition to your tummy! I am sure you will do well on your journey. It can be a bit scary with going through the surgery, then trying to figure out what you are going to eat when it comes time. You might have some feelings (not guaranteed) where you might feel sad or think what the heck did I do? It is pretty common and we call it mourning the loss of food, or you might move right through it and not think twice. Come on here and look for threads that have to do with what your feeling, or asking questions. You will find nothing seems to be taboo! Good luck!

Have you tried the leafy Romaine lettuce? The darker the green the better which is why the leafy one is easier to mush down to nothing. It has better nutrition too, I am at 7cc and I too am a Rabbit. It also helps me when I am eating chicken that is too dry then I eat some salad with it and it fixes the problem. Just a thought!

I find I have a rough time for the week and a half post fill. Make sure you drink something prior. I also will do hot tea for the week or so after to relax the band a bit and loosen it up a bit. I call it waking up my band! You probably still have swelling from the fill which is normal! Also make sure that you do not take any vitamins, Advil or pills prior to eating by half hour to an hour. I have to wait an hour recently after a fill, and the longer into it I can take it a half hour before. If i reverse it and take pill after it will come up. Also if you have a PB episode then you could feel tighter, as it will irritate.

Well keep in mind you are going to be on liquids, then mushy for awhile. You could maybe do refried Beans at a mushy stage with some hot sauce on it, but that will be down the line. I have found that all of a sudden with my last fill I am less tolerant of HOT stuff, I can eat it to a degree but once i hit 7 in my band, I got more sensitive. You might be able to put some hot stuff that is liquid in some of the full liquids when you get to that point. You might find your bread craving heads out the door, I know mine did for the most part.

I love Vita-crave Gummies, my husband picked them up for me at the store because I was having a hard time with so many reg Vitamins. I also take: chewable acidophiles-helps keeping your bowels going helps with the band chewable Vitamin c Gummy Omega 3- Vitafusion Gummy vitamin D/calcium - Caltrate I do not dread my vitamins now, and it helps with the bathroom issues!

BTW.. dropping that 1 pound is still amazing! Even if you were to keep stable at this time. I say just tread water at times because you do what you need to do! Just keep hydrated!

Hey Jim, Sorry to hear about your Father! I lost my Dad Dec 22nd 2005 from a Cardiac Arrest, it was sudden and unexpected. He had previous mild heart attacks and had a stint put in about a year prior. My Mom was diagnosed with Colon Cancer Sept 07 and we lost her Jan 09 with multiple complications along the way, they were not able to due chemo or radiation. All the scenarios suck basically but there are many of us here that have felt similar pain to what you are going through. I try to know tell anyone I know what they are feeling because we all have different emotions and feelings. Hugs to you and sending thoughts to your whole family! Susan