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BTW.. dropping that 1 pound is still amazing! Even if you were to keep stable at this time. I say just tread water at times because you do what you need to do! Just keep hydrated!

Hey Jim,

Sorry to hear about your Father! I lost my Dad Dec 22nd 2005 from a Cardiac Arrest, it was sudden and unexpected. He had previous mild heart attacks and had a stint put in about a year prior. My Mom was diagnosed with Colon Cancer Sept 07 and we lost her Jan 09 with multiple complications along the way, they were not able to due chemo or radiation. All the scenarios suck basically but there are many of us here that have felt similar pain to what you are going through. I try to know tell anyone I know what they are feeling because we all have different emotions and feelings. Hugs to you and sending thoughts to your whole family! Susan

YAY.. welcome

I can eat nuts, but you do have to chew them really well, down to the mush stage.

I agree with Mis that it is a HIPPA violation!!! That is a major no no.

But think if your WLS is the topic of her conversations, then she must have one boring life. Not saying your boring but ... someone needs to get a life.

Hell, I would walk into that office and tell her in front of everyone (insert name) is your life really so boring that you have to tell everyone about my business? You could also talk to the Medical group that she is affiliated with, or the hospital and let them know. Just a thought

Do you think that maybe he is somehow angry or fearful you will leave him? You have lost weight, do you think that maybe you are re-evaluating your relationship because you might feel that you have more options? Just a thought....

I filed for divorce 8 months after I got banded because my ex was becoming a total douchebag. I realized that all I had been through with getting laid off, losing both parents etc.. that I would work my ass off vs being stuck in a place where I was not happy. Do you think you could get him to counseling? IF not maybe just you? Good luck!

You can always go for Fajitas, grilled chicken or steak. Most places you go to also will have cottage cheese that you can have as a side dish to meat or with fruit. Fish is always a good choice, a dinner salad with dressing on the side. If it is for breakfast eggs or egg beater you can order with just a portion of the eggs vs the usual 3 eggs if they do not have a substitute. Chili is normally a good option especially if you make it yourself but out you could do that.. black beans too. If you hit up Starbucks you can do a tall strawberries and cream blended drink with double protein added (no whip) drink it in place of a meal.

Check to see with the office and stress this, because both offices I have been to if you go back in within a week of a fill to remove or add a bit, they do not charge. It is like a grace period of sorts to make sure you are at a ok on the level of your restriction.

I was told that the fluid doesn't evaporate, so I have heard a couple versions.. what has anyone been told about the mysterious dissapearance of the fluid in the band? Other than a leak of course.

I also have worked with more men that women and honestly prefer it that way. They do not always think, and sometimes you have to roll with the punches! When we are carrying extra weight and rude things are said most of the time we do not tell them how we really feel.

I have found that if something is said even in joking, call them on it. It doesn't have to be rude, but in many cases it is the Pot calling the kettle black!

Many of the times it is the ones that are unsure of themselves that will make comments like that.

If they are single men, I have found that comments back such as:

"so does that line really work with women?

I bet your popular with the ladies?

Date much?

If married:

does your wife THINK your funny?

Do you talk to your wife like that? I am sure not you might walk in with two black eyes.

even a flat out.. knock you down.. I don't think so I am not rude like some people

Or..

Weebles wobble but they don't fall down..so you will pop right back up!!

(I have used this with a guy who pretty much said what he said to you..

It might not be the nicest but

I had had enough.. and he NEVER said anything negative again but was very respectful!!!

I do not advocate being mean, or rude but in a workplace , but sometimes you do need to give them a little smart ass back.

In regards to censoring your blog, its your blog... I read them and enjoy them. If someone is offended so be it they can skip over it.

It is obvious from your other posts that you do not talk like you work in a shipyard!! Grin

I am spiritual but nothing you said offends me.

If it bothers someone they can just block and I think your blogs will be blocked along with it.

I am not in that boat but was worried due to lack of fills for several years WHAT if I had a leak. Before they even checked, I asked what would happen or what it would consist of. I was told it is not all that rough or even to the degree of what we went through when we had the initial surgery. That it is pretty easy, I guess they just pull out the old port put in a new one and attach it. That the leak is not generally even with the band itself. If I had to do something I would opt for just getting the port fixed and not do the sleeve, but that is me.. Keep us posted!!

We are able to feel our ports when we touch our tummy. You possibly might be able to notice it more because maybe the swelling has gone down and you probably have taken off some around the midsection. I would check your temperature to see if you have a fever, were you able to eat without any problems? Are you drinking enough fluid? You also might be putting yourself into a panic attack or hyper ventalating because of nerves. i am healed up but if I do not get enough water i will get like a charlie horse around the left side near my port area. I have had it last awhile but I drink, drink, drink! Check your skin press down and see if it stays light colored that you might be dehydrated a bit. I cannot feel my tubing, but Like I said I can feel the port, you also might be feeling scar tissue forming vs the tubing. It was an odd feeling when I felt what it was like having a foreign object inside. Hopefully it helps some!