becky444

I'm 5 weeks out and I drink a tall brewed coffee everyday!

I can absolutely understand your concerns. I think you should talk about them with him. You are right, when one person experiences a period of growth for any reason, the other person can feel left behind. If you talk about it with him, though, you can both be conscious of choosing to compromise on some areas. Does it really matter if you spend the money on a place if you can't eat much? Probably not if it makes him happy. Are there activities you can do together that aren't intense activities or where you can be intense and he can be less (like him riding a bike while you jog)? Sure, and he may be willing to spend some time each week doing that to keep your relationship good. You won't know unless you approach him with it though!

I returned to work the next week, but I wouldn't advise it. I felt sick and was exhausted, and I left early a few days. I had to move quite a bit at work though, so maybe being at the desk won't be so hard. Good luck!

Survey done =)

weight now: 232, jogged 12 minutes last night (intervals tho, not all at once)!

You are so inspiring! at 5 weeks out, I cant wait until next summer!

I'm game! Weight now: 236.0 Goals: Weight: 220, be able to run 1 mile without stopping!

Mishy, I think that sometimes people should come off the liquid diet sooner than recommended. I'm not saying you should do this, but maybe talk to your doctor. I very slowly went into purees after 9 days on liquids, because I felt starving and sick all the time on liquids. When I added in small amounts of purees I felt so much better and started going 3 hours without feeling the need to eat. Everyone does heal differently, and I think we need to listen to our bodies. I remember craving so much during the liquid phase, but as I advanced through the diet the cravings have lessened because I am more satisfied with what I eat! Having some very thin mashed potatoes at 8 days out will surely be better for you (if your doctor approves) than cake and ice cream and will leave you feeling satisfied, not scared and guilty!

I think for me the best way to decide is to think of a healthy weight I have been before. I'm 5'2 and most people would say I should be around 110-120, but I know that is not realistic for me. I was 140lbs 12 years ago, and wearing a size 10, and that is good enough for me!

JenniJune, you should read Geneen Roth's Feeding the Hungry Heart. It is exactly about what you are talking about...that deprivation leads to more problems. It was a good read!

Check your drain site for redness or drainage aroung the site. Mine did get infected, and I was in horrible pain until it was pulled. If it looks infected, go see your doctor! I started feeling myself 2 days after that was pulled. Good luck, I remember my big crying day after surgery and it was no fun, but it will get better!

I have to say, I was moderately lactose intolerant before surgery. I could have yogurt and kefir, some cheeses, no milk or cream, no ice cream (not that that stopped me!) Post surgery, I am living on dairy! I'm kinda amazed at how few problems I am having. The only thing I can think of is that I am having much smaller portions at a time than I would have...2-3 oz of cheese instead of a brick! I'm still surprised after reading how many people become lactose intolerant from the surgery

I am also having this problem. I seem to be constantly hungry. Someone told me it could be gas or acis, so I started taking Gas-x again and upped my acid prevention. Worked well for me, now I am only getting hungry about 3 hours after I eat (about 4oz) and that seems right on track to me. I'm getting enough protein and taking in 500-600 calories per day

I have been walking on the treadmill since the day I got home from the hospital. I was careful not to push it, went for longer time instead of higher intensity. Now (8 days out) I'm bumping up intensity a bit every day. Walking is good for you after this surgery. You should be walking very day I think

Robin33, I just sent you a friend request on FB. Will you add me to the group please?

I was sleeved June 18th. 4 days out I think I'm doing really well. Pain is well controlled with the meds, no vomiting, and I'm happy with my 2oz of protein shake every 3-4 hours. The drain comes out on Monday, that will be nice!

I also love the Premier protein shakes. Tastes like chocolate milk, so not a thick consistency, and I can get them at Costco. I'm 4 days post op and I can get through 1 whole shake a day, 2 oz at a time

So I got sleeved on Monday, the 18th. What a whirlwind of emotions!I remember thinking as they were prepping me "maybe this isn't such a good idea", then I woke up in recovery...too late! Since then I have felt proud that I went through with it, I have thought (Many times) "what did I do to myself?" but mostly I have felt surreal that it's done and cannot ever be undone. I wish I could say that more of my feelings have been positive, but I think that will change as I start feeling physically better. Day 2 was the worst. My pain button was gone, which was good because it meant I passed my x-ray contrast study, but it also meant I went on pain meds every 4 hours instead of when I wanted them. I felt so much nausea and pain yesterday! Forced myself to get up and walk to help the gas move along. BTW, kudos to the wise people on this board who recommended Gas-X strips!!! I never would have survived without them! They were "contraband" at my hospital, but I took them anyways...what a difference! I stopped needing them today when my body started dealing with the gas in its own way. I'm home now, and I wish I could say I have some relaxation ahead of me. I start training at my internship tomorrow. They know I'm coming off surgery, but it's still 7 long hours tomorrow and Friday. Saturday cannot come soon enough. I have to go study now before I take my next pain meds...talk to you all soon with (hopefully) a more positive outlook!

I'm going tomorrow too...good luck to everyone!

Wannabe, my surgery is tomorrow too! I'm very nervous but excited too. I have decided that when I'm scared tomorrow, I'm going to think about you going through the same thing as me! We can do this!

My surgery is also on June 18th. I also had 2 weeks of protein shakes, and I also cheated 4 times! 4 seems to be the winning number =) When I cheated I did try to have protein only, but a couple of times I had a few carbs. From what other people said on the forums, the carbs are what we want to avoid. I think you will be fine, some people only do the shakes for 1 week, some even said just a few days pre-op! Now that we are so close, just don't do it again!!! We can do this =)

Yay! My heart is ok! Stupid inaccurate EKG's. The cardiologist looked at it and said that yes, it looks like I had a heart attack. But the echo and the stress test were perfect! No heart disease! So I'm a go for my Monday sleeve! Today is my last day of shakes, tomorrow is clear liquids, then surgery! Thanks everyone for your support!

My pre-op diet is Bariatric Advantage protein powder shakes for 2 weeks. I can mix the powder with water, milk, or soy milk, and add fruit or greek yogurt if I wish. I can have 4-5 shakes per day, which works out to be about 1000-1200 calories per day. I can also have sugar-free clear liquids as I wish. From what I have read on the forums, the diet varies surgeon to surgeon. Some people do the shakes for 1 week, others, get to eat food but have to follow an Atkins diet.

ok, so Tuesday I got my abdominal ultrasound, which was the last thing I needed pre-surgery. Or so I thought. I got a cal, this morning saying my EKG was abnormal and I needed to come into my primary doctor's office. She sits me down and tells me that my EKG indicates a heart attack in my past! What?!? I have an emergency cardiologist appointment Friday - thank god my primary was able to get me in - to see if I can go ahead with the sleeve Monday. I don't know which I am more upset about...the heart attack or the possibility of not getting sleeved. Is that weird?

Well, after my scary slip-up last week, I have been doing great. Hunger way down, have to think about having shakes or hours will go by without wanting one. The relationship seems to be stabilizing, which makes me happy. School just started, but only one class over the summer. Surgery is 1 week from today. I can't wait! I decided today to skip talking about nerves and fears and talk about something happy...goals! My goal weight loss is 130 pounds, 13 of which I have already lost. But there are so many other goals: -Going to Great America and riding the rollercoasters -Having no problems fitting into the seat on my annual flight to Tuscon in December -Running a 5k -Rollerblading -Working a full shift at work without my knees and feet hurting -Playing soccer with my nephews -Hiking Wasson Peak in Tuscon -Hiking anywhere! -Being able to take a tall step without grabbing on to anything -Having more energy -Swimming without embarassment I'm sure there are more, but that's a good list off the top of my head.