I am only one month out but I too had a Lapband. I lost 24 lbs and gained back 40. I felt like such a disappointment to everyone. I was embarrassed and it got to a point that I didn't want to leave my house. It wasn't until today that I really realized that this was the best decision I've made for myself. Everyone has been bugging me for pictures (I moved to TX from FL in July so everyone doesn't see me often) and I found a before picture that I put next to a picture taken today. It's only 50 lbs but it makes a huge difference. As far as family goes, I did not tell my dad until the night before I was going in because I didn't want to worry him. The day after surgery I woke up (in ICU) and my dad was sitting at my bedside crying. Once again, I felt so ashamed. We didn't speak hardly for the remainder if time that I was in FL. Today I sent him the picture and he finally has excepted my decision as a good one. You can't lose (no pun intended) here. It comes to a point when your family is dependent on your health and its never a mistake to be healthy. God Bless you and your journey whichever path is chosen.