wantingtolivehealthy

My heart goes out to you. I understand how you feel. The surgery is the easy part, fixing your head and thought process is alot harder. I had my surgery 11 months ago and I have lost 167lbs. It is the best decision I have made. I also see a behaviorist, and have a few close people who I can talk to. I strongly suggest you do the same. Also working through the over eaters workbook is very helpful. Good luck

Im down 128lbs since the day of sergery! Im now 178lbs and living it! I want to get down to 160 but I havnt been that in 16 yrs..ii luv my sleeve! No regrets.

everyone has to start some where even if they have never had a weight problem. I would suggest starting bike 3-4 times a day for 15 min each time. do what you can and build your time up as you go when you can bike longer in one session then do it 2 times a day down to once a day for the longer period of time. Your body will adjust it will take time but you will get there.

I am not a huge fan of exercise myself. One thing I did fall in love with is zumba. I go with some friends once a week and it's a blast. I haven't been able to go for a few weeks because of surgery, but I can't wait to go again. They offer them for sure at 24 hour fitness and my YMCA offers them. My hour of exercise goes by fast and I was burning between 800-1000 calories.

Do they offer other classes at your Y? I always find exercise more.fun when its.not so monotonous and I can forget about it. Zumba for example or other step classes they are great workouts and I tend to get lost in the instruction rather than how thinking about that I am exercising. Also I am not sure what kind of bike u have but if ur seat is too low or the adjustments aren't right for an intense bike ride.this could be causing some of ur knee pain. You may want to ask your trainer or a spin instructor at the Y could show u on a stationary bike.
Every little bit counts.sounds like you are doing great!

I hate it too. I spent forever trying to find that one exercise everyone claims to love. It's not out there for me. I'm trying to vary my routine with swimming, yoga, biking, walking. Sounds like you are doing the same.
It's a box we have to check. I got a pedometer so at least I feel some reward when I park at the back of the lot, take the stairs, etc.
I started writing my exercise down so I feel a sense of accomplishment. I also don't want to leave any days with empty boxes.
Good luck and keep trying!
And if reading and computer stuff counted, I'd be anorexic!

Exercise can be a job but just like a paying job it's something you have have to do. Hate it but do it anyway. I get up at 5 am 6 days a week to run for 40 minutes on the elliptical. It's a real grind but it's something that I know I have to do if I want to stay alive so I do it.

Swimming is amazing exercise! It will get you shredded. They don't call it a "swimmer's build" for nothing!
And if reading were cardio activity maybe this country would be more literate.

You're doing great and your results are showing -- which is why you're still going. It's great that you're staying committed! Besides, doesn't apart of you feel great immediately following a work out? It's always the initial motivation that gets me Oh and knowing the for sure soreness the next morning hehe

First let me start off by saying that I do not condone drug use of any kind. I hear you saying that he's changed and left the drug usage alone however he still smokes weed? Isn't weed considered a drug? In all actuality that would mean he's still on drugs, right? I can only assume that this must mean he was doing some harder drugs at one time. How will you feel about him doing this around your baby once you guys do manage to conceive again, because If he's ready for a family, he has to ask himself if the marijuana usage is more important to him than you. Second, let me say that I try to never tell a married person to leave their spouse. Many people will have various opinions, but the vows you made were for "better or for worse" and I do believe that people can change if they want to. You said that he changed and left the other drugs alone, so I have to believe that he could also leave the marijuana alone. Living with others can place a strain on a marriage. Especially if your family feels compelled to comment on things going on between you guys. But just being totally honest with you, he sounds very immature and a bit controlling if he doesn't want you to spend time with your family, hell you're living with them! How could you possibly not spend time with them? And he's arguing with you cause he can't smoke weed. He shouldn't want to smoke weed in your parent's house out of respect for them and their property! I'm sure he knows that they would not approve. I'm sure he does feel trapped. Hopefully you guys can get your own place sometime soon. Sit your husband down when the two of you can talk rationally and explain to him how you feel. Listen to his concerns and let him know that you are dedicated to this marriage 100%. Explain to him that you understand that he may feel trapped, but you appreciate him making this effort to make the best out of your living situation. Most men need to feel needed. Maybe he feels as if you don't need him since you're with your family now. Mostly explain to him that you don't want to keep argueing. Sometimes in the heat of an arguement, it's best to say "Baby, I love you, but I don't want to keep argueing with you right now." and walk away and give both of you time to calm down. Once you've stepped back, you can sometimes look at things better and think rationally. I pray things get better, because right now you should be focused on recovery. Good luck and God bless.

I understand! I don't hardly talk to anyone, not even my family. Everyone knows I had surgery; I was proud of myself for finally taking control of my weight problem. However, my weight loss and the surgery are all I can think about 99% of the time. NO ONE around me understands what I have been through or the struggles I face daily. I am hoping to get over it eventually because I don't like feeling so anti-social. If I didn't have this forum, I'd be lost lol

Yes but mainly I have found I am more into myself now that I have had surgery and sometimes I find myself not interested in talking to other about their problems ( I can't be bothered) I know that sounds bad but I want to concentrate on myself more now than ever.

I absolutely feel the same way. For me, I know it's because I haven't told anyone except my husband. So it can't be a topic of conversation. And for the past three months I've felt like my only hobby has been weight loss related. When I'm out socially, I don't feel like it's appropriate nor interesting conversation. Most of my friends only have 5-10lbs to lose. At the same time when my weight loss has come up, I find myself not wanting to talk about it. Mainly because people freak out when I tell them I only get 600-800 calories per day. Immediately they balk and tell me I'm starving myself. It's hard for anyone with a full-sized stomach to understand that we don't have the same mental-will challenge they have of feeling full and satisfied.
I can't explain it fully, but I get what you mean. Much more of a wallflower than before.

I wonder if it's because you can't enjoy the things that others can enjoy right now, so it's easier to just withdraw from anything social. I'm not sure that I've felt that, yet. I'm only on day 10, but I can see myself wanting to skip things until I get a handle on this sleeve.

I just got back from lunch with coworkers. They are not close friends of mine but aquaintances really. I felt withdrawn the whole time. I hardly said anything. I did have a great shrimp and spinach quesadilla though. I got the half order and it was three small triangles and so it was just enough food for me and I was thrilled with that! I ate it all because it was small and no one made a deal over how little I ate. I just seemed to fade into the background. I have never been like this socially but now I seem to be more of a recluse than before. Maybe it was the company.....

I have been experiencing the same thing, I was sleeved March 2. Good to know I'm not alone.

during my shower i reached behind to wash my back. My arm went behind me, and extended way past normal. WooHoo, since theres less of me, i can now wash more. WooHoo
kathy

I'm just leaving for the hospital. I'm suprised I slept well last night and feel amazingly calm!

I'm so glad I'm not alone. I have hardly told anyone about my surgery because I know how their reactions are going to be. I don't need their reactions. I am 100% confident in my decision so I don't need someone putting it down. This is definately not the easy way out and it's "MY" decision. It's a tool to help get us to goal and maintain. I have done so much yoyo dieting. I once lost 100 pounds on Weight Watchers. Felt great, loved seeing people because I was thin. But then it crept back on. Now, I would hate to see those people again because of the weight I put on. I know my name would be the center of attention.
My immediate family knows and a friend, that's it. Even my husband, he's supportive, but thinks it's a drastic measure for me to take. He tells me how well I've done on Weight Watchers and I should just go back and stick to it. Well, if it were that easy, I wouldn't be in this situation.
If people ask about my weight loss, I don't know what I'm going to tell them. Some I may tell, other's I may just tell them that I am doing a restrictive high Protein, low calorie diet. It's not a lie...I just didn't get into details.
Like Inline6E46 said, this site is great for support!! Good luck!