SunshineMom2

Thank you all for your support and I am ashamed to say that I know what he does is abuse.. I have known that since the first year we were married.. I have thought of divorce for years but I have little ones and feel they deserve a life with both parents.. It is so hard to live life with someone that isnt there for you mentally or even in the marriage.. I was abandoned right out of the gate of marriage beacause he valued his job and business more then he did our family.. His work and life is more important then we are but when asked why he isnt there for us his response is that he is there supporting the family to live.. I guess you can say I have gotten used to being talked to that way and a single parent during the week.. I figured I deserved it since he lets me stay home with the kids.. I have no family left and his is all I have to depend on.. I guess I just have lost myself over the years and my self esteem but this year will be a big change for me.. once i feel I can succeed then I can do many more things in life and not depend on him as much..
thanks to all that have responded and shared things..you have made me realize that this is abuse and not exceptable... I am really glad I found this site.. it will be a big help in my journey... thanks again

Once again you all have been very supportive and great.. so thank you all for the advice and just reaching out to say you care.. it has been a very nice thing all of you have done..
I do wanna say tho that tonight I took some of the advice given and sat him down to tell him how yesterday affected me.. he didnt realize what he had done and said he was sorry.. but ofc he wanted to get his groove on so he would say anything at that time..lol.. but in the end I think I got my point across and used some of the advice RosieSweetie gave... so thanks for that.. from now on I wont sit back and take his abuse but turn it around on him and let him know how it feels.. I do realize that this will take a long time to change but a change for myself to figure out what is right for me.. you all had very good advice and I feel this year will be a time for change whether it is him who straightens up or me leaving...
to yecats I wanna respond and say that sanibel and captiva is a great place to live.. we have beautiful peaceful beaches here.. I do have a great life as far as that goes and have everything I could want.. so please dont think he doesnt provide for us because he does in nice ways.. it is just his attitude that stinks some time...
once again I appreciate all the advice and support... you guys are great!!!!

Both of you look AWESOME!!! Great job and wow I cant believe that a sleeve can do all that.. AMAZING....

Mine is the 21st of January so I'm ahead of you but going to Dr. Aceves too.. I cant wait and wish I could meet someone on that date or around it.. I could use a support buddy... Dont have much support around me so it would be helpful... any takers?? lol...
Well, I wish you 2 the best and hope things go well.. add me if you like... I need some more friends to chat with...

Mine is the 21st of January so I'm ahead of you but going to Dr. Aceves too.. I cant wait and wish I could meet someone on that date or around it.. I could use a support buddy... Dont have much support around me so it would be helpful... any takers?? lol...
Well, I wish you 2 the best and hope things go well.. add me if you like... I need some more friends to chat with...

I've just started my pre op diet and having surgery with Dr. Aceves on the 21st... I'm so excited too and wish you all many wishes.. Good Luck guys... Add me if you like so i can hear how things went... tc and best wishes