SunshineMom2

I have had these wraps many times and I can honestly say that they are a gimmick to get desperate people to fall for their results.. They do provide a quick fix for when you want to fit into a dress for a party or just look nice for a function.. But once you start drinking fluids your body is going to replenish what it has lost.. it works for about a couple of days but to keep the results you need to keep doing the wraps.. if this was such a miracle cure then everyone would be doing it and we would have a cure for a tight body.. the best way to get a tight body is to workout and lift weights.. the more you put into your workouts the more you will gain... these are just my opinions of what I have experienced in the past...

I just got mine today and it is heavier but my issue with the new periods are getting horrible back pain 2 days b4 it starts.. does anyone else have this issue with their periods and tell me what causes it? I also hate the fact we can only take tylenol for the pain.. oh and mine usually last about a full week... so for me the time of the month sucks and I just finally gained a pound today after two months post op.. so that was a little disappointing but I know it is just bloating so not too worried about it.. I also find that I want to eat more around this time...Does anyone else feel this way?

Hey guys, just wanted to let you all know that I had my surgery today and doing awesome.. Well, besides falling alseep at the tablet,, lol.. I have already been up sitting so the next action is to pee..lol.. Sorry tmi... I just hope tomorrow is this great.. My surgery was about an hour long and only in recovery few a short time.. Sorry this is not much but right now I cant stay awake.. Just having a shout out to say I am fine and thanks for all the prayers...

Hey, thanks to all.. I'm still doing really well.. Been walking the hospital several times tonight.. So to answer the question to the one lady, I would say that everyone is different in how they handle pain.. I have a pretty high pain threshold but I also think on the first day they give you so much drugs that you are never in pain.. The people here are soooo nice and they want you to be comfortable.. Tomorrow will be the true test of how much the pain will be.. they also gave me a spinal block in surgery which gives a little more pain meds to your tummy... I am so glad I have joined this journey and found new friends in sleevers.. PS thanks for the advice on the heating pad.. I am using it again.. Ok so I am still druged up so i will head back to bed.. THANKS AGAIN.. Kisses to all...

Ok here it goes.. Today was a beautiful day here so my family decided to take a little boat ride out to the ocean.. We started out doing good and then oops my husband didnt stay in the channel and we hit the grass flats.. We just didnt hit them we got stuck to where our boat didnt move.. we were in about a foot of Water and werent going nowhere.. My kids were freaking out and my husband started getting rude... Once you get stuck on the flats the only way of getting off is to get out and push until you get into deeper water or you wait for high tide to come back in... Well, we tried both.. First he tried to get out and push but it was hard to move the boat bc of being grounded.. So he started on the mean kick and saying that I was the fattest in the boat and that my fat ass is causing us to be stuck there.. it was very degrading and embarrassing since my kids were in the boat.. So for the next 3 hours all I heard from the family was how fat I was and needed to get out of the boat and push.. I was like WTH... I am not getting out and why are you taking your stupidity out on me... Here I am on my pre-op diet and doing really well.. my surgery is the 21st so I know I am heading in the right direction.. but after today I wanted to come home and eat the house.. thank god I didnt and just had a Protein shake with some dinner but I was still mad when we got back.. he never even said sorry for what he had done.. I feel like sometimes my husband holds me back on succeeding bc of his mean actions... So here is my questions to you all... Does our husbands hold us back from succeeding in life bc of their mean behavior?? I could be the only one out there that has this issue but I really feel like our emotions and eating depend on how we are treated sometimes.. it has been a long 10 yrs of this.. I am ready to take charge and show him I can handle things when his dishes it out... sorry if this doesnt belong in a thread but just wondering if I am alone on this or are others out there with same issues...

Wow, I am so sorry that you had to go through all that but glad you are finally better and healing.. I know what it is like to have pain and feel like something is wrong but the doctors say it is nothing serious.. so glad you stuck to your guns and got it figured out.. take care of yourself and rest so your body can heal... keep us informed on how things go.. i will pray for lots of healing for you..

Hey guys, sorry I havent been on to respond to the comments.. I've had this nasty cold from the weather going from hot to cold and back.. I've been trying to heal myself b4 the surgery in 7 days... WOW the time has past quickly since I made the date.. I cant believe it is around the corner.. I dont feel like I have lost any pre op weight and feeling sad about it.. I think my body realizes that I am stressed and needs that extra comfort to hold on to any fat I wanna lose..lol.. but i can rest assure that after the surgery I will lose.. it is just a matter of when and how much.. Ok getting back to why I am here...lol.. I just wanna say again how much your comments and support have lifted my spirits and confirmed what I knew a long time ago.. that this behavior isnt right and I deserve better.. but b4 I look for better I need to work on myself and that means changing who I am as a person.. inside and out.. once I get there I can then decide what is best for me.. I wanna give a little background on who I am.. My whole life has been about mental abuse.. my father was the sherriff of our small town and a law enforcement guy b4 then.. my mother was a very kind and forgiving woman but most importantly a very strong christain..she did anything and everything to find ways of help other ppl.. she worked as a special needs teacher and had a heart of gold.. I learned through my childhood that life is rough and we need to work on what God gives us.. I saw my mother abused many times in my life and always felt that wasnt right that she needed to get out.. but she never did.. her motto was that when we marry that was it.. in our family she believed that divorce isnt an option and that you work on things when it wasnt right... She past away when I was 18yrs old with a long battle of breast cancer.. it started when I was 10 and didnt get any better.. even in her time of sickness she always thought of others, was always willing to help or give tons of support.. she never gave up and I find that was a great quality that I learned from her.. they always say that when a daughter takes a husband that they will find a guy like their dad.. well in my case it was very true.. I just didnt realize it until yrs after my marriage and tons of conuseling that I was back in my childhood and didnt know what to do.. all I do know is the voice of my mother reaching out and saying that divorce wasnt an option that I needed to work on it.. I have worked many yrs on my marriage but it gets to the point when the one working on it gets tired and gives up... hence all the weight gain from many yrs of food abusing myself... that was the only place I could find comfort and feel satisfied... I hear all the ladies that say they would never take this kind of abuse and that they would leave but no one will ever know how to react until they are faced with it.. this is all I know.. the counselors have told me that I cant recongize what true love is because I have never seen it myself.. all I know is abuse and it is hard to accept anything else.. I am a very strong christain woman and know that if I keep praying that one day god will set me free from these strongholds.. it may not be now but I know one day I will... whether it is here on earth or up in heaven... all I do know is that I am trying to be a great wife and mother and do what is right in the eyes of the lord... at the end of my journey i can say I did my best... I do wanna say that I Do hear everyone and DO appreciate all the feedback you have shared.. it means a lot to me and trust me I have been thinking a lot about this since I have posted it.. it does open my eyes to the things that arent right and that needs to be changed.. I feel like all of you have empowered me to step up to have a voice again and tell him when things arent right.. so thank you all and sorry this letter was all over the place.. writing letters wasnt a strong point in my schooling.. so please forgive me on that.. oh and the lady that said it was good to have some education.. I wanna say that I do have a degree in radiology and worked many years in my profession b4 having kids.. so I do have something to fall back on.. it is another thing my mother taught me b4 dying.. to always have something to fall back on.. she also taught me to save for a rainy day.. you never know when you might need it to run away.. lol.. but right now my rainy day money is going for my surgery since he is making me pay for it.. it is self pay in Mexico but I look at it as a very good investment that I could give myself... plus if I ever leave him he couldnt say he gave me the body i will earn.. I would never give him that satisfation... Dont worry guys.. I am a tough and strong woman with a basket of lots of emotions.. it is just a matter of when I have had enough that I will finally figure out what to do... thanks again guys and please dont think i am knocking anything that anyone has said because it has all helped in my spirits... I ask one more thing of all of you.. could you please pray for me on the 21st.. I need all the prayers that day so i can get through this and return home to my kids and husband.. yes I said husband.. he isnt going with me and made me find a friend to take.. that choice wasnt his fault but his mothers that chose not to help watch my kids,, I know the whole family is screwed up and trust me I am mad about it... but what doesnt kill us makes us stronger.. have a wonderful weekend...

You are very welcome... I hope it works for you.. BTW you look like the guy in Are We there Yet movie.. the really handsome guy.. I forgot his name tho so please forgive me but you will know who I am talking about if you seen the movie.. it was just on tv for new years eve so that is why I brought it up... well, have a great week and add me if you like so I can follow if you got those pics done yet or not.. see ya around..

Both of you look AWESOME!!! Great job and wow I cant believe that a sleeve can do all that.. AMAZING....

thanks Dooter... Has anyone looked at those smileys? there is 2 bananas doing it....LMAO.. funny to see in the morning at 3:30am...

Once again you all have been very supportive and great.. so thank you all for the advice and just reaching out to say you care.. it has been a very nice thing all of you have done.. I do wanna say tho that tonight I took some of the advice given and sat him down to tell him how yesterday affected me.. he didnt realize what he had done and said he was sorry.. but ofc he wanted to get his groove on so he would say anything at that time..lol.. but in the end I think I got my point across and used some of the advice RosieSweetie gave... so thanks for that.. from now on I wont sit back and take his abuse but turn it around on him and let him know how it feels.. I do realize that this will take a long time to change but a change for myself to figure out what is right for me.. you all had very good advice and I feel this year will be a time for change whether it is him who straightens up or me leaving... to yecats I wanna respond and say that sanibel and captiva is a great place to live.. we have beautiful peaceful beaches here.. I do have a great life as far as that goes and have everything I could want.. so please dont think he doesnt provide for us because he does in nice ways.. it is just his attitude that stinks some time... once again I appreciate all the advice and support... you guys are great!!!!

Thank you all for your support and I am ashamed to say that I know what he does is abuse.. I have known that since the first year we were married.. I have thought of divorce for years but I have little ones and feel they deserve a life with both parents.. It is so hard to live life with someone that isnt there for you mentally or even in the marriage.. I was abandoned right out of the gate of marriage beacause he valued his job and business more then he did our family.. His work and life is more important then we are but when asked why he isnt there for us his response is that he is there supporting the family to live.. I guess you can say I have gotten used to being talked to that way and a single parent during the week.. I figured I deserved it since he lets me stay home with the kids.. I have no family left and his is all I have to depend on.. I guess I just have lost myself over the years and my self esteem but this year will be a big change for me.. once i feel I can succeed then I can do many more things in life and not depend on him as much.. thanks to all that have responded and shared things..you have made me realize that this is abuse and not exceptable... I am really glad I found this site.. it will be a big help in my journey... thanks again