I too didn't want anyone to know about my band. I told my kids, ages 22 & 19, two days before the surgery. The only other people who knew were my two best friends and my boyfriend.
I especially didn't tell my family as I didn't want to here their comments or have them worry or have to explain myself.
Anyway, my house is the "hang out house." With both boys home from college and a big pool and backyard all the kids are here practically everynight. Many of them I know since they were little.
Well about 3 days post op it became very clear that a signifcant number of the kids new.
I immediately knew that my older son blabbed! I was so annoyed and embarressed. But as the days went by it became apparent that the kids had already forgotten about it, couldn't care less, didn't think about it, as it wasn't important to them.
Then the funniest thing happened. My younger son's college roommate came to visit ...he lives 1500 miles away. When he came in I asked him how he was and how were his parents. He replied, "my mother just got home from the hospital yesterday, she had weight loss surgery." I guess it isn't as big a deal as I made it.
Lori