CowgirlJane

I like Denise's suggestion. I actually think one of the reasons 5:2 works so well is that it "mixes things up". I am not suggesting you go to 5:2 but rather to have a few days of more healthy calories. I did that when I was seriously low carbing. Like, I would be uber low carb and then a day of adding some fruit, or higher carb vegetables, maybe a half a slice of wonderful Dave's Killer bread or something like that - that tended to shake things up too.

Well, I know it isn't much consolation, but i can't lose weight fast at all. A year ago in March I came back from Mexico weighing abut 150 and in about 3 weeks dropped down to 140 - not intentionally but because I couldn't eat. I had to force myself to eat again and regain some because even though that isn't a low number, I was covered in bruises and clearly was not well nourished. I was not well and didn't look healthy either. Fast forward over a year, i am over goal and no matter what I do, I don't seem to be able to lose. The main difference is I am not as active. I also think... something has changed. Or rather, something was abnormal last year. Anyway, I am motivated to get back down to get weight off that bad hip. If I can lose 5# in a month, that will be really good. I would like to lose 20#. so it goes.

Contact some local"center of excellence" bariatric programs. They all do revisions just pick one that has a good track record and program. Good luck!

So, while I was awaiting the diagnosis, my anxiety amped up. So, Friday I got the great news that I am "ok" but my anxiety isn't okay. I believe that becoming anxious caused a trigger - like it kicked up the chemical reaction and i am having a hard time "coming down". This is so frustrating because i didn't tolerate the daily meds (Lorizipam or whatever it was). I am going to try some natural meds. My healthnut sister told me a specific type of HTP5 to try because what i have tried before didn't help anything. The Gaba product that i have used before gave me a paradoxial reaction (made me insanely, having a heart attack anxiety) so I proceed with caution... It makes me frustrated that even when life is pretty good, I still have this anxiety problem. I am not horseback riding or doing some of the things that used to soothe my soul.

I'd love to year a report back 1 2 3 34 and 5 year's from now.

There are alot of local support groups I DON'T go to so I have to be realistic, I probably would not go.

Well...another way to think about it is that maintenance is about battling the regains etc. I just don't know why he keeps creating new forums. I will see a post and think I will respond later but can't find the dang thing because there are so many with unclear purpose. You know I am getting less and less out of BP. My big problems are medical right now...

Lab reports didn't come back but radiologist called pathologist doing lymphoma test and I am CLEAR. radiologist said he has only seen this disease once and my MRI matched his other case exactly. What a relief. Although a different lab is testing for the infection, this guy said no bad cells floating around so I have a seroma and it may need draining again but optimistic that the implants can stay. I have restricted activity and follow up in a month. My fault about veteran's forum. I have grumbled about too many forums, Denise asked to have maintenance thread moved to maintenance forum. So I asked the question "why do we need both?". To which alex responded by moving all posts to maintenance forum and deleting vets forum. I guess it doesn't matter but its like every week there is a new forum.

Exercise is always good BUT it does not shrink skin and it does not require expensive equipment. I used a combo of workout DVD and a spinning bike to get some of the toughest workouts ever.

2nd time I went I got a short middle aged balding guy...haha ..it was still fun!

The directions are right there with the picutre...same post. Don't click just read.

I have worked for the same very large company for decades. People have seen me lose, regain, and gain even more over the decades. In general, people are gentle and kind and don't say a word about the gaining. I would get the "you look great" with the losing. The difference is post WLS I actually got slim for the first time EVER. Also, because I have been in different roles and we are a multinational there are people who I only see in person every few years, it is not like there was this "gradual" change. For some folks I literally went from 300+ pounds to 150 and fit. Shocking change in my appearance. I had more then one "holy Sh*T" type reaction. I had a few guys behave in ways that were probably on the edge of appropriatenss on a work setting - but I chalked it up to shock and frankly I WAS shocked at how good I turned out looks wise so I cut alot of slack. The one that I struggled with the most was a woman who is kind of a spaz/weird person anyway (impulse control problem type of person) who just couldn't get over it. I mean, over a period of months she would walk up to me and insist on seeing my badge because she couldn't believe it was me. Her behavior started to feel creepy actually. In general, I don't answer questions about how. When people push me I talk about huge transformative events that made me realize how much I needed to change my whole life. There is nothing like talking about your dear sister, who was your best friend dying of breast cancer at age 40 to de-focus the conversation on my weight or how I did it. Anyway, I kind of viewed that I owed people some patience and love as they adjusted to the new me/new appearance. I feel that way because they were so accepting and supportive of ME even when I felt and looked pretty terrible. I have a long term relationship with a whole organization and I guess I felt like I owed them that. The beautiful thing is that overtime, people actually forget you were ever obese....

My Kindle Fire also hates this site

I have seen it discussed on the forums, but I don't wear one and my bariatric program never suggested it. I do have an In Case of emergency screen saver on my phone. My phone is password locked, but you can see 3 emergency numbers and basic data I entered: My name, city, Gastric sleeve Dec 2001, NKA, DOB XX/XX/xxxx If you are not diabetic, why would you say no sugar?

Just feeling normal. No longer being that uncomfortable combination of invisible (not seen as a woman) with being very noticable/stand out due to my morbid obesity. That was really a thing once i was over 300#. I love just taking it for granted that I am normal/medium/average. This applies to how I see myself, how clothes fit, the stores i can shop in, how others see me, how i fit into seats/booths - all elements of just feeling normal.

There is such a huge range of people in their 50s. Some are still super jocks, others seem like they are more like 75. I have been looking for the middle ground which is rare in the singles crowd it seems. Vast majority can't see their shoes - big huge gut thing going on. sigh. If I keep stress eating I will be like that too..harhar. I am hoping doc calls today with diagnosis because I have been waiting almost 2 months in total to find out "why". The main delay was the 3.5 weeks it took to get the diagnostic mammogram. I will never tolerate that wait again, but at the time the doc made it seem like no big deal. What i am finding out is regardless of the diagnosis - all possible ones actually are a big deal.

Thank you Alex. I have thought about reporting this thread but there isn't a single post that crossed the line....more of an accumulation of crazy train. I personally would just like to know what we are actually talking about. I STILL don't get it.

Denise I had the experience of meeting a contractor while out dancing. SOB led me to believe he was interested in bidding on my job....but when I didn't want to "date" him that flew out the window...Haha. seriously, I think the bidding appointment was just a premise to be in my home... I am 51, I'd be very comfortable dating a 40 year old. Scott is like 43 or something and in many ways I was more youthful!. Age is just a number and as long as activity/looks/interests are acceptable - why not??? I am weirded out by the dudes under 30 who want to "see" me but I don't think 10_15 years is too big of a difference. I am a hot but mature woman and I think you are as well! Changing subjects..... I decided to tell a couple of people that I work closely with about my pending diagnosis. Not the details per se but just an acknowledgement of why I have missed so effing much work for all the tests and frankly my emotional backwash. I love their support. I took my ex out to coffee and told him I feel weird asking so much and that I DO have other peeps....So just say no if it doesn't work to help me out. His answer nearly brought tears to my eyes. He said something like " if something weird comes out of this I will help you however I can. You are the center of the boys world and I love them so much I will always help you if I can" of course what he meant is we know cancer hell....we were there together with my sis. My gfriends are nearly as scared as I am....and I know they are here for me too. Tomorrow, when I find out this is "nothing" this post will be stupid... but it shows the power of loving relationships. I am blessed, truly blessed.

It wasn't visually twice the size and oddly it didn't hurt. Sore right now though!

You are physically healthy." I heard this statement (my paraphrase ) on a amazon prime show called Enlightened and it gave me much much food for thought. Those of you who know me might guess I have much to say on this as I am truly transformed by massive weight loss...but I am very interested in your thoughts! . .. did you need to regain a degree of physical health before the emotional?

I have a different situation - I have been "coupled" my whole life until the last few years! I feel good, look good... seems like I should have a permanent man by now. I don't for alot of reasons - and one of em is I just won't settle. Until the right lady comes along, i really suggest defocusing on that and instead focusing on building the kind of life that women want to be a part of! Get out, do fun stuff, meet people, cultivate hobbies and interests, volunteer, become expert at something - I don't know, whatever floats your boat but live a great life and great people will want to be a part of it! I am currently dating a man who does not match my physical ideal at all, but he makes me feel wonderful, he has such an interesting life, he is so musically talented and people respect and adore him for it - people are drawn to people who are content, and living a happy, genuine life.

i had a primary care doc for over 10 years that i thought was awesome too. I was wrong. The last straw when i left her was her complete ignorance over the sleeve (she had never heard of it and wouldn't even listen to me describing it). My last appointment with her, she sent me home with a list of cookbooks to try. Clearly, the reason I was obese was because I didnt have access to the right cookbooks... right. Mistie has a great point - my doc had her own "agenda" that really didn't support me. Now, as to you... how old are you? How overweight are you? Have you seriously tried losing weight other ways? You don't need to answer me - but answer yourself. I failed with the lapband so am sadly very familiar with the failure stories. It is devastating beyond belief. Maybe you should try that new drug or whatever, I can't really say. What I can say is that when you have an advanced state of obesity, diets just don't work anymore. You need a tool to get the weight off and maintain it. I also think you need to really really really have tried everything else first - but I know not everyone shares that opnion. I was sleeved in Dec 2011 after pretty much a lifetime of overweight and obesity. I am so glad I did it.

I am a sleever, I have popcorn. however, I haven't understood ANYTHING else about this entire thread...

They extracted 250cc of Fluid from my right no on. Wow - that's alot! My implants are 240cc for a point of reference. I feel good today though. The radiologist was very caring and expressed regret at how long this has taken to get a diagnosis (not his fault at all) and told me he will call me personally Friday afternoon. 3 tests at 2 different labs. #1 for lymphoma. #2 for infections #3 other cancers. Results for infections should be ready Thursday but the important one is for the very rare lymphoma. I decided to not do more research because I have a feeling that this very rare condition isnt good...so why cycle up over it until I have the results. Good news is my boobs match again...Haha. I kinda liked it bigger though.

Yes, but it got better! I would say the first 12 weeks post sleeve i didn't feel great. Alot of this is caused by mild dehydration in those early weeks. By 3-4 months out I felt GREAT!