PEvette

This is just my opinion, but if your doctor is telling you that your AGE is the primary factor here, I would not wait another 12-18 to get surgery and another 12-18 months after surgery to start trying. I realize some people have gotten pregnant early on with their sleeve, but all the literature says at least a year. This is to give you the chance to lose the weight and also to be able to eat a more balanced diet than what you're going to be doing in the early days post-surgery. I don't know how obese you are but many obese women have healthy babies and many thin women have all kinds of problems. Pregnancy is a dice roll. Some things you can do to help alleiviate any problems but you can still have them. If your specialist is telling you now is the time, then now is the time. With pregnancy, it becomes harder and harder to get pregnant and stay pregnant past the age of 40. Personally, I would not wait.
ETA: Also, I would second what was said before. Start doing everything you can to get yourself as healthy as possible: eat regular meals, cut out the junk, cut out the sugar, get some moderate exercise. You can still be on the waiting list for surgery and if you're not pregnant by then, THEN think about it. You have over a year to get started and you might have or be close to having a baby by then.

The difference is the impact. The elliptical machine is low to no impact on your knees and whatnot. With the treadmill, there's much more banging/jostling around. I feel the same way, even when I was 100 lbs lighter, I could feel the difference. You're not crazy

I just got my liquid diet kit to start on Wednesday. It seems like such a small amount of food for two weeks. But I knew this was coming, so I cut out diet cokes, sugar, and caffeine about 2 weeks ago and I've been eating smaller meals. I'm hoping that if I go through the food and caffeine withdrawals now that's one less thing to worry about after surgery.

And I have faced and come to grips with a lot of situations in my life. I found out who my friends really were. I see the true status of my relationships, ALL OF THEM.
I also decided not to pursue nurse anesthesia school. I decided to pursue a PhD in Chemical Engineering. I have had tremendous changes in my personality. Or is it that I now released my self-imposed inhibitions? Down 95lb and lovin' it. This wouldn't have been possible this soon without the Sleeve. I feel like I gave myself an extension on life. One that was never there at 440lb. I have a ways to go but at this point I know it's actually possible to get there. I spent so many years dreaming of a life of health and personal satisfaction but now it's a reality that I can see coming.
I love myself more and it shows in my outward behavior and appearance. I am very excited every day. I look forward to being a PhD and doing something to help advance mankind. This is the destiny I was hoping for. The future once a pipe dream. I am here to make some sort of change to help not just myself.
I thank the following:
Francis W Teng, MD
the members of VST
family and friends that supported me
I now have a vital tool to help regain my path in life....

I am sooo happy!!! Today I weighed myself and I am 198!!!!!!! 32 pounds gone so far!!! Sooo excited!!!!

I told my boss I was having my gallbladder removed. Some people take longer to recover an others. I don't think you have to tell HR what kind of surgery you're having. The doctor does have to complete the FLMA/ short term paperwork. Mine only listed the types of symptoms I was having weight gain, back pain, ... (very generic stuff).
If you do end up saying something to HR they can not tell your boss or anyone else because of HIPAA regulations.

UGH!!! I feel you sister.. I need to get MARRIED!!!! LOL!!! :blush2:

Ive been happy ever since i found the six inches I lost along the road. But since we re-united we have enjoyed sex on a daily basis were as before id rather sleep...my drive has went skyrocket but this life change has got my wife all over me like when we were in our early 20s all over again.

I hear ya! I have been the same way lately! I've been meeting guys I'm interested in and have to seriously control myself so I don't act on impulse. Being single and having these fluctuating hormones is more chllenging than I ever imagined!

I also go to the youtube.com and get high Protein recipes. I tried the pumpkin banana bread High protein and it is totally delicious!. Love it. Will post recipe later.

My first thought is why would you write this here? So your cheating and trying to reverse everything that you have accomplished so far? I think you need to see a counselor. I mean, what do you want anyone from this forum to say to you, that you haven't already heard or know.
There is nothing to say other than you need to see a professional about your problem.

Try the blog World According to Eggface b/c it is SO great for food recipes and ideas!

I love it!

Well, we are here in New Orleans for Mardi Gras and I can tell you this has been a challenge! All this wonderful food and I am still in the mushy stage of my diet! We planned accordinlly for the trip but smelling all the wonderful aromas is tough! Etoufee, jambalya, gumbo and my favorite beignets!
I can have a little of gumbo and etoufee (no rice).
I can remember to was only last year when we ate and drank from the time we got here till the time we left! It is interesting, that what was once the focal point of the day is now something I don't want to think about!
But on a happy note, I had to buy a couple of new pairs of jeans and I was able to tuck in my shirt and wear a belt! I can't remember the last time I wore a belt! Grateful for the little blessings!

I don't know if you worded it poorly, Sabrina - but because someone decided to not tell someone, or a group of people, does not make it an excuse. It most definitely does not make it something they are not proud of. I have many things I am proud of that I do not share indiscriminately with whomever. I hope anyone else reading it does not assume there is a lack of pride in discretion.
I will use the "I" instead of "us" as a group because in this context I speak for myself only.
Below I have a summation of why I decided to tell or not to tell presented to all as food for thought but also I feel we can begin to "know" each other in these posts.
I made a selective decision because I knew that not everyone would be supportive, some would be true malwishers, and some would worry too much.
For those who would not be supportive I did so that we would not immediately have to deal with this, because I can have a short fuse and would be very likely to tell someone to fudge off. I know some people that are in our circles not because we like or dislike them or they us, they are collateral acquaintances. I know some of them would be negative and I know human nature and guarantee there would be people you would not expect that would be negative. I believe in the power of thought and energy, and I also KNOW I have other friends who would either like to have the surgery or want it and (doing what so many do) are making up their minds. Maldoers just spread discontent and I do not want to offer them fuel. I do not want to give them negativity that my friends will have to listen to and ask them to shut up, or be in that awkward state of knowing someone said something and feeling bad they don't relay it (it is better not to relay it, to me anyway). I would dislike others negative comments about my surgery affecting another’s decision to have or not have the surgery. In the end it would affect many more people than just me.
Thirdly is family and friends who would just worry too much. I made an active decision to keep it away from my Mom and Dad and Granny, etc. But my Sister knew immediately. This decision goes into an unexpected area, and not everyone (please dear God no one else) has to deal with. My Mom worries about my Sister and me all the time. We are successful and mature and independent and she will always worry about us. That was my reasoning for my Mom. It changed. I was sleeved on 1/4/12. My Mom, 58 years old unexpectedly passed away in her sleep 1/11/12. If I had told my Mom, I would spend the rest of my life worrying, thinking, praying about the fact that maybe her worries over my surgery added to whatever caused her to pass.
More people know now and I may eventually tell even more. But for now, post-op, I give it little thought.
I also want to be careful around a young family member of mine who already shows signs of an eating disorder - no matter what I say, I am afraid this very young lady will only focus on one of her favorite women (she wrote a paper on me as a successful business woman - geez!) had to cut out her stomach to be skinny. I am very concerned what that might do to her.
I was just unable to lump this into a very black and white area. Not that it can't work. Everyone is different.

I'm so glad someone else knows Robertos. I've been eating refried Beans for dinner since Thursday night. Today for lunch I did make some chicken salad with mayo.
I'll be honest. Mayo is the one food I won't go low fat or non fat on. That's just plain gross. I'd rather not eat food with mayo than go low fat.

Awwww Jaz!!! You are very welcome!!! That was the closest thing to being there physically for you that I could think of!!!! I pray that today begins your healing inside and out... Always remember that there are people hoping, praying and thanking God for you and your recovery!!!!
Keep your head up Sis!!! I believe it's getting better..

we all know favoredone! this is a MUST READ!!!
today i was having a bad day. nearly passed out while shopping and felt so weak & sick & i have a bunch of pain in my chest & back from this stent. i came home & took a nap when my mom came & knocked on my door with a box from proflowers. i was confused by who it mightve been from until reading the beautiful message inside.
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you turned my day right around. you made my nose tingle as tears streamed from my face. i couldnt believe how someone could be so nice to me! im so not used to people doing things for me! it wasso sweet! i neeeded this & i love it. thank you for always being so supportive, loving & caring! it feels great to know i have asister some where out there who is looking out for me!
thank you!
no words can express how i really feel... seriously!
god bless you!
thank you!
i love ya!!!
sleeve sisters<3

I'm a over-worked single mom who has battled weight for my whole life. Four years ago I had LapBand. I wanted the sleeve, but was told it was unavailable. I have been completely dissatisified with the band. It interferes with much of the daily life activities and work demands for me. I hate it. Sad but true, the band doesn't work for everyone. I gave it a good try, but I'm going for a revision to sleeve at almost the exact same weight as I was when I got the band. I know that the sleeve is not a cure-all, but I have my eyes wide open and I'm more positvive than I ever was with the band.
Every person is different and every story is unique. Search your heart, talk to your family, go to classes and read everything on this site. You will find what's right for you and maybe you'll be a thin mentor to another, I wish you well on your journey.

You've lost nearly 100lbs. That is great!
Maybe you might consider trying to let your body and your mind adjust to the changes and not focus on the goal but the journey? Sometimes the brain takes awhile to catch up and you might still be seeing your old self in the mirror because you're so focused on the scale.

hi christina
throughout these 40 years my mom has been a "concerned person" telling me to lose weight. Her comments didn't help. I knew i had to do this for me, be successful in keeping it off for me. i'm sure many of you guys on the board, wndured this too.
I don't know what my DH weighs or his BMI - but he most definitely is obese. I have tried to "mention" in the past that it would be great if he lost a few lbs. get healthier etc. He's not ready to hear that and i bite my tongue shortly because i'm following my moms' footsteps, telling someone that i love to please lose weight.
To answer your initital Q - in my case, yes i do struggle with this problem w/hubby, but you can't convince your DH (or any family member) either til he is ready. He might eventually work it out,,,,or not.
its taken me forever to say the above-sorry

best
kathy

Oy,
As someone who has battled smoking, alcoholism and food addictions, I can honestly tell you NO ONE could MAKE me help myself. As a matter of fact, if my wife tried to, it would have backfired and I would have fought her on it. Just my pig-headed-ness, I suppose.
I'm not saying that you are ...
I hate a nag. If you want to make sure I'm NOT going to do something ... nag me to do it. H3ll would freeze over before I would do it.
For me, to work on my personal issues, I had to hit MY bottom. I think the best thing you can do is be an inspiration. Walk the walk, and don't nag him about it. He will see how your life changes. It will take a spark within him to make the decision. I know you want to light it, but you can't.
As far as I can tell, my wife doesn't battle any addiction issues, and she is a skinny mini, but I would love for her to be more physically fit. I suggest things she can do, but try not to nag her about it. I work out like crazy and talk to her about how great it makes me feel. When she is ready, I'm confident she will join me, but it has to be her decision. Not mine.
This isn't a husband issue, it's a Christina issue.

I will start out by saying my starting weight was 330 I am currently 263. I have bilateral knee replacements. One at the age of 47 the other at 51. Yesterday I walked 1 mile without stopping. I know for some this is not a big deal but I have not been able to walk an uninterrupted mile in about 8 years. Then to boot I was not to sore in the morning I could actually get out of bed!

This always makes me nervous when I fly. I've never had to purchase 2 seats and I've always flown Delta or US Air. I go through a ritual of selecting seats. Some have more leg room. The last time I flew was in August to Los Angeles from NC. My sister and I were traveling together, so we left our shared armrest up to give me more room (she's an average size and doesn't have to worry). But I've flown with strangers and not had a problem with the armrest down. Just wasn't as comfortable.
I have always needed a seatbelt extender. I can't WAIT for that NSV!

I've never had a child before, but why don't you just wait until after you are finished to have it....tummy tucks cost atleast 10K here in the states....why stretch your skin out again after paying 10K to get it cut off??