OH, I am right there with you....I was banded on 10/28 and lost 36 pounds by Thanksgiving. Of course I was on the liquid diet and never varied at all!! I had my first fill on 12/6 and thought it was awesome. For a week I was following the diet plan, exercising, etc. but no weight loss. Then came the holidays and all of the sugary junk I used to eat somehow kept going into my mouth. I called my doctor and have an appointment on 1/4. I am sure they are going to do another fill which mentally is helping me prepare to go at it again. I started exercising again in the past few days and slowly weaning myself all the sugary stuff. One thing I am beginning to accept it that I make wrong choices. I wish I didn't. I wish I was stronger, but I am not. So, with that acceptance I am trying not to beat myself up, get back to doing what I should, and let the chips fall where they may. Everyday that I put a little less in my mouth or make a better choice in food, I feel one step closer to a better me.To be honest, there are many reasons why I am overweight....my genes, my lack of self-control, and my lowered self-esteem. With that combination, nothing is going to be easy and it will always be a struggle. Fortunately, I feel my determination and stubborn streak setting in. We all have our own journeys and I encourage you to think of the situation without it being personal. If this was your friend, what would you tell her? Look at your diet, exercise more, drink more water, take your vitamins! We all know this....now let's do it! Good luck!