BillyBear - My experience is much like yours. I am coming up on my 1 year bandiversary and I've lost a whopping 18 pounds, the majority was lost in the first month.
The only time I felt restriction was right after surgery and ended up having a complete unfill during the healing process. I have had 8 fills since and never again felt restriction. I've been yo-yoing on my food choices, either 110% compliant or as bad as 50/50. Either way the weight does not come off and now I can eat just about anything. I exercise at least 3 times a week of Bikram yoga (which are 90 minute classes of hard core) and play with my family riding bikes, etc.
I'm not happy with my doc either, he's a great surgeon no doubt, but I don't think he's used to people like me. His mantra is "use more calories than you eat and you'll lose weight". Ughhhh, if only it was that simple. I am also looking at getting a second opinion with another practice but still researching reiews and trying to find people in aftercare programs before I make my choice. I want to do the right thing and just don't feel like I can with my surgeon.
I'm very interested in knowing how things go with you and hoping to find support on these boards.
~Amie