MysticstarD

I agree don't base your decision on presure from the site.

Thank you very much!

I can't find the pre op hospital bag listing can someone if you see it post it here. Thank you all for replying.

I wonder what he will do once you start loosing the weight and looking good. My ex husband would harrass me about my weight every day and to this day when I loose a significant amount of weight he inflates his cheeks and put his arms out and waddles to make fun of me and once I gained the weight back he would stop. Your husband sounds like that kind of person, like you are eating sensibly and he will bring a piece of cake and eat it in front of you. Do you have a supportive group of people/ family around you? How long before you can have the surgery. It may not even be worth waiting for surgery day, get financing leave his arse behind. People like that are not worth the time of day. This is just the beginning for him.

What do you suggest taking to the hospital? What kind of clothing for post op?

Puddin You are a strong woman, you do not need a man in a hurry so this guy can see you with one. Ignore him pretend he is not there. Stand on you own 2 feet and be proud that you do not need a man in your life to feel whole. Specially be proud that you have won the weight battle and now you are doing a triathalon(sp). Bask in the glory of that and do not let a stupid man ruin your achievement. DO NOT give him your power. Lossing the amount of weight you have lost in the matter that you have lost it makes you a super woman and you deserve a super man and a super man you are not going to find in any ol' corner the universe is waiting for the right time in both your lives (he could be going thru some rough times and once he is out of that and he can be the best for you he will appear) to unite you two. You may be ready but he may not be. Thank God these guys leave your life before you marry them and then realize the kind of jerks they are. I asked my husband once where were you before I married my ex husband and he said you would have not liked me then. When we were both ready we found eachother and we are very happy. I married my first husband 11 yrs ago at that time my husband was married to his first wife and he was not financially stable, then he married again and started to get his life in order divorce and 1 yr after he divorced we met. I still say go out have fun don't expect anything go with the flow. You are a Goddess enjoy it, love it, live it.

Could you be looking in these guys something you wish you had

How about loving yourself, send your self flowers and write on the card something sweet or join a flower of the month club where you will forget about it and puff there it is with a sweet note to yourself, take yourself to a nice dinner, be ok with being by yourself and don't look for a husband look for a friend, someone that you can be your self, someone you can totally relax with. Are you putting too much of a I am looking for a husband vibe. Men shy away from a "hello my name is ______ and I am looking for a husband" thing. Are you too clingy, jelous, picky. Try dating a not so handsome guy and see what happens.

I was told at my educational class that they don't recommend baby food because it is high in carbs and they want us to stay away from carbs.

Babygotback. I was about to recommend bariatriceating.com also.

At my educational class (it is required at my doctor's) we were given a bag with samples of Protein Drinks and Multivitamins and here is the link www.bariatriceating.com it is all for Protein, foods, you will find a lot of options here. She has a few samples for sale and gift baskets. I really like the site and when it is my turn I will be buying from her.

My doctor charges 14,500$ for the surgery I still have to find out about the pre op stuff.

WOW!!! you look amazing!!!!

Hello, I got a call from my Doctor. I am in Gainesville. My insurance does not cover it. So far I have an appointment for an education seminar and then I will have to pay 200.00$ for a consultation with the doctor. I am on the hunt for a good loan. So far I want to go trough with it. I am looking forward to the class.

I am surprised about the in an out of the doctor. This doctor that I am hoping to have the surgery with has tons of steps before you can have the surgery. I had a packet full of questionaires that I got at the seminar to fill, once they get this packet they will review it and call me with an appointment with the surgeon and I will have to see a psychologist, attend a lap band educational class and meet with a support group of people who have had lap band surgery, I have also done a lot of reading on my own and I am asking myself lots of questions before my final decision to have the surgery. I am leaning towards the yes because I want to fill full after a few bites of food. I don't fry food the only fast food place we go to is Wendy's because I can get salads. I eat healthy but since I don't feel full easily I over eat. This is why I am leaning to have the procedure. Dalia

Say: Forgot about me already? or how about: am your worst nightmare turn into dream. LOL I think at this time you need time for yourself not chasing guys. Get your self a good dildo and enjoy looking but not touching (guys). I don't know. You know what is best for you. I hope everything works out for the better.

is either www.medifast1.com or www.medifast.com

Puddin, have you had a ceremony to say good bye to your old self. May be write a letter saying good bye and mourn your old self. That may help you transition.

I have read and at the seminar on Saturday the doctor said that there is people with the band do better in the long run keeping their weight down than bypass even though in the weight loss with the bypass is faster. Did you get the band thinking it would be a quick and fast fix? I also go to another forum and a lot of the people with the bypass 3 yrs out or more are complaining of weight gain, even the doctor's helper at the seminar, she is 4yrs out and in the past year has gained 25 pounds that she is struggling with. For the lapband people the great thing is the fills you can get a fill and feel full sooner the bypass people once their stomach starts to stretch there is nothing to help them.

My ex husband is a great looking man (of course Knowing him as well as I do he is uglier than heck) anyways I married him 21 days after meeting him and after 7 years and 3 children (2 of which he wanted me to abort) trying to get out of my mariage that was full of emotional, physical, psychological, verbal abuse and cheating. Not all handsome men are like that but I think most are. My husband is handsome. He doesn't attract the same attention as the ex but on the inside he is the most beautiful handsome man on earth. I am really lucky to have him in my life and after what I have been through and still go through with the ex makes me appreciate him all the more. So have fun with the cute ones but be open to the not so cute. I lost 30 with Medifast last year (gained all back then some) and as I was loosing the weight I got scared about who am I going to be once the weight comes off?, will people like me? will my marriage survive the "new me" which is actually the real me that was suppressed by the fat and a few other questions. I wish you strenght in this new journey. Mystic

To bea ble to go to the closet and know whatever I pick will look good and no more; I got to make sure that this is covered and that is not showing. I have not worn shorts or tanktops in ages. Also my 3 girls will be proud of me and they will have a happy mom with a selfesteem through the roof. MysticstarD

Puddin You are amazing. Thank you for being so open. I am so inspired. I will have a breakdown in the doctors office if I am declined for the surgery. I cannot do it w/o it, I have tried so many things. I have been dieting since 9 yrs old and I am 31. As for the ex-boyfriend forget about him, when I met my husband while dating I made sure he saw me naked so he could see what he was getting. It was not easy. He saw me and still loves me and we have been married for 3 years and it has been 4 yrs since he saw me naked. He knows about my weight struggles and all. My ex husband was always making fun of my weight and telling me to loose weight and would not take me anywhere because of my weight. Just like I found someone who loves me for my soul and personality, you will too. Dalia

Oh my!! That is amazing! I hope I am the same way. Dalia

25lbs in 2 weeks! I lost 30 in 6 months. I would use vanilla extract and splenda in my oatmeal also. Dalia

Thank you guys for replying. Dalia