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I'll see If I can find a medical study paper I just read in the last week... showing how changing BMI can predict longevity... the longest lived people are overweight, with their BMI staying the same. The shortest lived are the most obese whos BMI is going up, and the underweight who BMI is going down. (I think that was the order)

Jane, I have not taken prescription drugs for anxiety or depression, but sure have self medicated through the years! Almost everyone else in my family does though. I think about it once in a while... I use nutritional yeast in a glass of water to head off anxiety, and stay away from caffein... coffee for sure, black tea almost all of the time, and even chocolate gets to me in quantity. Depression I mostly use my head, distraction, goals and purpose work helps to some degree. This only works on everything BUT the chemistry... so it works more or less depending. Seeing where my head is early on helps... At least I don't languish in depression for weeks before I realize am there... and the way the world looks to me is because of the filter I have put on it. I am much less yoyo mooded then when I was younger.... May be my hormones are more stable, or maybe its the head work I have done. Only you can decide where your line is.....

Southbeach is a very humane eating style. As a vegetarian, it worked pretty well for me (until it didn't!) Choosing low glycemic index carbs makes such a difference.

I am fasting today as well.. cold turkey is probably best, I have been doing a "lower and lower" plan (because I have been eating the leftovers instead of throwing them out!) so eating small portions until gone.. they are pretty much gone, so I should be pretty good today. Hoping no one at work brings temptation..... I am in for a good fast day though too! Cyber thoughts your way!

I would follow your doc/nuts plan. The weight will slow down and speed up over time. A few slow weeks don't really merit a major overhaul of eating style. Stick with real food if you can, and use the drinks and bars to supplement your protein if you need to. Eating lots of bars and drinks tend to make your diet more "sweet" and that can lead to the desire for more sweet, even if its not sugar.... Sounds like you are doing well. Just keep it up!

HI Mac, I would recommend you go to your regular health care professional for advice... they might be able to point you in the right direction, best of luck to you on your weight loss journey!

I would like to get my bounce range down around 4 more pounds... I managed to wind up at the top of my goal bounce range at Christmas... was a little higher than that a few days... So pretty happy all in all. I did make lots of carb yummies choices, and even though I managed to stay at goal, have carb cravings now... I have been cutting back a little bit more each day... not cold turkey... Fasting tomorrow... that should help.

Definitely go. Let them be there for you. I make unhealthy choices now and then, I write them down in MFP and keep on going. Sometimes its harder than others. Part of changing our habits is by changing them! If you just hid out in the past, and felt sad, now you can come forward and do the best you can to make it right. Thats all we can do as human beings. Its great that you admitted where you were coming from here, thats great!

You have done really well. It takes time to get where you want to go and there will be stalls along the way. At least there were for me. I took 3 years to lose 91 pounds and get to goal. Now THAT is a slow loser. I bet you get it off faster than I did! I have to say though, 3 years is not too long to get the weight off. Off is off and thats were I want it to be however long it took! My doc said 10 pounds a month is normal. Just keep up the good work and your body will take care of the rest.

You sound like someone that doesn't know how to do for yourself! Nows the time. I don't know how old your family is, but maybe you can sit them down and ask them to help mommy out. You really need to heal... and that takes time. It may drive you nuts, I know it did me, I was out of work for 6 weeks, because I wasn't cleared to lift anything over 10 pounds for 6 weeks! I was begging to go back to work at 4 weeks.... Seriously, you do not want to pull your stitches and have to go back to the hospital! Sit down and catch up on some TV or read that giant book you have been meaning to do for so long! Needlepoint for next christmas? Now is the time. Feet up, giant class of Water.... a Protein drink by your side, YOU CAN DO IT! The time will be over before you know it.

I know just how you feel!

I noticed the small serving size too...

Dr Alli in Sacramento at UC Davis Med Center.

...theres always the thrift store to set up that photo with the right gear!

You may not have to make many changes, but just being aware of the cals can really help... it might just be a serving size change... and the two days of "fasting" is not giving up that much, there is always tomorrow to have your normal "go to"

Interesting. Do you think that's his way of food policing ? Nope, I think that he looks at it as seconds without effort....He has always been very careful to make sure the kids had enough to eat..He would leave a piece of steak a lone just in case my 6'8" son might need it....It is a new thing for him to see food like this... I think that he feels that I am not going to eat it anyway so get it while it's hot sorta thinking.....He has asked me to order normal portions and take the rest home for his lunch the next day...Well that has only happened a few times.... When I take half home, it is understood it is for ME unless I pass it on. Thats not to say there isn't a lot of begging going on, and even some anger that I am holding on to "my" food selfishly. Honestly, I have to hide some food or it would be gone in an instant. I like having my tablespoon of chocolate chips and dried cherries in the evening... if he finds them the whole bag is gone in a flash... that is after he already ate the two bags I bought for him..... Really, I think he needs to pay for the food (I pay for it now) He would be shocked at how much "luxury" food he chows down on like its Beans on toast! I know how people have a tendency to see a magnified view of partners eating vast quantities of food after we get the surgery (the same amount we ate earlier!)....it is kind of revolting at times.... mindless....

^^^ this is a joke....right? I just reached goal at 3 years! I am a vegatarian, and sooo love veggies. I know early on there isn't much room for them, and sometimes the tummy says NO!! to some of them. I couldn't eat raw for months... What I did, and still do, is make a big pot of veggie Soup, and eat away. It slides right down, so does not fill you up for long, you get in your veggies, tastes good, good for you and if made right is low cal. Also counts towards your water! I also love stir fries, steamed and other veggie preparations, added with veggie Proteins.

Those stalls are a pain! It looks like you will see onederland in the new year! Keep up the good work.

Oh Florinda, that is so sad! Sorry you are having to go through this at this time of year... Oh my gosh... another deep breath... Sending love. Sheila, its hard when the place is full of family and food! Get thee toffee to the freezer! So sorry about your kitty kid, My little photobomb Sukie is 15 and getting frail, bad liver, getting blind and deaf. She still enjoys life, I can still see that tiny tail stump going a thousand miles an hour. The vet is taking it easy on her, she has lumps and bumps everywhere, but we have decided no surgery or going under for any procedures... I wish it was different, but its not. Frail parents and family members, frail pup...the Buddhists say "Life is suffering" so don't be so surprised, but I go kicking and crying (and eating) all the way....I don't like that truth one bit, but I do believe it. This is not to say there is no bliss, because I believe that too. The Buddhists also say that the suffering and the bliss are of the same taste when you reach an advanced state of practice.... I do not practice enough! Wishing the best for you all... of course.

So, I've been looking up various foods I typically eat to get the caloric / health label information because I tend to remove as much excess packaging on things after I come home from the store to conserve on space in the fridge so looking up is my only option right now until I can make it back to the store to look at these items myself. I'm guessing I'm going to have to change my choice of butter, or at least make sure its the lowest I can buy. I'm not sure I can handle that butter spray even though its zero calories. Then, I got to thinking about what I drink everyday which is diet pepsi cherry flavor. I drink that like many drink coffee. Yes, I know there is lots of debate about whether we (those who have had WLS) should be drinking that- not going there, I don't believe it triggers anything for me. My issues are stress and properly managing it w/out using food aka carbs/ comfort foods. I would like to hear from anyone who does drink diet sodas and is on this plan and what their experiences have been. I am going to TRY to drink more water, but that will just have to be a work in progress thing. -------------- I drink a Hansons diet ginger ale maybe once a month. I never have been a great soda lover... lucky for me! Anyway, I support you in taking a look at your diet! If you use MFP you can look up the things you eat and find matches with all the details that add up your day. Its pretty fast. You can go generic If you don't remember the brand for an idea of what your consuming. There is a phone app as well, and once you eat something, its most likely on your regular list for that time of day and you can re-choose it.

I know the definition has been a bit of a moving target, but there is a reason for it. You really do have different questions and answers further out... I mean, really you could make a case for having a 5 year out only forum... but with the sleeve, it would be mostly empty! I love hearing what people have to say about being far out from surgery... thats where we are all heading after all... a place where the concerns are past mushies, slow losers and feeling like you have lost those 30 pounds forever ...when you haven't even gotten to the 3 year mark yet where statistically the most regain happens. Its hard to imagine ever feeling hungry again or eating more than 1/4 cup of food early out. Its nice to have a place where that is just not in the mix. Most of the vets reach out and answer questions in other parts of the forum, and the Vets section is open for reading. I would have loved to have a vets only forum to read early out... pure gold! I could see one thread with "ask a vet" as the title, with the understanding that the vets would not be interested in answering questions that are not really about vets experiences.

I have a pain that is sometimes on the left under the ribs, and then somtimes under the right, my regular doc said she thought it was just an adhesion. I only feel it when I am sitting on the couch... slouching. If I stretch it out, the pain goes away. I am at 3 years....

Save a pair of the biggest pants you have. You will want to take a pic stuffed into ONE leg for the Big Pants thread here after you lose all your excess weight! http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/266039-big-pants/

UK RNY, let us know how your next checkup is... and best of luck to you.

If your doc approves it, and you chew it super well, seems like it will be ok! Enjoy! Some like to add a little mayo or broth to meat early on, to make sure it is very moist.