Friendly Observation part 1 of 2

I was reading a thread the other day that disturbed me. It wasn't the topic but rather how members interacted. I will not mention the topic or any names as I am not trying to put anyone in their place or offend. Here is what happened.

A rather serious question was asked and a response was given by one member that was not glowing of the band. This member was then "attacked" by others demanding to know why they feel that way and questioning their motives for making such a post. Things went back and forth and it was such a negative downward spiral that the initial question by the poster was basically ignored and the offending member declaring that they will not be returning to the site.

That was not the first time I had seen something like this in a thread. It really bothers me to see this happening over and over again.

I have had a very positive experience with my band and will shout its praises to anyone who will listen. I do realize that unfortunately others will not have the same great results as myself and will have a negative view to share. Nothing works for everyone.

I also realized that some people bring their issues upon themselves and it is great when they acknowledge this when posting something negative. When they do not "fess up" that does not mean we should make them. Or accuse them of having ulterior motives. What purpose does this serve other than to shoot the person down.

People should hear about others experiences whether positive or negative. I think and know on this site you will find way more positive reviews and information for those seeking it. If negative views are given we should leave it up to the person asking the question what to do with it. If they are concerned then they will ask more questions to get clarification. Either on the site or of their doctor.

continued in part 2

I saw your picks so read you blogs.. good points, and congrats on your success. I loved the part about sticking with the yoga, it is a great accomplishment. I haven't been banded yet, but am encouraged by the positive post too. I seem to get more negative responses from my personal interactions and need to hear the better side here. I was very skeptical at first because one of my first posts I stated how hard I had tried with dieting and calorie counting and was replied with "this isn't going to work for you if your not losing by cutting calories,, or some such response... I felt I had to defend myself and replied with something stupid (not mean) and embarrassed myself when I should have ignored the comment. My reasons for lapband are not just about what it says on the scale, but about my health in general..

Thanks for the posts, and best wishes to you

The key is staying positive and doing what is best for you. The truth is that no one is an expert and can only tell you what they think. If you feel that this is the right choice for you then go for it. Congrats and feel free to ask me any questions as you progress.