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Surgery cancelled as I lay on the bed!

I'm pretty bummed right now. :thumbup:

 

I went in for my surgery today and I was told my doctor was running an hour late (it ended up being closer to TWO hours late)and during the wait I was talking to

anesthesiologist and I mentioned how I had to be intibated while still away for my last surgery. He seemed surprised but nothing too bad. My IV's were in place, I'd been given the shot in my belly for blood clots and the anethesiolgist gave me one to "dry up mucus"...I'm still feeling that one.

 

I guess the intibation thing was a big deal because before it was all over with I was give a choice by the doctors...either have it done at the surgery center and take a risk of something going wrong and then have to pay for the ambulance ride PLUS hospital expenses out of pocket (I'm self pay) OR wait and reschedule for a hosiptal surgery where they will have the special equipment but it will costs about $1,500 more.

 

What was I to do ? I knew that to cover his butt the anesthesiologist was going to have me transported to check for swelling or tears in my throat and I can't afford that.

 

As we left the two doctors came running out after us and said they had set my surgery for Wednesday at noon.

 

Now...my husband is telling me we just need to wait a year because maybe insurance will cover it. Not MY insurance, I've been told that. I've told HIM that. So now not only am I dealing with the surgery being cancelled as I'm about to be wheeled in, but now my husband is acting like he's mad at ME and now he doesn't want me to have it.

 

No one can go through this surgery without the support of a loved one. Now I don't have that so I probably will not have the surgery.

 

All I can do is cry.:crying:

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afw

LAP-BAND Patients

That is heartbreaking!!! What an emotional rollercoaster for you! Please don't let your husband talk you out of it. If you decide to wait because *you* choose to, then that's one thing, but if you know this is the right thing for you, stick to it and be there at noon on Wednesday! If you can survive all of this, living with the band is going to be a cakewalk. Please come back and let us know what you're going to do!

lotzasunshine

LAP-BAND Patients

Don't stop now!!! It may cost a little more, and your husband is probably just worried. You have come this far, you can get through it!!! Don't let this set-back stop you!!!

Bjornsyouruncle

LAP-BAND Patients

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Take a little time to get over your disappointment and talk to your husband. It could be that he feels like it was canceled for a reason and now he's hesitant to push forward with it.

julier

LAP-BAND Patients

Lapband surgery was the best decision i have every made in my life! I was 48 and tried everything and spent thousands and thousands on failed attempts. I went aug of 2006 to Mexico and had the most wonderful experience ever in any hospital... It went perfect and so has my lapband weight loss. I will be at two year aniversary in two months and am within 10lbs from goal.. I believe this is the only thing that works. It is if you are a quantity eater an answer to your prayers. You have no choice to loose and your most often not hungry and when you are it really is funny how little you can eat and survive and be full. I eat 1/4 of anyone else at the table and it takes me on average 45 min. Don't give up years of your life by being heavy. Do this thing! I have never been happier, healthier and confident about myself.....(<:

thewired1

LAP-BAND Patients

My husband was scared and mentioned me canceling the surgery. He even mentioned that I could cancel it while we were waiting to be taken to the holding room pre-surgery! It's so hard on them to watch us get all worked up and then hurt. It hurts them to see us in pain. And since most men are 'fixers' and there's nothing here that they can 'fix', they try to help by avoidance.

I went through with my procedure. My hubby has been right by my side for just about everything post-surgery and your hubby will too. He's just having a momentary freak-out.

BanTam

LAP-BAND Patients

Thank you everyone. Your words of encouragement are wonderful.

I found out today that to move my surgery to the hospital with my complications was going to be cost prohibitative.

I'm going to try to stick to the diet I've been on for the last two weeks...I've lost 14 pounds doing that. And I've told my husband he has been hired as my new trainer and MY workouts take priority over his!! :thumbup: But if this does not work then I will plan to have the surgery next year.

This site is AWESOME and I'll come back again and again for helpful hints.

Take care.

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