Missy 1 - First timer

With all the people out there who have joined I could use some helpful information. I started in late December 2007 with an interest in the lapband. I went through all the support groups, tried to lose my 5%, went through all the doctor visits. and now after 5 months they say I do not qualify because I am a 39 BMI. I was heart broken and felt this was my only chance. I asked the people in the office, then you are telling me I need to gain 10 lbs so I can be 40 BMI and they are saying no we dont want you to do that. I feel that I have wasted 5 months of my time, done everything they asked and now feel they have pulled the rug out from under me. Would like some helpful suggestions on what I can do. I am getting totally depressed again.