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Inspiration or Agitation: My Friends Respond to Weight Loss

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Inspiration or Agitation


I have always been a leader. Growing up, I could get people to do what I would NEVER even try! Influence is an amazing that gift. If channeled correctly, it is powerful. Well as the pounds fall off, I am realizing that all my skinny friends seem a little scared! They claim I have inspired them to lose weight, but I think the thought of me being smaller than them is frightening! Now, in the back of my mind, I want to believe that I am an inspiration, but I must admit I am slightly agitated.


Let me explain … By no means do I think I have cornered the market on weight loss, but I have been the fattest one in my circle of friends FOREVER! Now, when I start losing weight everyone wants to get smaller! Are you really wanting to lose weight or can you simply not imagine me thinner than you? This is the questions I will not allow to part my lips! This would be rude, wouldn’t it?


So, today my agitation was challenged. My childhood friend calls to see how I am doing. Mind you, this is the same friend who claimed she would never speak to me again if I had weight loss surgery. I guess she got over it huh? Anyway, I explain I have lost 40 pounds in 6 weeks and can’t eat very much.


She has always been much smaller than me, but has recently gained some weight. Even at her heaviest, she has never been as big as I was. She goes on this tangent about how she needs to loose weight and can’t believe she is 241 pounds. I say “Girl. I am down to 242.” There is silence on the other end of the phone. I can hear her heart stop beating. She finally says “You and I weigh the same now?” I reply, “I guess so.” She frantically says, “Give me your doctor’s number. I gotta do something about this fat!”


Now, allow me to pause for a moment. I am not selfish. I don’t mind my friend getting healthy, but why does it have to be because you realized that you and I weigh the same. It scared the pooh out of her to realize that in a few days, we would switch roles. She would be the fat friend and I would be the “not so fat friend”! Needless to say, I was agitated!


Then, I calmed down and realized that part of why I had this surgery was to inspire others to take control of their health (and so I could wear a swimsuit in public). I was reminded of how I have always been able to motivate others to strive for greatness (or foolishness-depending on the occasion). This is no different. I gave my friend my doctor’s number and even offered to go with her to her first visit. My agitation had now turned into inspiration.


So to my friends I say, thank you for your support! I am elated that I could be the wind beneath your wings, the flame that ignites your fire, the catalyst for change you so badly needed.




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I love this! I have two daughters-in-law that are obese. One is very active and outgoing, the other is a miserable recluse. I mean, she NEVER leaves her house--my son does all the shopping, etc. I am so sad for her, but talking to her at this time would not be helpful but hurtful. When I have gotten down to a normal weight, I hope to convince her to explore having the sleeve for herself. My son agrees with me that by then she will see that it worked for me, so it will work for her. I would even pay for it if she could only be happy again.

You ARE an inspiration! Thank you for this post.

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You are an inspiration and I think the way you handled your friend was priceless. What I would say though is your friend definitely has to go into this because she wants to be healthier and not because she wants to be smaller than Natalie. Just seing the changes in you are proof that something is working. I can relate because I had one of my "lunch bunch" friends ask me for a "copy of my diet" when I told her I wasn't on a diet and that a part of my recovery from the sleeve surgery was to eat healthier and to learn how to eat all over again she didn't seem to get it that this is not a quick fix, but a LIFESTYLE change. I'm down 18.3 pounds since January 3, 2011, and even though I still wear my same clothes as I did before people are beginning to comment about me "looking smaller" to which I respond, "I feel better". This is definitely a process. Thank you for continuing to share your journey. I finally posted a BLOG about my surgery experience which for some reason was very emotional for me. Never the less, I am strong, I am woman. God bless!

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@Seniorsleever- Thanks for stopping by to read my blog. I love to write! I pray that you and your son can get through to his wife. Sounds like an intervention may be needed. I will be praying for her and that you will be her inspiration.

@punkin7 - Thanks!

@Prolific T - Congrats on your progress! You are doing great! Another one of my friends pointed out that when we lose weight, it is an adjustment for all those around us. I guess this comes along with the journey! I will check out your blog. Keep in touch!

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Thank you for writing in about this, You are an inspiration to me. I have started the process of for wls preferably VSG. Yes, people do start to act different when you lose weight and get smaller or as small as them. Be blessed, and continue to do great things.

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